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]]> By: tom http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/02/12/the-dangers-of-personal-development-addiction/comment-page-1/#comment-21651 tom Thu, 01 Nov 2007 21:53:02 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2007/02/12/the-dangers-of-personal-development-addiction/#comment-21651 Oh Dear Firstly I like your site and the general vibe a sort of roadside services for ex seeekers. The penny has dropped reading the comments .. I have had drug, gambling and sex addcitions for the last 20 years. Last year when I hurt my back I got addicted to painkillers. I have been clean all year. Recovered from depression twice using self improvement techniques. I am a personal development coach. I split up with my girlfriend and my career nose dived. This gave me time to follow my heart and learn about myself. After the savings ran out I kept spending on seminars. Unfortunately I have bought into the idea that I need something to complete me. I lost my confidence a while back. Recently I have been exploring more esoteric spiritual even angelic avenues. I have learned some amazing things about me and the universe. But still it is not enough. So heres the thing. I love the scene. I have many friends but they have stopped and found niches. I havent Im still seeking. I go to free seminars but they are never free for me. I nearly always sign up. I know i dont need it but theres a voice that says it would be great, it could be just the thing. I have spent about £14000 on seminars and self help stuff. I am not working cos im always adjusting to the last seminar. I actually feel like Im going to miss out on something its akin to panic. Like tomorrow theres a photo reading course for 600 quid. My thoughts go like this .. Id love to do that What if it doesnt work Its a lot of money If i dont do it maybe ive missed my chance I wish i could just decide Whats wrong my intuition says nothing. Im confused Not going is painful and going is financially painful. Not knowing is awful It could have been the best ever He was a nice guy Why does this always happen Times 100 loop all day or week. Either i do it or I dont and i dont feel satisfied either way. Its nice to share without feeling like a loser. any advice oh wise one Oh Dear

Firstly I like your site and the general vibe
a sort of roadside services for ex seeekers.

The penny has dropped reading the comments ..

I have had drug, gambling and sex addcitions for the last 20 years.
Last year when I hurt my back I got addicted to painkillers.

I have been clean all year. Recovered from depression twice using self improvement techniques. I am a personal development coach.

I split up with my girlfriend and my career nose dived. This gave me time to follow my heart and learn about myself. After the savings ran out I kept spending on seminars.

Unfortunately I have bought into the idea that I need something to complete me. I lost my confidence a while back.

Recently I have been exploring more esoteric spiritual even angelic avenues.
I have learned some amazing things about me and the universe. But still it is not enough.

So heres the thing. I love the scene. I have many friends but they have stopped and found niches. I havent Im still seeking.

I go to free seminars but they are never free for me. I nearly always sign up. I know i dont need it but theres a voice that says it would be great, it could be just the thing.

I have spent about £14000 on seminars and self help stuff. I am not working cos im always adjusting to the last seminar.

I actually feel like Im going to miss out on something its akin to panic. Like tomorrow theres a photo reading course for 600 quid.

My thoughts go like this ..

Id love to do that
What if it doesnt work
Its a lot of money
If i dont do it maybe ive missed my chance
I wish i could just decide
Whats wrong my intuition says nothing.
Im confused
Not going is painful
and going is financially painful.
Not knowing is awful
It could have been the best ever
He was a nice guy
Why does this always happen

Times 100 loop all day or week.

Either i do it or I dont
and i dont feel satisfied either way.

Its nice to share without feeling like a loser.
any advice oh wise one

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]]> By: Alex Shalman http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/02/12/the-dangers-of-personal-development-addiction/comment-page-1/#comment-19520 Alex Shalman Sat, 29 Sep 2007 12:09:43 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2007/02/12/the-dangers-of-personal-development-addiction/#comment-19520 Thanks Ev... When did I become wise? I believe it was on December 13 2002, after a car accident. I woke up with outrageous mathematical skills, and wisdom ;) Thanks for stopping by Ev1 Thanks Ev…

When did I become wise? I believe it was on December 13 2002, after a car accident. I woke up with outrageous mathematical skills, and wisdom ;)

Thanks for stopping by Ev1

]]> By: Ev Nucci http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/02/12/the-dangers-of-personal-development-addiction/comment-page-1/#comment-19517 Ev Nucci Sat, 29 Sep 2007 11:52:09 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2007/02/12/the-dangers-of-personal-development-addiction/#comment-19517 Wow, this is a brilliant post!~ I am duly impressed. How did you get so wise Alex? That it's not outward...inward. And eating, smoking and drinking is related to other pain? You had to have meditated before you wrote this post...because the universe was speaking to you my friend! Wow, this is a brilliant post!~ I am duly impressed.

How did you get so wise Alex? That it’s not outward…inward. And eating, smoking and drinking is related to other pain?

You had to have meditated before you wrote this post…because the universe was speaking to you my friend!

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]]> By: Alex Shalman http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/02/12/the-dangers-of-personal-development-addiction/comment-page-1/#comment-687 Alex Shalman Wed, 28 Mar 2007 00:34:30 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2007/02/12/the-dangers-of-personal-development-addiction/#comment-687 It's okay to stock up the shelf Jessica, now you have a good reserve to chip away at. My cousin, amazing guy, used to ask me "you know what you see when you walk into a rich man's home?" do you? "a library". Keep reading, keep learning... such is life. It’s okay to stock up the shelf Jessica, now you have a good reserve to chip away at. My cousin, amazing guy, used to ask me “you know what you see when you walk into a rich man’s home?” do you? “a library”.

Keep reading, keep learning… such is life.

]]> By: Jessica Duquette http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/02/12/the-dangers-of-personal-development-addiction/comment-page-1/#comment-686 Jessica Duquette Tue, 27 Mar 2007 23:57:15 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2007/02/12/the-dangers-of-personal-development-addiction/#comment-686 thanks, Alex, great stuff, being a (former?) SHELF-help junkie, myself (you know what I mean, you buy the books and the CDs and the DVDs and then they remain on the shelf!), it feels great to commit myself to self-acceptance. I am a groovy chick just how I am now, extra pounds, little eensy-weensy neuroses that rear their ugly heads at inappropriate moments, inexplicable mood swings (what? menopause? Who me?), a new-found and insistant attitude that I don't give a bleep about most of the things that would have kept me up at night in the past. It's liberating! It's fabulous! It's FUN. Ok, I still do a little bit of seeking from time to time, and I am glad that I do, unpeeling the onion never ceases to fascinate me, that I can always go deeper, learn more, surprise myself with my self-imposed limits and my ability to release myself from them. I guess the difference is in the desperation that I used to have. Now, it is a pleasure, a couragous adventure, not a substitute for action. thanks for doing what you do! warmly, Jessica from It's Not About Your Stuff thanks, Alex, great stuff, being a (former?) SHELF-help junkie, myself (you know what I mean, you buy the books and the CDs and the DVDs and then they remain on the shelf!), it feels great to commit myself to self-acceptance.

I am a groovy chick just how I am now, extra pounds, little eensy-weensy neuroses that rear their ugly heads at inappropriate moments, inexplicable mood swings (what? menopause? Who me?), a new-found and insistant attitude that I don’t give a bleep about most of the things that would have kept me up at night in the past. It’s liberating! It’s fabulous! It’s FUN.

Ok, I still do a little bit of seeking from time to time, and I am glad that I do, unpeeling the onion never ceases to fascinate me, that I can always go deeper, learn more, surprise myself with my self-imposed limits and my ability to release myself from them.

I guess the difference is in the desperation that I used to have. Now, it is a pleasure, a couragous adventure, not a substitute for action.

thanks for doing what you do!

warmly,

Jessica from It’s Not About Your Stuff

]]> By: Alex Shalman http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/02/12/the-dangers-of-personal-development-addiction/comment-page-1/#comment-566 Alex Shalman Mon, 26 Mar 2007 04:15:50 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2007/02/12/the-dangers-of-personal-development-addiction/#comment-566 Wonderful insights Kara-Leah, welcome to the site, hope your enjoy your stay. Wonderful insights Kara-Leah, welcome to the site, hope your enjoy your stay.

]]> By: Kara-Leah Masina http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/02/12/the-dangers-of-personal-development-addiction/comment-page-1/#comment-561 Kara-Leah Masina Mon, 26 Mar 2007 02:27:35 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2007/02/12/the-dangers-of-personal-development-addiction/#comment-561 I've been there... in fact, sometimes I'm still there... spending way too much time reading about personal development rather than just DOING personal development. We all know, intuitively, deep inside us, exactly what to do in each and every moment in order to unlock our potential. It's just that we haven't spent enough time paying attention to our Authentic Selves to be able to distinguish their voice from all the other voices that crowd our minds... like the voice of Should and the voice of Fear and the voice of Want. We don't need any personal development really... we just need to listen to our internal guidance, and then we know what to do... But that said, when used rather than abused, personal development literature can be very inspiring... and sometimes it's exactly the external confirmation we need so we can act on the internal guidance we've already received. Much joy, Kara-Leah I’ve been there… in fact, sometimes I’m still there… spending way too much time reading about personal development rather than just DOING personal development.

We all know, intuitively, deep inside us, exactly what to do in each and every moment in order to unlock our potential. It’s just that we haven’t spent enough time paying attention to our Authentic Selves to be able to distinguish their voice from all the other voices that crowd our minds… like the voice of Should and the voice of Fear and the voice of Want.

We don’t need any personal development really… we just need to listen to our internal guidance, and then we know what to do…

But that said, when used rather than abused, personal development literature can be very inspiring… and sometimes it’s exactly the external confirmation we need so we can act on the internal guidance we’ve already received.

Much joy,
Kara-Leah

]]> By: Alex Shalman http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/02/12/the-dangers-of-personal-development-addiction/comment-page-1/#comment-246 Alex Shalman Sat, 10 Mar 2007 22:08:26 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2007/02/12/the-dangers-of-personal-development-addiction/#comment-246 Bradley, thanks for the comments. My opinion - personal development books [i]can[/i] be used to lift your spirit, but this sense of motivation is only one small part of it. I read PD books strictly to gain knowledge - I read other types of books strictly for entertainment. Thanks for bringing up a good point. Bradley, thanks for the comments. My opinion – personal development books [i]can[/i] be used to lift your spirit, but this sense of motivation is only one small part of it. I read PD books strictly to gain knowledge – I read other types of books strictly for entertainment.

Thanks for bringing up a good point.

]]> By: Bradley Woods http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/02/12/the-dangers-of-personal-development-addiction/comment-page-1/#comment-245 Bradley Woods Sat, 10 Mar 2007 21:53:20 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2007/02/12/the-dangers-of-personal-development-addiction/#comment-245 I like reading personal development books because they keep me focused on my goals in a positive sense. Keeping a positive attitude consistently can be tough and these books really do help. I like reading personal development books because they keep me focused on my goals in a positive sense. Keeping a positive attitude consistently can be tough and these books really do help.

]]> By: Bradley Woods http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/02/12/the-dangers-of-personal-development-addiction/comment-page-1/#comment-244 Bradley Woods Sat, 10 Mar 2007 21:51:35 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2007/02/12/the-dangers-of-personal-development-addiction/#comment-244 A self development course can only be guide. People start having problems when they expect some system to change them overnight. Change comes from taking control of your thoughts and directing towards your goals on a consistent basis. All you need to succeed is the will to succeed and a library card. My own two cents. A self development course can only be guide. People start having problems when they expect some system to change them overnight. Change comes from taking control of your thoughts and directing towards your goals on a consistent basis. All you need to succeed is the will to succeed and a library card. My own two cents.

]]> By: Alex Shalman http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/02/12/the-dangers-of-personal-development-addiction/comment-page-1/#comment-243 Alex Shalman Sat, 10 Mar 2007 21:49:19 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2007/02/12/the-dangers-of-personal-development-addiction/#comment-243 That's the only way Wendy. Now that you know, what are you going to do with this new found knowledge? That’s the only way Wendy. Now that you know, what are you going to do with this new found knowledge?

]]> By: Wendy Piersall http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/02/12/the-dangers-of-personal-development-addiction/comment-page-1/#comment-242 Wendy Piersall Sat, 10 Mar 2007 21:09:54 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2007/02/12/the-dangers-of-personal-development-addiction/#comment-242 Ah - so I have to keep on commenting in order to get you on my good side, eh? I thought I was already there based on the <i>22</i> comments you've made on MY blog... But I guess you must be a hard guy to please, eh? Never enough for you, eh?! Never happy, HUH?! ;) Ah – so I have to keep on commenting in order to get you on my good side, eh? I thought I was already there based on the 22 comments you’ve made on MY blog…

But I guess you must be a hard guy to please, eh? Never enough for you, eh?! Never happy, HUH?!

;)

]]> By: Alex Shalman http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/02/12/the-dangers-of-personal-development-addiction/comment-page-1/#comment-225 Alex Shalman Fri, 09 Mar 2007 14:47:14 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2007/02/12/the-dangers-of-personal-development-addiction/#comment-225 Woah, Wendy... being zen is one thing, but talking about the next "high" on a family centered medium? The only way you're going to win my affection is by getting into the Top Commentators, and it's going to take a little more effort. Thanks for visiting, I'm glad you enjoyed the article. Woah, Wendy… being zen is one thing, but talking about the next “high” on a family centered medium? The only way you’re going to win my affection is by getting into the Top Commentators, and it’s going to take a little more effort.

Thanks for visiting, I’m glad you enjoyed the article.

]]> By: Wendy Piersall http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/02/12/the-dangers-of-personal-development-addiction/comment-page-1/#comment-220 Wendy Piersall Fri, 09 Mar 2007 01:18:30 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2007/02/12/the-dangers-of-personal-development-addiction/#comment-220 This is a really great post. I've definitely been there, seeking the next high, and feeling like everyday life wasn't quite right if I wasn't exhilarated. I read another post on a similar topic and everything clicked. Now, life is good whether it feels high or feels low - it all just <i>is</I>. That's a very zen statement, eh? ;) This is a really great post. I’ve definitely been there, seeking the next high, and feeling like everyday life wasn’t quite right if I wasn’t exhilarated. I read another post on a similar topic and everything clicked.

Now, life is good whether it feels high or feels low – it all just is.

That’s a very zen statement, eh? ;)

]]> By: Personal development overload? » InsiderWeblog.com » Blog Archive http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/02/12/the-dangers-of-personal-development-addiction/comment-page-1/#comment-74 Personal development overload? » InsiderWeblog.com » Blog Archive Fri, 23 Feb 2007 14:19:35 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2007/02/12/the-dangers-of-personal-development-addiction/#comment-74 [...] I’m writing this post, largely inspired by fellow blogger Alex Shalman? who wrote a piece on the dangers of Self development addiction. I found? theobservations made to be very relevant and urgent. Internet is literally overflowing with blogs and sites on various personal development themes. All these self appointed gurus (including myself) are writing lengthy articles on their theories, day after day, flooding the ‘market’ with material of highly variable quality. [...] [...] I’m writing this post, largely inspired by fellow blogger Alex Shalman? who wrote a piece on the dangers of Self development addiction. I found? theobservations made to be very relevant and urgent. Internet is literally overflowing with blogs and sites on various personal development themes. All these self appointed gurus (including myself) are writing lengthy articles on their theories, day after day, flooding the ‘market’ with material of highly variable quality. [...]

]]> By: Alex Shalman http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/02/12/the-dangers-of-personal-development-addiction/comment-page-1/#comment-36 Alex Shalman Tue, 13 Feb 2007 03:21:43 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2007/02/12/the-dangers-of-personal-development-addiction/#comment-36 Btw, my readers should know... this post was in part inspired by my research. I've looked at over 50 personal development blogs in the past few days in order to do research for my own blog, find some juicy articles for you guys, and get ideas of what not to do so that I could stay original. Leave the searching to me and let this be your one stop source =) Btw, my readers should know… this post was in part inspired by my research. I’ve looked at over 50 personal development blogs in the past few days in order to do research for my own blog, find some juicy articles for you guys, and get ideas of what not to do so that I could stay original. Leave the searching to me and let this be your one stop source =)

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