Comments on: Becoming An Outstanding Person | Moderation – Week 9 of 12 | http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/04/26/becoming-an-outstanding-person-moderation-week-9-of-12/ Practical Personal Development Wed, 01 Feb 2012 10:29:45 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Becoming An Outstanding Person | Temperance - Week 1 of 12 | | Alex Shalman . com http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/04/26/becoming-an-outstanding-person-moderation-week-9-of-12/comment-page-1/#comment-6375 Becoming An Outstanding Person | Temperance - Week 1 of 12 | | Alex Shalman . com Thu, 07 Jun 2007 02:46:29 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2007/04/26/becoming-an-outstanding-person-moderation-week-9-of-12/#comment-6375 [...] Becoming An Outstanding Person | Moderation - Week 9 Of 12 | [...] [...] Becoming An Outstanding Person | Moderation – Week 9 Of 12 | [...]

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]]> By: m http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/04/26/becoming-an-outstanding-person-moderation-week-9-of-12/comment-page-1/#comment-3031 m Fri, 27 Apr 2007 06:25:59 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2007/04/26/becoming-an-outstanding-person-moderation-week-9-of-12/#comment-3031 I really like this goal you're working on; I think it's such an important one. I have been giving the topic much thought myself recently, and not judging is something I think I'm fairly good at but want to work on even more. One way I do this is by just putting myself in the other person's shoes and realizing that their needs, wants, goals, priorities, etc. are different from mine, but no lesser than mine. Rather than view their life from the context of my own, I try to view their choices in the context of the rest of their life. I think the key is not to not judge anything, but to accept that other people's choices can be as valid as your own, and to try to view them in the same way you'd like them to view you. Of course, exceptions are made for truly immoral actions, like murder, and the like. For me, being judged several times by others, especially people I considered friends, taught me that I don't want to judge others in the way I was judged, knowing how bad and wrong it feels to be on the receiving end of it. Good luck on your goal, I am going to work on it myself, too. I really like this goal you’re working on; I think it’s such an important one. I have been giving the topic much thought myself recently, and not judging is something I think I’m fairly good at but want to work on even more.

One way I do this is by just putting myself in the other person’s shoes and realizing that their needs, wants, goals, priorities, etc. are
different from mine, but no lesser than mine. Rather than view their life from the context of my own, I try to view their choices in the context of the rest of their life.

I think the key is not to not judge anything, but to accept that other people’s choices can be as valid as your own, and to try to view them in the same way you’d like them to view you. Of course, exceptions are made for truly immoral actions, like murder, and the like.

For me, being judged several times by others, especially people I considered friends, taught me that I don’t want to judge others in the way I was judged, knowing how bad and wrong it feels to be on the receiving end of it.

Good luck on your goal, I am going to work on it myself, too.

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