Comments on: How To Make Everything The Bright Side http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/05/22/how-to-make-everything-the-bright-side/ Practical Personal Development Fri, 19 Mar 2010 04:09:07 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.2 hourly 1 By: Essential Tools - Alex Shalman Style http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/05/22/how-to-make-everything-the-bright-side/comment-page-1/#comment-20542 Essential Tools - Alex Shalman Style Wed, 17 Oct 2007 13:05:28 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2007/05/22/how-to-make-everything-the-bright-side/#comment-20542 [...] aspect of his writing. His most popular posts include Seven Questions that will Change your Life,? How to Make Everything the Bright Side, and The One Decision that will Change Your [...] [...] aspect of his writing. His most popular posts include Seven Questions that will Change your Life,? How to Make Everything the Bright Side, and The One Decision that will Change Your [...]

]]> By: You Own Your Thoughts, Now Control Them « Hair By Gio http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/05/22/how-to-make-everything-the-bright-side/comment-page-1/#comment-20459 You Own Your Thoughts, Now Control Them « Hair By Gio Tue, 16 Oct 2007 13:46:05 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2007/05/22/how-to-make-everything-the-bright-side/#comment-20459 [...] Yourself The Important Question In my post, How To Make Everything The Bright Side, I mentioned that by asking myself a single question, I was able to change how I perceived the [...] [...] Yourself The Important Question In my post, How To Make Everything The Bright Side, I mentioned that by asking myself a single question, I was able to change how I perceived the [...]

]]> By: Alex Shalman http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/05/22/how-to-make-everything-the-bright-side/comment-page-1/#comment-18944 Alex Shalman Thu, 20 Sep 2007 19:05:05 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2007/05/22/how-to-make-everything-the-bright-side/#comment-18944 I like two things you just mentioned. 1) Not taking yourself so seriously is absolutely key to enjoying life. 2) It works for you. Doesn't matter if it works for anyone else, as long as it works for you. I like two things you just mentioned.
1) Not taking yourself so seriously is absolutely key to enjoying life.
2) It works for you. Doesn’t matter if it works for anyone else, as long as it works for you.

]]> By: Jean Browman--Cheerful Monk http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/05/22/how-to-make-everything-the-bright-side/comment-page-1/#comment-18941 Jean Browman--Cheerful Monk Thu, 20 Sep 2007 18:52:46 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2007/05/22/how-to-make-everything-the-bright-side/#comment-18941 I don't believe in a theist god, one who gets involved in human affairs, but my favorite prayer when times get tough is, "Thank You, Lord, for the opportunity. I sure hope You know what You're doing!" It recognizes I don't have to like the situation...it throws in a sense of humor so I don't take myself too seriously...and it reaffirms that I believe in being open to life and willing to learn and grow from whatever happens. It works for me. Great post. Thanks. I don’t believe in a theist god, one who gets involved in human affairs, but my favorite prayer when times get tough is,

“Thank You, Lord, for the opportunity. I sure hope You know what You’re doing!”

It recognizes I don’t have to like the situation…it throws in a sense of humor so I don’t take myself too seriously…and it reaffirms that I believe in being open to life and willing to learn and grow from whatever happens. It works for me.

Great post. Thanks.

]]> By: John http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/05/22/how-to-make-everything-the-bright-side/comment-page-1/#comment-16639 John Mon, 27 Aug 2007 04:36:23 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2007/05/22/how-to-make-everything-the-bright-side/#comment-16639 Interesting article, I agree that your reaction is always your choice and that reaction is what makes the difference between a positive or negative outcome. Interesting article, I agree that your reaction is always your choice and that reaction is what makes the difference between a positive or negative outcome.

]]> By: 25 Timeless Stress Reduction Tricks | Alex Shalman . com http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/05/22/how-to-make-everything-the-bright-side/comment-page-1/#comment-15285 25 Timeless Stress Reduction Tricks | Alex Shalman . com Mon, 13 Aug 2007 16:32:21 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2007/05/22/how-to-make-everything-the-bright-side/#comment-15285 [...] Become An Outstanding Person In Twelve WeeksGotta Get GoalsOne Decision That Will Change Your LifeHow To Make Everything The Bright SideYou Click A Button - I Donate A DollarSeven Questions That Will Eliminate Your FearsThe Dangers of [...] [...] Become An Outstanding Person In Twelve WeeksGotta Get GoalsOne Decision That Will Change Your LifeHow To Make Everything The Bright SideYou Click A Button – I Donate A DollarSeven Questions That Will Eliminate Your FearsThe Dangers of [...]

]]> By: KingFish http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/05/22/how-to-make-everything-the-bright-side/comment-page-1/#comment-6608 KingFish Sat, 09 Jun 2007 19:29:01 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2007/05/22/how-to-make-everything-the-bright-side/#comment-6608 Sorry about the typo.. I meant to write "confluence" of events :) Sorry about the typo.. I meant to write “confluence” of events :)

]]> By: KingFish http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/05/22/how-to-make-everything-the-bright-side/comment-page-1/#comment-6606 KingFish Sat, 09 Jun 2007 19:27:18 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2007/05/22/how-to-make-everything-the-bright-side/#comment-6606 I've always been very optimistic. However it seems that sometimes a congruence of events can surely test me. Your post has helped renew my resolve, thanks. I’ve always been very optimistic. However it seems that sometimes a congruence of events can surely test me. Your post has helped renew my resolve, thanks.

]]> By: » How To Make Everything The Bright Side · Leadership Training · Personal Development 2.0 Blog, Podcast, and Portal | Cultivate Greatness | Leadership Blog | http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/05/22/how-to-make-everything-the-bright-side/comment-page-1/#comment-6495 » How To Make Everything The Bright Side · Leadership Training · Personal Development 2.0 Blog, Podcast, and Portal | Cultivate Greatness | Leadership Blog | Fri, 08 Jun 2007 14:11:31 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2007/05/22/how-to-make-everything-the-bright-side/#comment-6495 [...] by Alex Shalman [...] [...] by Alex Shalman [...]

]]> By: Visualize Possibilities » A Blog Carnival of Visualizations http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/05/22/how-to-make-everything-the-bright-side/comment-page-1/#comment-5953 Visualize Possibilities » A Blog Carnival of Visualizations Thu, 31 May 2007 21:43:12 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2007/05/22/how-to-make-everything-the-bright-side/#comment-5953 [...] Alex Shalman presents How To Make Everything The Bright Side posted at Alex Shalman . com - Practical Personal Development: While every person may not have a choice as to what happens, everyone is given a choice as to how they will react. [...] [...] Alex Shalman presents How To Make Everything The Bright Side posted at Alex Shalman . com – Practical Personal Development: While every person may not have a choice as to what happens, everyone is given a choice as to how they will react. [...]

]]> By: Heather Flanagan http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/05/22/how-to-make-everything-the-bright-side/comment-page-1/#comment-5949 Heather Flanagan Thu, 31 May 2007 21:12:09 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2007/05/22/how-to-make-everything-the-bright-side/#comment-5949 Thanks for submitting this to the !Visualize Possibilities! Blog Carnival! I am posting it today including my favorite quote from your submission. Heather Flanagan Cultural Visionary www.VisualizePossibilities.com Thanks for submitting this to the !Visualize Possibilities! Blog Carnival!

I am posting it today including my favorite quote from your submission.

Heather Flanagan
Cultural Visionary
http://www.VisualizePossibilities.com

]]> By: Terry Starbucker http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/05/22/how-to-make-everything-the-bright-side/comment-page-1/#comment-5937 Terry Starbucker Thu, 31 May 2007 16:42:35 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2007/05/22/how-to-make-everything-the-bright-side/#comment-5937 Hey Alex, welcome to the world of the Half-Fullers! Glad to have you in the club. Remember our motto - "looking at the literal world in a favorable way". I'll teach you the secret handshake next time we get together.... :-) Hey Alex, welcome to the world of the Half-Fullers! Glad to have you in the club. Remember our motto – “looking at the literal world in a favorable way”.

I’ll teach you the secret handshake next time we get together…. :-)

]]> By: Sue Olson http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/05/22/how-to-make-everything-the-bright-side/comment-page-1/#comment-5868 Sue Olson Wed, 30 May 2007 21:08:05 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2007/05/22/how-to-make-everything-the-bright-side/#comment-5868 YES!! I am living in that crazy world of unemployment - sometimes happy to have time to create a new future for myself then sometimes scared of what lies ahead. Put my husband's less than solid job into the mix and I'd say this is our year of uncertainty. If we choose well each and every day it can become the year that changed our live for the better - the eyar we started living our dreams so that whne we tell our children to 'GoForIt' they don't look at us like we're crazy and say - you never did - you always played it safe! I told my husband yesterday that I do not know HOW - all I know is that we will make it through this! YES!! I am living in that crazy world of unemployment – sometimes happy to have time to create a new future for myself then sometimes scared of what lies ahead. Put my husband’s less than solid job into the mix and I’d say this is our year of uncertainty. If we choose well each and every day it can become the year that changed our live for the better – the eyar we started living our dreams so that whne we tell our children to ‘GoForIt’ they don’t look at us like we’re crazy and say – you never did – you always played it safe! I told my husband yesterday that I do not know HOW – all I know is that we will make it through this!

]]> By: Dave http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/05/22/how-to-make-everything-the-bright-side/comment-page-1/#comment-5809 Dave Wed, 30 May 2007 01:41:44 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2007/05/22/how-to-make-everything-the-bright-side/#comment-5809 I agree that we all have a choice as to how we will react. If we train our mind to be positive during these situations, I believe that everything would be alright. I agree that we all have a choice as to how we will react. If we train our mind to be positive during these situations, I believe that everything would be alright.

]]> By: Pamela http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/05/22/how-to-make-everything-the-bright-side/comment-page-1/#comment-5732 Pamela Tue, 29 May 2007 06:48:16 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2007/05/22/how-to-make-everything-the-bright-side/#comment-5732 Nice post. If we keep a positive look regarding the events and experiences in our lives, I believe that there is something good that will happen. We can always hope for something good. Nice post. If we keep a positive look regarding the events and experiences in our lives, I believe that there is something good that will happen. We can always hope for something good.

]]> By: CAPTCHA a Thought | The Parody™ http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/05/22/how-to-make-everything-the-bright-side/comment-page-1/#comment-5424 CAPTCHA a Thought | The Parody™ Fri, 25 May 2007 23:21:41 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2007/05/22/how-to-make-everything-the-bright-side/#comment-5424 [...] While every person may not have a choice as to what happens, everyone is given a choice as to how they will react. Reaction is the most powerful choice that a person can exercise. Mastering this choice will give you the power to turn hate into love, fear into courage, despair into hope, and death into life. — Alex Shalman of Alex Shalman.com, Practical Personal Development [...] [...] While every person may not have a choice as to what happens, everyone is given a choice as to how they will react. Reaction is the most powerful choice that a person can exercise. Mastering this choice will give you the power to turn hate into love, fear into courage, despair into hope, and death into life. — Alex Shalman of Alex Shalman.com, Practical Personal Development [...]

]]> By: SOB Business Cafe 05-25-07 - Liz Strauss at Successful Blog - Thinking, writing, business ideas . . . You’re only a stranger once. http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/05/22/how-to-make-everything-the-bright-side/comment-page-1/#comment-5409 SOB Business Cafe 05-25-07 - Liz Strauss at Successful Blog - Thinking, writing, business ideas . . . You’re only a stranger once. Fri, 25 May 2007 18:01:21 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2007/05/22/how-to-make-everything-the-bright-side/#comment-5409 [...] How to Make Everything the Bright Side ,/a> [...] [...] How to Make Everything the Bright Side ,/a> [...]

]]> By: Anna http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/05/22/how-to-make-everything-the-bright-side/comment-page-1/#comment-5361 Anna Fri, 25 May 2007 03:30:05 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2007/05/22/how-to-make-everything-the-bright-side/#comment-5361 One of the most interesting things i've found is that because we see life a certain way, we find ourselves in certain situations. The past has a way of repeating itself. So if we experience a negative event we can choose to see it that way, and we'll probably repeat that event again- it may be in a different place or with a diff person.. but the situation will resurface. However- if we take this situation and make it the bright side(as u said) and really learn from it.. then we can prevent it from repeating again and create a new future for ourselves! it's amazing! One of the most interesting things i’ve found is that because we see life a certain way, we find ourselves in certain situations. The past has a way of repeating itself. So if we experience a negative event we can choose to see it that way, and we’ll probably repeat that event again- it may be in a different place or with a diff person.. but the situation will resurface. However- if we take this situation and make it the bright side(as u said) and really learn from it.. then we can prevent it from repeating again and create a new future for ourselves! it’s amazing!

]]> By: Gary http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/05/22/how-to-make-everything-the-bright-side/comment-page-1/#comment-5255 Gary Wed, 23 May 2007 19:54:52 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2007/05/22/how-to-make-everything-the-bright-side/#comment-5255 It might be more accurate that you are choosing a different interpretation. And then your emotional reactions come from the interpretation you choose. When you choose a positive interpretation, you feel better about the same situation. This is the most basic area of exercising free will. It's also where many people trap themselves with illusions. The power to create can cut both ways. It might be more accurate that you are choosing a different interpretation. And then your emotional reactions come from the interpretation you choose.

When you choose a positive interpretation, you feel better about the same situation. This is the most basic area of exercising free will. It’s also where many people trap themselves with illusions. The power to create can cut both ways.

]]> By: eye-of-horus http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/05/22/how-to-make-everything-the-bright-side/comment-page-1/#comment-5240 eye-of-horus Wed, 23 May 2007 18:24:58 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2007/05/22/how-to-make-everything-the-bright-side/#comment-5240 Pity the poor 'paradigm.' It's passed through so many guts on its way to the sewers of politics and cesspools of popular culture. The late historian of science, Thomas Kuhn introduced his conception of a 'paradigm' in The Structure of Scientific Revolutions (1962)! No nutritional value remains. As for the "old adage" misquoted above, here's the original, translated by Kaufmann into English. It's the entire section 8 from The Twilight of the Idols (1888) by Nietzsche: Out of life's school of war: What does not destroy me makes me stronger. Of course what section 8 "means" can't be determined ripped out of context. Just as 'paradigm' can not. Get some fresh metaphors. eye-of-horus Pity the poor ‘paradigm.’ It’s passed through so many guts on its way to the sewers of politics and cesspools of popular culture.

The late historian of science, Thomas Kuhn introduced his conception of a ‘paradigm’ in The Structure of Scientific Revolutions (1962)! No nutritional value remains.

As for the “old adage” misquoted above, here’s the original, translated by Kaufmann into English.

It’s the entire section 8 from The Twilight of the Idols (1888) by Nietzsche:

Out of life’s school of war: What does not destroy me makes me stronger.

Of course what section 8 “means” can’t be determined ripped out of context. Just as ‘paradigm’ can not.

Get some fresh metaphors.

eye-of-horus

]]> By: AgentSully http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/05/22/how-to-make-everything-the-bright-side/comment-page-1/#comment-5232 AgentSully Wed, 23 May 2007 15:45:43 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2007/05/22/how-to-make-everything-the-bright-side/#comment-5232 Well said and so concisely said! I write about this type of stuff too. It's the only way to live your life. I've always said "Life is Good!" - way before the t-shirts came out. Happy to find your blog! I love the colors. Usually dark background is hard to read, like when it is black. But this color is actually very soothing on the eyes! Well said and so concisely said! I write about this type of stuff too. It’s the only way to live your life. I’ve always said “Life is Good!” – way before the t-shirts came out.

Happy to find your blog! I love the colors. Usually dark background is hard to read, like when it is black. But this color is actually very soothing on the eyes!

]]> By: jesse http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/05/22/how-to-make-everything-the-bright-side/comment-page-1/#comment-5210 jesse Wed, 23 May 2007 11:30:33 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2007/05/22/how-to-make-everything-the-bright-side/#comment-5210 welcome to what buddhists call mindfulness. Taking an active role in your perception of life is the biggest step most people never make. gl. welcome to what buddhists call mindfulness. Taking an active role in your perception of life is the biggest step most people never make.

gl.

]]> By: Solomon Broad http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/05/22/how-to-make-everything-the-bright-side/comment-page-1/#comment-5204 Solomon Broad Wed, 23 May 2007 10:43:17 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2007/05/22/how-to-make-everything-the-bright-side/#comment-5204 This is something that gets much much easier with practice. Just stop, take a step back, and re-analyse. If you can;t find anything good about the situation, be thankful it's no worse than it is. This is something that gets much much easier with practice. Just stop, take a step back, and re-analyse. If you can;t find anything good about the situation, be thankful it’s no worse than it is.

]]> By: listr http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/05/22/how-to-make-everything-the-bright-side/comment-page-1/#comment-5158 listr Wed, 23 May 2007 02:39:17 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2007/05/22/how-to-make-everything-the-bright-side/#comment-5158 hi there is this page i found which tracks all the top blogs about personal development in just a single page http://www.netreputation.co.uk/directory/Personal%20Development you are on it too hi

there is this page i found which tracks all the top blogs about personal development in just a single page
http://www.netreputation.co.uk/directory/Personal%20Development
you are on it too

]]> By: Alex Shalman http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/05/22/how-to-make-everything-the-bright-side/comment-page-1/#comment-5156 Alex Shalman Wed, 23 May 2007 02:27:58 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2007/05/22/how-to-make-everything-the-bright-side/#comment-5156 Liz, I love how you have a specific thing you want to get out of each event, no matter what it is. Dave, Yes, I have been running around enjoying life more. Could you tell by the smaller frequency of posts? =) Daniel, I meant reaction, as a choice. So I think it would make it a response in Zigs distinction. Lornadoone, I'll check that out, thank you! Liz,

I love how you have a specific thing you want to get out of each event, no matter what it is.

Dave,

Yes, I have been running around enjoying life more. Could you tell by the smaller frequency of posts? =)

Daniel,

I meant reaction, as a choice. So I think it would make it a response in Zigs distinction.

Lornadoone,

I’ll check that out, thank you!

]]> By: lornadoone http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/05/22/how-to-make-everything-the-bright-side/comment-page-1/#comment-5154 lornadoone Wed, 23 May 2007 02:12:23 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2007/05/22/how-to-make-everything-the-bright-side/#comment-5154 Alex, This is such a powerful thing to learn. One of the biggest influences in my entire life has been Don Miguel Ruiz's book The Four Agreements. I wrote a series on it a few months ago if you're interested. If you haven't read the book already, you are definitely in for a treat. I wish someone would have introduced me to it when I was much younger! http://o-my-goodness.livejournal.com/22661.html Alex,

This is such a powerful thing to learn. One of the biggest influences in my entire life has been Don Miguel Ruiz’s book The Four Agreements. I wrote a series on it a few months ago if you’re interested. If you haven’t read the book already, you are definitely in for a treat. I wish someone would have introduced me to it when I was much younger!

http://o-my-goodness.livejournal.com/22661.html

]]> By: Daniel Sitter http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/05/22/how-to-make-everything-the-bright-side/comment-page-1/#comment-5152 Daniel Sitter Wed, 23 May 2007 02:03:31 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2007/05/22/how-to-make-everything-the-bright-side/#comment-5152 There's an old adage Alex... "That which does not kill me, only serves to make me stronger." I've never forgotten that when faced with adversity. Zig Ziglar s particular about the differentiation between reacting to or responding to a difficulty. Reacting is negative as it leaves the event in control of you, while responding is positive because YOU CHOOSE your next course of action. There’s an old adage Alex… “That which does not kill me, only serves to make me stronger.” I’ve never forgotten that when faced with adversity.

Zig Ziglar s particular about the differentiation between reacting to or responding to a difficulty. Reacting is negative as it leaves the event in control of you, while responding is positive because YOU CHOOSE your next course of action.

]]> By: DaveOlson http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/05/22/how-to-make-everything-the-bright-side/comment-page-1/#comment-5148 DaveOlson Wed, 23 May 2007 01:54:36 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2007/05/22/how-to-make-everything-the-bright-side/#comment-5148 Alex... way to go. I suspect you've been enjoying your life more too. Seeing the negative all the time is the REAL delusion. Alex… way to go. I suspect you’ve been enjoying your life more too. Seeing the negative all the time is the REAL delusion.

]]> By: Liz Strauss http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/05/22/how-to-make-everything-the-bright-side/comment-page-1/#comment-5139 Liz Strauss Wed, 23 May 2007 00:47:21 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2007/05/22/how-to-make-everything-the-bright-side/#comment-5139 I couldn't have said it better. Being able to stop, breathe, and decide what I will learn, what I will take from what happens around me is powerful, and very much my choice. I want each experience to make me stronger, but gentler -- more flexible like softer shoe leather. I want each event to make my eyes and my heart more open to other people. I can't do that if I turn my mind in toward myself . . . that's why I chose to look forward with a positive outlook. You're right, Alex. We have the power to choose. It's not delusion. Reality itself is just one person's perception . . . an illusion. Better we choose our illusion And did you know that by doing so we also choose positive chemicals to release in our brains? I couldn’t have said it better.

Being able to stop, breathe, and decide what I will learn, what I will take from what happens around me is powerful, and very much my choice.

I want each experience to make me stronger, but gentler — more flexible like softer shoe leather. I want each event to make my eyes and my heart more open to other people. I can’t do that if I turn my mind in toward myself . . . that’s why I chose to look forward with a positive outlook.

You’re right, Alex. We have the power to choose. It’s not delusion. Reality itself is just one person’s perception . . . an illusion. Better we choose our illusion

And did you know that by doing so we also choose positive chemicals to release in our brains?

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