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The secret to keeping your man happy is stroking the… As tough as men may try to appear, they’re really a very sensitive creature, much like a puppy. They’ll give you all their love, but it’s going to cost you. You’ll have to do the unthinkable – you’ll have to … pet the puppy (a variation of stroke the ego)!

What does it mean to pet the puppy?

I hope you’re on the same page as me so far (and not some kind of perverted page hehe). Petting the puppy means to let your man know that you appreciate him and the effort he has gone through to please you. Just stopping in the middle of everything, looking into his eyes and saying “how did I get so lucky?” is a keeper.

Men want to do things for their women, they want to make you happy. I wrote about this in the secret to doubling your happiness ^[2].

There is a theory that I have formulated, and successfully applied several times that has proven to double my happiness. By investing my happiness in someone else, I receive double the happiness in return. This theory can be applied to just about anyone out there.

That’s the best part of making your man happy. It bounces back to you, creating a cycle of mutual empowerment and happiness. When both of you are happy, this trickles down to your kids, friends, family and everyone around you.

A big “should not” is resisting the efforts that are set forth by your man to please you. If he’s doing something genuine for you, that you know will (or he thinks will) please you, be very careful. This is a very sensitive situation which will determine the learned behavior pattern of your man. Do not say things along the lines of “you don’t have to do that” or “I can do that myself”. We know you’re damn capable, that’s why we love you, but we want to do it anyway – that’s why we offered.

By letting him take care of you, you aren’t giving up your independence. You’re just letting him tap into his instinctive nurturing side. It is also important that you are genuine when you let him know that you appreciate him. Insincerity can be easily spotted and can be very offensive. However, if you consider the fact the he’s doing something for you from the bottom of your heart, why wouldn’t you genuinely appreciate it?

What happens if you don’t pet the puppy? You get an unhappy puppy!

By the way, I wouldn’t exactly say that I’m a relationship “expert” or anything. Just sharing my life experiences and experiences of experts from whom I got the honor of learning. What I would love is to hear a woman’s opinion. If a man were to appreciate you in the same way this article prescribed to do towards a man, do you think that you would be happy too?

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