Comments on: A Simple Hack To Fast-Forward To A Winning Personality

By: Craig Harper - Motivational Speaker

Craig Harper - Motivational Speaker — Tue, 25 Mar 2008 00:51:23 +0000

Gutsy Post Alex.
The best way for us to grow is to get ‘constructive’ feedback about ourselves.
It’s important to be humble and not to be precious about the feedback we receive. Only then can we start to work on improving ourselves.
Craig

By: Chris Cade

Chris Cade — Mon, 24 Mar 2008 07:11:01 +0000

I used these basic principles as well in my upcoming ebook about helping people with their spiritual growth goals through story writing. It’s a bit easier with story-writing though because there’s a lot of ways to invite that criticism – one of my favorites is to just ask somebody if they’ll read the story in your presence.

Oftentimes as much is said by the body language as is from the words, so for all those who are going to try your constructive criticism technique I encourage, when possible, to do it in person. Not only does it allow us to see what’s going on, it also allows to communicate both ways with more compassion (especially in this digital age).

By: Lisa Gates Livelihood Coach)

Lisa Gates Livelihood Coach) — Sun, 23 Mar 2008 02:03:16 +0000

Alex, I love this.
I think there’s a great deal of value in not being strategic in your asking, or you may get false positives. I often give this as homework for folks who are having trouble getting through to “yes” — work searches, informational interviews, etc., changes in career path etc. One tweak I’d offer is to make the request by phone, but let people answer you by email if they’re uncomfortable on the spot.

This exercise is usually overwhelmingly positive, and reveals lots of common themes and threads.

2 cents

By: Mr Positioning (Stanley Bronstein)

Mr Positioning (Stanley Bronstein) — Fri, 21 Mar 2008 21:48:53 +0000

Brian Tracy always says you have to pay full price for success and you have to pay that price, in advance.

However, as you basically indicate, we live in a society that wants everything quickly. Unfortunately, it doesn’t always work that way.

Take care

Mr Positioning (Stanley F. Bronstein, Atty, CPA, Author and Professional Speaker)

By: Alex Shalman

Alex Shalman — Fri, 21 Mar 2008 13:20:30 +0000

Friendly response: Thankx! =)

By: Carol Feldman

Carol Feldman — Fri, 21 Mar 2008 13:08:34 +0000

Friendly advice: You need to do some basic spell checking and re-reading of your writing in order to taken seriously. Carol

By: Know The Ledge

Know The Ledge — Fri, 21 Mar 2008 02:50:24 +0000

I think this is a good general practice to ensure that we’re continuing to progress in our lives. I’ve always believed that all the negativity I’ve had in my life has only contributed to any success that I’ve had. The more you are able to clearly look at yourself in the mirror and analyze yourself (which is the general concept around your method I believe), the better equipped you will be to change yourself for the better. Nobody likes to hear criticism, but using it as a way to make yourself better makes it sting a lot less.

By: Liz Strauss

Liz Strauss — Fri, 21 Mar 2008 02:15:24 +0000

Gosh, for a second there, I thought you were actually asking for feedback. . . .

It’s a great idea that takes courage. It also takes asking the right folks for the feedback, those who can offer what’s useful and not what isn’t necessary.

Even the issue of asking is an art. Many folks would feel uncomfortable because they’ve been asked such questions before and had the experience backfire on them. Some folks ask and then don’t listen, or worse get mad anyway. They worry that we might do the same thing.

Lorraine is right a careful experimentation with your suggestions to select people who will show up positively and honestly will make a big difference.

By: Lorraine Cohen

Lorraine Cohen — Thu, 20 Mar 2008 21:38:24 +0000

Alex

I LOVE this post. In fact I think it’s a great one. It takes courage to be vulnerable and invite others to give feedback that helps you to grow as a person. I also think it takes a higher self-esteem to receive the information without personalizing it negatively and launching into defensiveness and explanation as you mentioned.

In January, I wrote a post on What Makes You Fabulous, Lovable, Wonderfull…? http://www.powerfull-living.biz/blog/2008/01/13/what-makes-you-fabulous-lovable-wonderfull/ with the same intention to solicit feedback as I was working through some healing on self-worth. While I was able to come up with things I saw in myself, receiving the loving comments from others was challenging – to let it in without deflecting it.

I encourage anyone reading your post to experiment with your suggestions with select people they feel will show up positively and honestly.

Cheers,

Lorraine
http://www.powerfull-living.biz/blog