10 Traits To Be Perceived As A Winner!

{Disclamer: Definition of what a winning person is may differ}

I happen to think that a winning personality is someone that is trusted, loved, and respected. To you, it may mean someone who is rich, charismatic, or successful. We won’t dwell on semantics during this post, and just stick to my initial definition. In order to have a winning personality, it is of utmost importance to have everyone’s best interest in mind.

Qualities of a winning personality

1. Exhibit integrity (via wiki)

One is said to have integrity to the extent that everything he does and believes is based on the same core set of values. While those values may change, it is their consistency with each other and with the person’s actions that determine his integrity.

2. Do not speak badly of others

When you confide in a friend and speak badly of others, what’s to say that you won’t speak badly about the friend to someone else? When you establish yourself as someone that does not speak badly, you will find that more people confide in you.

3. Stay optimistic

I don’t mean blindly optimistic where you think it’ll rain money tomorrow. I’m talking about putting aside what’s going wrong in order to focus on what’s important and stay on course.

4. Help others when you can

They say you don’t know how much money you have until you give it away. I think the same goes for knowledge and all of our abilities in general. I think part of our purpose in developing ourselves, our skills and talents is to be able to share it.

5. High ambitions

This is one of the most contagious qualities. The reason is that your dreams or goals not only bring you hope, but hope to the people around you. You enroll (or recruit) them into this dream, and it inspires and motivates them to dream goals of their own.

6. Kind and compassionate

One of the most important qualities a person can possess. The ability to feel the suffering of others, and to care and possibly do something about it. If you think it sucks to feel someone else’s pain in addition to your own, you can also consider the feeling of unlimited love and joy that others experience as well.

7. Believe in and respect yourself

If you don’t respect yourself, you can’t honestly expect others to do it. When you make decisions, with love and respect of yourself in mind, you’ll be pleased to see yourself taking action on a higher level.

8. Persist until you succeed

Being ambitious is not enough. In The Hidden Secret in Think and Grow Rich, Brian Kim talks about persistence as the key to succeeding. It’s when you fall down, realize that your set back is a lesson learned, and get up to persevere.

9. Open mindedness

If you aren’t open minded, than your set in your ways, doomed to never discover a newer and better way. Than again, you might already know everything you need to do to be happy (you are special!)

10. Take responsibility

Blaming others doesn’t really solve problems. A person with a winning personality will take responsibility for what happened and take measures to prevent the situation from repeating itself.

When you constantly exhibit the above qualities, you will be forging a name for yourself as a person with a winning personality. A winning personality will not only enrich your own life, but also open many doors for you as you interact with others.

Eventually things catch up to you. If you’re known as a crook than the people around you will figure you out and distrust you. If you’re a person of integrity, than people around you will trust and confide in you. How would having a winning personality affect you in business and relationships?

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cynthia

cynthia said on January 15th, 2008 at 9:52 pm

Great post! Thanks for the sharing.
I’ve also begun to realize winners are those with such great traits. They may not be successful right now, but they are about to be.
Alex Shalman

Alex Shalman said on January 15th, 2008 at 11:45 pm

Cynthia, thanks for joining the conversation on the site.

You say they are about to be successful. I think that there are so many interpretations of what it means to be successful that it’s a difficult thing to measure and predict.
Craig Harper

Craig Harper said on January 16th, 2008 at 12:01 am

Hey Alex,
I particularly like “Do not speak badly of others”.
There is nothing to be gained from speaking badly of others when they’re not around. If you have some ‘constructive’ feedback to share with someone, then share it with them. Otherwise forget about it!
Alex Shalman

Alex Shalman said on January 16th, 2008 at 12:08 am

You are a wise man Craig! Thank you for stopping by.
Tom

Tom said on January 20th, 2008 at 7:27 pm

Another one is to be willing to say I don’t know. People don’t like to be around people who cannot say “I don’t know”, because you never know when they are lying, and you know for sure that they are lying at some point.
Friedbeef

Friedbeef said on January 20th, 2008 at 7:40 pm

Thanks for sharing - some great tips here!
Miss Cellania

Miss Cellania said on January 21st, 2008 at 6:06 pm

This puts into words exactly what I am trying to instill in my children. But I also try to add a healthy work ethic, since that will get them far in life.
Know The Ledge

Know The Ledge said on March 7th, 2008 at 12:59 pm

Truly words to live by. I definitely agree that integrity is number one. What is noticeable about all these traits is that a lot of them build on each other. It’s a lot like success in that way. Once you have a little of it, it’s easier to have more. That snowball effect also pertains to our personality traits. The more you exhibit them, the more it just becomes who you are.
Grace Youssef

Grace Youssef said on March 7th, 2008 at 1:05 pm

I agree with this list overall and have no comments on its integrity but I do have comments on some grammatical errors.

I’m not trying to do #2; I’m trying to do #4 to achieve #5. Following are my suggestions: A) there should be end quotes for every item “to close it up;” B) in #3 “…I don’t mean blindly optimistic where…” would read better as, “blind optimism;” and C) in #9 “…than your set in your ways, doomed to never discover a newer and better way. Than again…” should use the word THEN not THAN and YOU’RE not YOUR.

I don’t mean to offend you but grammatical errors are my pet-peeve. Thanks for the list.
CFA Level 1

CFA Level 1 said on March 19th, 2008 at 1:39 pm

Wow. these are some great life tips. Thanks for these.
Gwen

Gwen said on April 13th, 2008 at 9:29 pm

I’ve learned to treat others the way I want to be treated, which is with respect, because you are likely NOT to get a negative response. How can treating people in a civil manner gonna hurt? It doesn’t. Gossip I did that for a short time in my life, ( my teenage years), and learned real fast, that it didn’t feel good, and the consequences, aren’t very comfortable, helping a person you are totally capable of helping. Can’t nobody come out of the woodwork, and disrespect you, if your not doing things that are disrespectful. Life is an experience, a learning experience. And you are always learning. I’m always open to learn more, about whatever.
Dang

Dang said on June 17th, 2008 at 9:19 pm

Thanks for sharing! Hope to hear more inspiring words from you. God bless!
Robbyn

Robbyn said on June 18th, 2008 at 4:32 pm

Great post!! Great rules to live by! Hope to hear more. This is good stuff!
Beautiful Scraps

Beautiful Scraps said on July 6th, 2008 at 9:45 am

Great post but in 4th point u have mentioned helping others.. I agree it is good. But if you start helping people too much.. They start taking you for granted!!
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