View people you are likely to quarrel with as your partners in personal growth. They are likely to make you more aware of your vulnerabilities, limitations, and mistakes. Don’t let this get you down. Rather, let it serve as your coach. You now have more awareness of what you need to strengthen, fix, and keep on developing. ~ Rabbi Zelig Pliskin

What if we could change the way we look at our enemies? What if instead of hindering our progress they are assisting us in our personal development? In our world of endless possibilities where we control our thoughts this is not so far fetched at all.

As we look at life, we are making assumptions and interpretations, and organizing thoughts and experiences to coincide with our beliefs. In order to experience the benefits Rabbi Pliskin’s paradigm has to offer we must follow a simple 2 steps process. 1) Understand it. 2) Use it.

Whenever we experience a negative feeling that we think is brought on by another person we have the amazing opportunity to find out why we feel this way. Introspection allows us to learn about ourselves and grow. In the presence of other people, especially those that push us out of our comfort zone, we tend to grow much quicker.

How do you deal with ‘the enemy’?

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