Comments on: Proactive Listening Should Be Your First Social Skill http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/08/14/proactive-listening-should-be-your-first-social-skill/ Practical Personal Development Sat, 31 Jul 2010 01:57:16 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: abigail http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/08/14/proactive-listening-should-be-your-first-social-skill/comment-page-1/#comment-125461 abigail Fri, 31 Jul 2009 08:05:01 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2007/08/14/proactive-listening-should-be-your-first-social-skill/#comment-125461 i got some tips here.. i got some tips here..

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]]> By: 15 Ways To Emulate A Networking Rockstar | Alex Shalman . com http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/08/14/proactive-listening-should-be-your-first-social-skill/comment-page-1/#comment-83301 15 Ways To Emulate A Networking Rockstar | Alex Shalman . com Wed, 22 Oct 2008 10:00:50 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2007/08/14/proactive-listening-should-be-your-first-social-skill/#comment-83301 [...] use this to my advantage by proactively listening to the people I’m with. I eliminate all distractions, and I listen for clues in their speech [...] [...] use this to my advantage by proactively listening to the people I’m with. I eliminate all distractions, and I listen for clues in their speech [...]

]]> By: Love - The Virtuous Human | Alex Shalman . com http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/08/14/proactive-listening-should-be-your-first-social-skill/comment-page-1/#comment-62299 Love - The Virtuous Human | Alex Shalman . com Mon, 28 Jul 2008 14:01:30 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2007/08/14/proactive-listening-should-be-your-first-social-skill/#comment-62299 [...] penetrated me deeply. When I talked, she hung onto every syllable. The communication was full of proactive listening, coupled with a perfect understanding, and a deep desire for one [...] [...] penetrated me deeply. When I talked, she hung onto every syllable. The communication was full of proactive listening, coupled with a perfect understanding, and a deep desire for one [...]

]]> By: Alex Shalman http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/08/14/proactive-listening-should-be-your-first-social-skill/comment-page-1/#comment-52518 Alex Shalman Wed, 28 May 2008 16:29:02 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2007/08/14/proactive-listening-should-be-your-first-social-skill/#comment-52518 Hi Helen, Thanks for writing in, I'm glad you are getting a great deal of value from the site. I used to have a printer version button, but removed it awhile ago. I will talk to my designer about reinstating it -- just give me a little bit of time. Enjoy the read. Hi Helen,

Thanks for writing in, I’m glad you are getting a great deal of value from the site. I used to have a printer version button, but removed it awhile ago. I will talk to my designer about reinstating it — just give me a little bit of time. Enjoy the read.

]]> By: helen horton http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/08/14/proactive-listening-should-be-your-first-social-skill/comment-page-1/#comment-52515 helen horton Wed, 28 May 2008 15:34:28 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2007/08/14/proactive-listening-should-be-your-first-social-skill/#comment-52515 I recently discovered your site and enjoy it. I am a therapist and find much of what you say useful to share with group therapy clients. I make copies of what is on your site but have become frustrated with one aspect. This may be a fault of mine , not yours. I would like to find on the site something that says above or below an icon or words that indicate printer version. I have copied several of your articles but find that I always end up with lots of advertisements for sponsors etc. Although they are informative, I do not need them each time I copy your post. Most recently I copied "Proactive lLstening Should Be Your First Social Skill" and find that rathere than getting a list that could be possibly one page or at the most two pages, I get four pages. Please can you direct me to the icon or if there is not one there, would you be willing to include one that says "printer version" above the article referenced so I copy only what I need? Thank you . I appreciate your help in this matter and will continue to use your site. Helen I recently discovered your site and enjoy it. I am a therapist and find much of what you say useful to share with group therapy clients. I make copies of what is on your site but have become frustrated with one aspect. This may be a fault of mine , not yours. I would like to find on the site something that says above or below an icon or words that indicate printer version. I have copied several of your articles but find that I always end up with lots of advertisements for sponsors etc. Although they are informative, I do not need them each time I copy your post. Most recently I copied “Proactive lLstening Should Be Your First Social Skill” and find that rathere than getting a list that could be possibly one page or at the most two pages, I get four pages. Please can you direct me to the icon or if there is not one there, would you be willing to include one that says “printer version” above the article referenced so I copy only what I need? Thank you . I appreciate your help in this matter and will continue to use your site.
Helen

]]> By: Three Little Things To Make Life Better Today | Alex Shalman . com http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/08/14/proactive-listening-should-be-your-first-social-skill/comment-page-1/#comment-21765 Three Little Things To Make Life Better Today | Alex Shalman . com Fri, 02 Nov 2007 20:00:20 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2007/08/14/proactive-listening-should-be-your-first-social-skill/#comment-21765 [...] Slow down your conversation. I’ve noticed that many people have conversations that involve two people talking, and no one listening. Slow down the convo, and pay extra attention to what is being said to you. Listen, think about what they said, and formulate a question to inquire more about their situation. You’ll realize that conversations will be much more enjoyable. Practice being a proactive listener. [...] [...] Slow down your conversation. I’ve noticed that many people have conversations that involve two people talking, and no one listening. Slow down the convo, and pay extra attention to what is being said to you. Listen, think about what they said, and formulate a question to inquire more about their situation. You’ll realize that conversations will be much more enjoyable. Practice being a proactive listener. [...]

]]> By: 10 Ways To Show Respect | Alex Shalman . com http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/08/14/proactive-listening-should-be-your-first-social-skill/comment-page-1/#comment-18760 10 Ways To Show Respect | Alex Shalman . com Tue, 18 Sep 2007 10:02:26 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2007/08/14/proactive-listening-should-be-your-first-social-skill/#comment-18760 [...] harder. We already know that proactive listening should be your first social skill. We know this because we love when people listen to us, so we find it safe to assume that other [...] [...] harder. We already know that proactive listening should be your first social skill. We know this because we love when people listen to us, so we find it safe to assume that other [...]

]]> By: Rob http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/08/14/proactive-listening-should-be-your-first-social-skill/comment-page-1/#comment-18539 Rob Sat, 15 Sep 2007 20:33:28 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2007/08/14/proactive-listening-should-be-your-first-social-skill/#comment-18539 I think the most overlooked thing is that most people don't listen to what they are actually saying themselves. Listening is as much about witnessing your own words and actions as it is other people's. Good post Alex. I think the most overlooked thing is that most people don’t listen to what they are actually saying themselves.

Listening is as much about witnessing your own words and actions as it is other people’s.

Good post Alex.

]]> By: How to have more social success News / Updates / Blog » The First Social Skills Blog Carnival http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/08/14/proactive-listening-should-be-your-first-social-skill/comment-page-1/#comment-18054 How to have more social success News / Updates / Blog » The First Social Skills Blog Carnival Tue, 11 Sep 2007 02:20:25 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2007/08/14/proactive-listening-should-be-your-first-social-skill/#comment-18054 [...] Alex Shalman.com presents Proactive Listening Should Be Your First Social Skill [...] [...] Alex Shalman.com presents Proactive Listening Should Be Your First Social Skill [...]

]]> By: gmttzy http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/08/14/proactive-listening-should-be-your-first-social-skill/comment-page-1/#comment-15846 gmttzy Sun, 19 Aug 2007 00:59:40 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2007/08/14/proactive-listening-should-be-your-first-social-skill/#comment-15846 visiting & reading... visiting & reading…

]]> By: Alex Shalman http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/08/14/proactive-listening-should-be-your-first-social-skill/comment-page-1/#comment-15536 Alex Shalman Wed, 15 Aug 2007 22:59:08 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2007/08/14/proactive-listening-should-be-your-first-social-skill/#comment-15536 Thank you Carl! I know some of these things do seem intuitive as you say. I just concentrated on keeping it practical... like the header says =) Thank you Carl!

I know some of these things do seem intuitive as you say. I just concentrated on keeping it practical… like the header says =)

]]> By: Carl of PseudoPower http://www.alexshalman.com/2007/08/14/proactive-listening-should-be-your-first-social-skill/comment-page-1/#comment-15505 Carl of PseudoPower Wed, 15 Aug 2007 18:02:45 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2007/08/14/proactive-listening-should-be-your-first-social-skill/#comment-15505 Congrats on #100! For a lot of people, the things above are very intuitive. However, even the those people may not realize what they are doing and may fumble in the future. You have them all listed there. It's all about responding without language. Talk without talking. It all comes down to "body language", which includes your tone and much more. Thanks for the post and reminding me. It's a simple yet so powerful concept :). Congrats on #100!

For a lot of people, the things above are very intuitive. However, even the those people may not realize what they are doing and may fumble in the future.

You have them all listed there. It’s all about responding without language. Talk without talking. It all comes down to “body language”, which includes your tone and much more.

Thanks for the post and reminding me. It’s a simple yet so powerful concept :) .

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