Comments on: Tackle Happiness, Don’t Chase It

By: Warning! Being Happy Is Dangerous For Your Mind, Body, & Soul | Alex Shalman . com

Thu, 04 Sep 2008 19:41:12 +0000

[...] previously defined happiness as: “Happiness is being the creator of your experience, choosing to take pleasure in what you [...]

By: Fab Quotes Of The Week: Week 4 | Catherine Lawson

Fab Quotes Of The Week: Week 4 | Catherine Lawson — Mon, 14 Jul 2008 15:16:41 +0000

[...] More Fab Quotes of the Week “Happiness is being the creator of your experience, choosing to take pleasure in what you have, right now, regardless of the circumstances, while being the best you that you can be.” by Alex Shalman. [...]

By: Use A Bragging Journal To Harvest Every Success | Alex Shalman . com

Use A Bragging Journal To Harvest Every Success | Alex Shalman . com — Wed, 18 Jun 2008 21:50:57 +0000

[...] Personal Insight. The very fact that you take the time to write something in your journal will be a very monumental insight into who you are. Think about it, if your victory is purchasing a shirt for 50% off than it’s clear that you value either fashion and/or frugality. Your victories might be standing up to your boss, winning a fight, not eating that cake, or finding a mate tonight.By tracking what you consider your victories, over time, you may get to know more about yourself. You may decide to (#3) replicate your success, or change the patterns of what makes you happy. [...]

By: MrPositioning.com (Stanley Bronstein)

MrPositioning.com (Stanley Bronstein) — Fri, 18 Apr 2008 02:23:07 +0000

My experience is that most human beings like to have something to worry about or to complain about. That’s why they can be “happy” when bad things are happening to them.

It also explains why some people, who have absolutely no problems whatsoever, wind up getting so bored, that they start complaining about something, or creating problems, just so they can have something to be worried about.

For example, take a spouse who doesn’t have to work and can basically do whatever they want, whenever they want. Money is not a problem. Their health is not a problem. Having a crummy job is not an issue. They live a nice life. Basically, they live a life that 98% of the people on the face of this earth would love to have. Yet, despite all that, they complain, just because it gives them something to do.

People with problems are not bored. People without problems frequently get bored. Boredom makes them unhappy (as it would most people).

Stanley F. Bronstein
MrAchievement
Attorney, CPA, Author & Speaker
Official Guide to Achievement on SelfGrowth.com

By: Suzie Cheel

Suzie Cheel — Thu, 17 Apr 2008 22:58:49 +0000

Hi Alex,

I like your definition, so true we do have a choice, I am also for surronging myself with happy people and doing what feels good.

The post I did as part of your happiness Experiment has been a popular post on my post- so there are more and more people looking for info on happiness,

By: Debo Hobo

Debo Hobo — Thu, 17 Apr 2008 20:21:21 +0000

I was very please to take part in your Happiness Experiment on my blog. I have since then made sure that I remained focused on creating and maintaining happiness around me.

I think your definitaion of happiness is – right on!

By: Peg

Peg — Thu, 17 Apr 2008 18:19:45 +0000

Thank you for this Happiness Project. I’m going through a really hard time right now and it is very inspiring. It’s not easy to be happy when so much bad stuff is happening. But that is what it’s all about. Happiness not the stuff. Gratitude is key too. I’ve recently learned a different way of reflecting on what you are grateful for it especially helps when your really down. It’s called the ABC’s of gratitude. A is for answering the phone and hearing my daughters voice. B is for Big Hugs. C is for my cat who brings me to a calm place.
And so on it really works. Thanks Again for the project.

By: Chris Cade | Spiritual Stories & Parables

Chris Cade | Spiritual Stories & Parables — Thu, 17 Apr 2008 16:18:26 +0000

I really like that quote, Alex – I’ve added it to my “Quote of the Moment” script on my website along with a link back to your website. I am sure my readers will enjoy it, and hopefully learn to embody it if they don’t already.

By: Adam Kayce : Monk At Work

Adam Kayce : Monk At Work — Thu, 17 Apr 2008 13:28:36 +0000

I think you’re right on, Alex.

When I was a kid, I read a series of sci-fi/fantasy books called The Thomas Covenant Chronicles. There was a prominent character in there (a giant) called Saltheart Foamfollower, and he was always laughing when the protagonist was upset, frustrated, and being quite the victim.

When asked why he was always happy and laughing, the giant said, “Joy is in the ears that hear.” I’ve remembered that my whole life, and I think it’s true as can be. It’s about what we make of life that counts, not how external events go, or don’t, according to our preferences.

By: Jennifer | Ask Dan And Jennifer

Jennifer | Ask Dan And Jennifer — Thu, 17 Apr 2008 12:32:03 +0000

Alex is so right! Happiness IS a choice.

It’s a choice that you make every moment of every day and goes hand in hand with gratitude. Feeling joyful and being thankful for what you have right now in this moment will create more reasons in your life for you to feel joy and happiness!

When I was younger, I could never understand how my grandmother could be so happy even when things seemed to be going so bad. She always told me that happiness is a choice – only in the last few years did that really sink in…