Comments on: Creating Workability In Relationships Whether You’re Right or Wrong http://www.alexshalman.com/2008/05/20/working-relationship/ Practical Personal Development Wed, 01 Feb 2012 10:29:45 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Preeti http://www.alexshalman.com/2008/05/20/working-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-89442 Preeti Thu, 20 Nov 2008 10:44:45 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2008/05/20/working-relationship/#comment-89442 very well written.I usually end up isolating myself from people when my thoughts do not matches with the others.but at the end, i am the one who remains lonely. This article is really helpful !! very well written.I usually end up isolating myself from people when my thoughts do not matches with the others.but at the end, i am the one who remains lonely.
This article is really helpful !!

]]> By: Marina http://www.alexshalman.com/2008/05/20/working-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-52389 Marina Tue, 27 May 2008 13:34:08 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2008/05/20/working-relationship/#comment-52389 This is a great article! I feel so strongly that a very cynical world so focussed on looking good is equally competing on making others look bad. This fosters the greatest insecurities in people. By being conscious of how your word effects others, one becomes much more aware of impact, and how much he or she can have. This is awesome! This is a great article! I feel so strongly that a very cynical world so focussed on looking good is equally competing on making others look bad. This fosters the greatest insecurities in people. By being conscious of how your word effects others, one becomes much more aware of impact, and how much he or she can have. This is awesome!

]]> By: Shirley http://www.alexshalman.com/2008/05/20/working-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-52284 Shirley Mon, 26 May 2008 20:00:54 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2008/05/20/working-relationship/#comment-52284 Alex, I really like this article. Very well written. All your points were right on. I've heard these lessons before, but I obviously haven't learned them, because they really hit home. Especially about listening attentively (I like the idea of closing my eyes to focus on the caller), and "forget about being right," how true it is that people don't appreciate when you prove them wrong. And lastly, I loved #7. I've never heard about embarrassment "killing their soul," but I've certainly experienced the feeling. I don't want to do that to others. This is a great article for improving ANY relationship. Great work. Alex,
I really like this article. Very well written. All your points were right on. I’ve heard these lessons before, but I obviously haven’t learned them, because they really hit home. Especially about listening attentively (I like the idea of closing my eyes to focus on the caller), and “forget about being right,” how true it is that people don’t appreciate when you prove them wrong. And lastly, I loved #7. I’ve never heard about embarrassment “killing their soul,” but I’ve certainly experienced the feeling. I don’t want to do that to others.

This is a great article for improving ANY relationship. Great work.

]]> By: dexter http://www.alexshalman.com/2008/05/20/working-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-52265 dexter Mon, 26 May 2008 17:22:29 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2008/05/20/working-relationship/#comment-52265 Sometimes, it's alright to be right. It's in the delivery that matters. When one brags about being right, and in front of everyone else, it does more harm to the relationship than the initial intention of being right. One isn't after delivering what's right, one is after bloating once ego at the expense of another's. My history teacher once told me, "if you're right in class, and I'm wrong, please have the courtesy to tell me in private after class and not in front of my class." Also, being right and wrong is different from disagreeing ideas. So I guess its safe to voice out one's opinion by saying, "I disagree with your idea, but I still respect you.." then proceed to explaining why you disagree. Sometimes, it’s alright to be right. It’s in the delivery that matters. When one brags about being right, and in front of everyone else, it does more harm to the relationship than the initial intention of being right. One isn’t after delivering what’s right, one is after bloating once ego at the expense of another’s.

My history teacher once told me, “if you’re right in class, and I’m wrong, please have the courtesy to tell me in private after class and not in front of my class.” Also, being right and wrong is different from disagreeing ideas. So I guess its safe to voice out one’s opinion by saying, “I disagree with your idea, but I still respect you..” then proceed to explaining why you disagree.

]]> By: Warenwirtschaft http://www.alexshalman.com/2008/05/20/working-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-52099 Warenwirtschaft Sun, 25 May 2008 14:59:25 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2008/05/20/working-relationship/#comment-52099 Wow. I am impressed. There is one sentence that comes to my mind, reading statement #3 "Forget Right". "You can't win an argument in a relationship" The meaning of this sentence is that even if you are right and if you "win" the argument in the long run the relationship suffers. So in the end you loose again. The same message as yours, just in other words. Wow. I am impressed.
There is one sentence that comes to my mind, reading statement #3 “Forget Right”.
“You can’t win an argument in a relationship”
The meaning of this sentence is that even if you are right and if you “win” the argument in the long run the relationship suffers. So in the end you loose again.
The same message as yours, just in other words.

]]> By: Alex Shalman http://www.alexshalman.com/2008/05/20/working-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-51715 Alex Shalman Thu, 22 May 2008 15:00:17 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2008/05/20/working-relationship/#comment-51715 Hey Shamelle. I agree with you, it is hard sometimes, but it's designed that way because we appreciate the things that are hard to get much more. :) Hey Shamelle. I agree with you, it is hard sometimes, but it’s designed that way because we appreciate the things that are hard to get much more. :)

]]> By: Shamelle http://www.alexshalman.com/2008/05/20/working-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-51686 Shamelle Thu, 22 May 2008 09:24:16 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2008/05/20/working-relationship/#comment-51686 When one is caught up in "the moment", "Love them" and "No criticism" is something that's hard to practice. Nevertheless, its something we all need to build up on. I suppose to a certain extent we need to be patient as well ;-) When one is caught up in “the moment”, “Love them” and “No criticism” is something that’s hard to practice. Nevertheless, its something we all need to build up on.
I suppose to a certain extent we need to be patient as well ;-)

]]> By: Shilpan http://www.alexshalman.com/2008/05/20/working-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-51609 Shilpan Wed, 21 May 2008 17:23:48 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2008/05/20/working-relationship/#comment-51609 Alex, I agree with you. It's incredible how we ignore what nurtures human life, a relationship. Ignoring relation is akin to destroying bridge that takes you to the destination. Without the bridge, all you can see is a path, an object that you can't experience. All your points should help someone create awareness towards this subtle yet vital human aspect. Shilpan Alex,

I agree with you. It’s incredible how we ignore what nurtures human life, a relationship. Ignoring relation is akin to destroying bridge that takes you to the destination. Without the bridge, all you can see is a path, an object that you can’t experience. All your points should help someone create awareness towards this subtle yet vital human aspect.

Shilpan

]]> By: Alex Shalman http://www.alexshalman.com/2008/05/20/working-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-51522 Alex Shalman Tue, 20 May 2008 21:52:36 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2008/05/20/working-relationship/#comment-51522 Hey Adam, I'm not sure about the logistics of soul-killing... will ask a higher authority on this matter. =) As far as I statement, I think they're really helpful. It's different when you're using I statements, being intuitive, and asking if what you think is correct, versus assuming that you are definitely correct, and not even double checking with the person... You make great points. =) Hey Adam,

I’m not sure about the logistics of soul-killing… will ask a higher authority on this matter. =)

As far as I statement, I think they’re really helpful. It’s different when you’re using I statements, being intuitive, and asking if what you think is correct, versus assuming that you are definitely correct, and not even double checking with the person…

You make great points. =)

]]> By: Adam Donkus http://www.alexshalman.com/2008/05/20/working-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-51521 Adam Donkus Tue, 20 May 2008 21:47:28 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2008/05/20/working-relationship/#comment-51521 So if embarassing someone is like killing their soul, then that show punked kills peoples souls. Number 6, What about using I statements such as "What I think you are saying is...." Would that be interpreting? So if embarassing someone is like killing their soul, then that show punked kills peoples souls.

Number 6, What about using I statements such as “What I think you are saying is….” Would that be interpreting?

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