Comments on: Why Looking Bad Looks Good http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/04/05/why-looking-bad-looks-good/ Practical Personal Development Sat, 31 Jul 2010 01:57:16 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: 25 Timeless Stress Reduction Tricks | Alex Shalman . com http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/04/05/why-looking-bad-looks-good/comment-page-1/#comment-15292 25 Timeless Stress Reduction Tricks | Alex Shalman . com Mon, 13 Aug 2007 16:36:15 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2007/04/05/why-looking-bad-looks-good/#comment-15292 [...] 6. Don’t Be Perfect. Trying to uphold the image of perfection can be highly stressful. Embrace yourself for what you are, and believe that looking bad looks good. [...] [...] 6. Don’t Be Perfect. Trying to uphold the image of perfection can be highly stressful. Embrace yourself for what you are, and believe that looking bad looks good. [...]

]]> By: Carolyn Manning http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/04/05/why-looking-bad-looks-good/comment-page-1/#comment-2178 Carolyn Manning Sat, 14 Apr 2007 16:49:05 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2007/04/05/why-looking-bad-looks-good/#comment-2178 Alex, it's not a bad idea to use the "fake it/make it" philosophy. Change needs to start somewhere. I forget how many days it takes to change a habit; don't we fake it during those days? By the way, we all have a little bit of the bad; it's part of our individual charm? Alex, it’s not a bad idea to use the “fake it/make it” philosophy. Change needs to start somewhere.

I forget how many days it takes to change a habit; don’t we fake it during those days?

By the way, we all have a little bit of the bad; it’s part of our individual charm?

]]> By: Alex Shalman http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/04/05/why-looking-bad-looks-good/comment-page-1/#comment-1458 Alex Shalman Fri, 06 Apr 2007 02:52:25 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2007/04/05/why-looking-bad-looks-good/#comment-1458 That's a good point Dave. You might not want to tell your young children that you were in the war, saw death, killed many, had no mercy (if that was your case, i don't know) because that would be inappropriate and probably harmful to their normal psychological development. On the other hand, if they're a bit older and they can get it, telling them the story and sharing your experience about just how stressful and scary those times were will let them see you as more human, and appreciate you more. That’s a good point Dave. You might not want to tell your young children that you were in the war, saw death, killed many, had no mercy (if that was your case, i don’t know) because that would be inappropriate and probably harmful to their normal psychological development.

On the other hand, if they’re a bit older and they can get it, telling them the story and sharing your experience about just how stressful and scary those times were will let them see you as more human, and appreciate you more.

]]> By: Dave Olson http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/04/05/why-looking-bad-looks-good/comment-page-1/#comment-1440 Dave Olson Thu, 05 Apr 2007 22:18:17 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2007/04/05/why-looking-bad-looks-good/#comment-1440 Alex, I'm really glad to see this post on transparency. I think the biggest question is how transparent should you be? There are certain things that I won't share with my kids because I don't think they are mature enough to handle. So I put a limit on my transparency for their sake. I prefer to "dream it til you live it" over faking it any day. Alex, I’m really glad to see this post on transparency. I think the biggest question is how transparent should you be? There are certain things that I won’t share with my kids because I don’t think they are mature enough to handle. So I put a limit on my transparency for their sake.

I prefer to “dream it til you live it” over faking it any day.

]]> By: Alex Shalman http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/04/05/why-looking-bad-looks-good/comment-page-1/#comment-1414 Alex Shalman Thu, 05 Apr 2007 13:29:47 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2007/04/05/why-looking-bad-looks-good/#comment-1414 I think there is a difference between getting yourself enthused in order to feel enthused... similar to getting yourself to laugh so that you feel happy. Difference from pretending you have as much money as the rest of the people in your firm, spending way beyond your means, so that you fit into the social standard. One is wrong, one is not. =) I think there is a difference between getting yourself enthused in order to feel enthused… similar to getting yourself to laugh so that you feel happy. Difference from pretending you have as much money as the rest of the people in your firm, spending way beyond your means, so that you fit into the social standard. One is wrong, one is not. =)

]]> By: Bradley Woods http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/04/05/why-looking-bad-looks-good/comment-page-1/#comment-1413 Bradley Woods Thu, 05 Apr 2007 13:24:36 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2007/04/05/why-looking-bad-looks-good/#comment-1413 I guess we differ on what it means to fake it. In a book by W. Clement Stone and Napoleon Hill. They use the phrase," to be, act as if." This is how I can to understand faking it till you make it. EX. To be enthusiastic, act enthusiastic. Do you think that acting "as if," is lying? I guess we differ on what it means to fake it. In a book by W. Clement Stone and Napoleon Hill. They use the phrase,” to be, act as if.” This is how I can to understand faking it till you make it. EX. To be enthusiastic, act enthusiastic. Do you think that acting “as if,” is lying?

]]> By: Alex Shalman http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/04/05/why-looking-bad-looks-good/comment-page-1/#comment-1412 Alex Shalman Thu, 05 Apr 2007 13:18:50 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2007/04/05/why-looking-bad-looks-good/#comment-1412 It depends on the degree of faking it. If i'm playing a practical joke on someone, yes I'll stay calm and relaxed, since it's just a joke. But if I was to fake something serious, I would feel paranoid and ashamed. Image faking something on a daily basis; the consequences would be losing your job, friends or spouse. That doesn't seem exhausting to you? It depends on the degree of faking it. If i’m playing a practical joke on someone, yes I’ll stay calm and relaxed, since it’s just a joke. But if I was to fake something serious, I would feel paranoid and ashamed. Image faking something on a daily basis; the consequences would be losing your job, friends or spouse. That doesn’t seem exhausting to you?

]]> By: Bradley Woods http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/04/05/why-looking-bad-looks-good/comment-page-1/#comment-1411 Bradley Woods Thu, 05 Apr 2007 13:14:46 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2007/04/05/why-looking-bad-looks-good/#comment-1411 I agree because being transparent is what draws others to you for sure. I dont agree that "fake it till you make it" has to be exhaustive. Maybe determining who you want to be is exhaustive or being who you want to be requires you to be exhaustive. But when I'm faking it I am calm and at peace ;-) I agree because being transparent is what draws others to you for sure. I dont agree that “fake it till you make it” has to be exhaustive. Maybe determining who you want to be is exhaustive or being who you want to be requires you to be exhaustive. But when I’m faking it I am calm and at peace ;-)

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