Comments on: Quit Trying To Become A Better Person — Transform http://www.alexshalman.com/2008/05/23/quit-trying-to-become-a-better-person-transform/ Practical Personal Development Sat, 31 Jul 2010 01:57:16 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Sonia http://www.alexshalman.com/2008/05/23/quit-trying-to-become-a-better-person-transform/comment-page-1/#comment-59677 Sonia Wed, 16 Jul 2008 00:43:57 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2008/05/23/quit-trying-to-become-a-better-person-transform/#comment-59677 I've been blog hopping all night and read lots of blogs within this field of self-discovery etc. and I was wondering when I'd come across a[n obvious] Landmark Graduate! Keep up the great work with your website! //The possibility I am inventing for myself and my life is the possibility of being an open, trusting, courageous, honest and loving person. To be myself with everyone because I am me. //I am giving up lying, letting my fears stop me from doing what I want to do and running rackets on people. //I have taken responsibility for my actions in my life and if I lie, for example, I will take the responsibility to face the consequences and to complete the action so I can move on from it as a complete person. This has stuck with me ever since my 'genesis' on 7th August 2005. Complete transformation and I've been on cloud 9 ever since, pretty much. Powerful stuff! I’ve been blog hopping all night and read lots of blogs within this field of self-discovery etc. and I was wondering when I’d come across a[n obvious] Landmark Graduate! Keep up the great work with your website!

//The possibility I am inventing for myself and my life is the possibility of being an open, trusting, courageous, honest and loving person. To be myself with everyone because I am me.

//I am giving up lying, letting my fears stop me from doing what I want to do and running rackets on people.

//I have taken responsibility for my actions in my life and if I lie, for example, I will take the responsibility to face the consequences and to complete the action so I can move on from it as a complete person.

This has stuck with me ever since my ‘genesis’ on 7th August 2005. Complete transformation and I’ve been on cloud 9 ever since, pretty much. Powerful stuff!

]]> By: Learn How To Trick The Mind To Success | mindsecretsexposed.com http://www.alexshalman.com/2008/05/23/quit-trying-to-become-a-better-person-transform/comment-page-1/#comment-52997 Learn How To Trick The Mind To Success | mindsecretsexposed.com Sun, 01 Jun 2008 12:13:21 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2008/05/23/quit-trying-to-become-a-better-person-transform/#comment-52997 [...] songs, there are special messages embedded in it. These messages however cannot be detected to your consciously. Only your subconscious mind can detect it and these positive affirmations or messages that are [...] [...] songs, there are special messages embedded in it. These messages however cannot be detected to your consciously. Only your subconscious mind can detect it and these positive affirmations or messages that are [...]

]]> By: Michael Miles http://www.alexshalman.com/2008/05/23/quit-trying-to-become-a-better-person-transform/comment-page-1/#comment-52863 Michael Miles Sat, 31 May 2008 13:51:01 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2008/05/23/quit-trying-to-become-a-better-person-transform/#comment-52863 While we all should strive to improve, we are (in a sense) already perfect. There is always more to achieve, always a greater mountain to scale. But in a spiritual sense we are all that we need to be, and we can rest secure in this knowledge. Thanks for a great post, as always. While we all should strive to improve, we are (in a sense) already perfect. There is always more to achieve, always a greater mountain to scale. But in a spiritual sense we are all that we need to be, and we can rest secure in this knowledge. Thanks for a great post, as always.

]]> By: Kaled | SuccessElixir.net http://www.alexshalman.com/2008/05/23/quit-trying-to-become-a-better-person-transform/comment-page-1/#comment-52432 Kaled | SuccessElixir.net Tue, 27 May 2008 20:27:22 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2008/05/23/quit-trying-to-become-a-better-person-transform/#comment-52432 Hi Alex, I like your happiness definition... writing this kind of statements will require a deep understanding of our true values... and I remember when I wrote down my values the first time, I got a VERY clear vision of who I am & what I want. but, writing a clear vision-mission statement is NOT easy to do. considering that self-improvement is on-going process. so, from time to time, you will update your personal 'agenda' as you learn & grow. Hi Alex,

I like your happiness definition…

writing this kind of statements will require a deep understanding of our true values… and I remember when I wrote down my values the first time, I got a VERY clear vision of who I am & what I want.

but, writing a clear vision-mission statement is NOT easy to do. considering that self-improvement is on-going process. so, from time to time, you will update your personal ‘agenda’ as you learn & grow.

]]> By: Warenwirtschaft http://www.alexshalman.com/2008/05/23/quit-trying-to-become-a-better-person-transform/comment-page-1/#comment-52097 Warenwirtschaft Sun, 25 May 2008 14:55:11 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2008/05/23/quit-trying-to-become-a-better-person-transform/#comment-52097 I like it, that you have a mission-statement and that you frequently come back to it to find direction in it. I love your statements 2,3,4 and 6. They have the possibility to guide you through everyday decisions and that is the purpose of a mission-statement. But i think statements 1 and 4 could be more useful. How can they guide you in a everyday-decision? For me they are not specific enough to help you. Especially statement 4 (familiy) covers a very important topic but it has no message on its own. Of course all the other statements help you with this topic as well and i think thats the reason it may work for you. Thanks for sharing your mission. I think everybody needs one and all in all your statements belong to the best i have ever heard of. I like it, that you have a mission-statement and that you frequently come back to it to find direction in it. I love your statements 2,3,4 and 6. They have the possibility to guide you through everyday decisions and that is the purpose of a mission-statement.
But i think statements 1 and 4 could be more useful. How can they guide you in a everyday-decision? For me they are not specific enough to help you.
Especially statement 4 (familiy) covers a very important topic but it has no message on its own. Of course all the other statements help you with this topic as well and i think thats the reason it may work for you.
Thanks for sharing your mission. I think everybody needs one and all in all your statements belong to the best i have ever heard of.

]]> By: Francesco http://www.alexshalman.com/2008/05/23/quit-trying-to-become-a-better-person-transform/comment-page-1/#comment-52039 Francesco Sun, 25 May 2008 06:05:14 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2008/05/23/quit-trying-to-become-a-better-person-transform/#comment-52039 Every one is not successful in life and every one is not perfect in life. If one wants to change some of his attributes than it is very difficult he should totally transform himself and show the world that who he was and no who he is. Every one is not successful in life and every one is not perfect in life. If one wants to change some of his attributes than it is very difficult he should totally transform himself and show the world that who he was and no who he is.

]]> By: Francesco http://www.alexshalman.com/2008/05/23/quit-trying-to-become-a-better-person-transform/comment-page-1/#comment-51969 Francesco Sat, 24 May 2008 20:35:53 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2008/05/23/quit-trying-to-become-a-better-person-transform/#comment-51969 The points mentioned in the article are worth concentrating upon. I think that these would surely help a person change himself. The points mentioned in the article are worth concentrating upon. I think that these would surely help a person change himself.

]]> By: Doug Rosbury http://www.alexshalman.com/2008/05/23/quit-trying-to-become-a-better-person-transform/comment-page-1/#comment-51952 Doug Rosbury Sat, 24 May 2008 17:32:53 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2008/05/23/quit-trying-to-become-a-better-person-transform/#comment-51952 You are now all you will ever be If you believe in yourself as the spirit within your body, rather than the personality surrounding it. Attaining success, therefore, consists in being yourself and being grateful for who you are. If you seek "Human" success, you will become a karmic prisoner and beholden to all those to whom you owe favors. Be here now and mind your own business and leave others alone and don't allow others to tell you how to live or think or especially how to beleive.--- ---Doug You are now all you will ever be If you believe in yourself as the spirit within your body, rather than the personality surrounding it. Attaining success, therefore, consists in being yourself and being grateful for who you are. If you seek “Human” success, you will become a karmic prisoner and beholden to all those to whom you owe favors. Be here now and mind your own business and leave others alone and don’t allow others to tell you how to live or think or especially how to beleive.—
—Doug

]]> By: Shilpan | successsoul.com http://www.alexshalman.com/2008/05/23/quit-trying-to-become-a-better-person-transform/comment-page-1/#comment-51882 Shilpan | successsoul.com Sat, 24 May 2008 04:26:16 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2008/05/23/quit-trying-to-become-a-better-person-transform/#comment-51882 Alex, You reminded us that everyone should have a mission statement. With that said, Zen Buddhists have tendency to live in the present and do best now where we are with given circumstances. What we do now shapes our future. What we think of future by ignoring present shakes our future. Shilpan Alex,

You reminded us that everyone should have a mission statement. With that said, Zen Buddhists have tendency to live in the present and do best now where we are with given circumstances. What we do now shapes our future. What we think of future by ignoring present shakes our future.

Shilpan

]]> By: Alex Shalman http://www.alexshalman.com/2008/05/23/quit-trying-to-become-a-better-person-transform/comment-page-1/#comment-51877 Alex Shalman Sat, 24 May 2008 03:36:38 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2008/05/23/quit-trying-to-become-a-better-person-transform/#comment-51877 I would love to hear more about how you view yourself as a gardener. I remember Steve Pavlina using a similar metaphor when he described his physical body as an avatar in a game and himself as a player. I agree that there are huge benefits to dropping ego, but on the other hand society would never be developed if ego did not exist. I would love to hear more about how you view yourself as a gardener. I remember Steve Pavlina using a similar metaphor when he described his physical body as an avatar in a game and himself as a player. I agree that there are huge benefits to dropping ego, but on the other hand society would never be developed if ego did not exist.

]]> By: 4 Mind 4 Life http://www.alexshalman.com/2008/05/23/quit-trying-to-become-a-better-person-transform/comment-page-1/#comment-51851 4 Mind 4 Life Fri, 23 May 2008 22:36:27 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2008/05/23/quit-trying-to-become-a-better-person-transform/#comment-51851 Hey Alex, I agree that "being" is much more fulfilling than "trying to become." I think that self-improvement is a great, fulfilling process that will ultimately lead to greater clarity, depth, perception and HAPPINESS in our lives. With all that said, I think that it is important to be grateful for who we ARE at this exact moment / "in the now," and that's where we will be able to be the most happy. It can be difficult for some people to stop focusing on "what they should do" rather than what they should "BE." I understand your post and really enjoy the work you've done here with your blog. This article definitely made me think. Keep up the great work :) Hey Alex, I agree that “being” is much more fulfilling than “trying to become.” I think that self-improvement is a great, fulfilling process that will ultimately lead to greater clarity, depth, perception and HAPPINESS in our lives. With all that said, I think that it is important to be grateful for who we ARE at this exact moment / “in the now,” and that’s where we will be able to be the most happy. It can be difficult for some people to stop focusing on “what they should do” rather than what they should “BE.”

I understand your post and really enjoy the work you’ve done here with your blog. This article definitely made me think. Keep up the great work :)

]]> By: Jean Browman--Cheerful Monk http://www.alexshalman.com/2008/05/23/quit-trying-to-become-a-better-person-transform/comment-page-1/#comment-51833 Jean Browman--Cheerful Monk Fri, 23 May 2008 18:13:37 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2008/05/23/quit-trying-to-become-a-better-person-transform/#comment-51833 I've always focused on personal growth rather than achievement in the worldly sense. I think of myself as a garden...I'm constantly gently pulling the weeds and nurturing the flowers. So even though I've used a lot of positive, present-tense, affirmations in my life, similar to your mission statement, I identify more with the gardener rather than the garden. It's a liberating way of looking at things, because it gets my ego out of the way...I don't identify with my actions, I focus on my purpose, larger vision. Interesting. Thanks for the food for thought! I've Stumbled this article. I’ve always focused on personal growth rather than achievement in the worldly sense. I think of myself as a garden…I’m constantly gently pulling the weeds and nurturing the flowers. So even though I’ve used a lot of positive, present-tense, affirmations in my life, similar to your mission statement, I identify more with the gardener rather than the garden. It’s a liberating way of looking at things, because it gets my ego out of the way…I don’t identify with my actions, I focus on my purpose, larger vision. Interesting.

Thanks for the food for thought! I’ve Stumbled this article.

]]> By: Alex Shalman http://www.alexshalman.com/2008/05/23/quit-trying-to-become-a-better-person-transform/comment-page-1/#comment-51830 Alex Shalman Fri, 23 May 2008 17:31:21 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2008/05/23/quit-trying-to-become-a-better-person-transform/#comment-51830 Robert, you're correct about the meaning of that sentence. Thanks. =) Robert, you’re correct about the meaning of that sentence. Thanks. =)

]]> By: Robert A. Henru http://www.alexshalman.com/2008/05/23/quit-trying-to-become-a-better-person-transform/comment-page-1/#comment-51829 Robert A. Henru Fri, 23 May 2008 17:20:31 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2008/05/23/quit-trying-to-become-a-better-person-transform/#comment-51829 Hi Alex, i didn't get your sentence here... However, if I want to be kind and compassionate, I merely have to create that possibility for my life and transform. that possibility that i'm kind and compassionate? Btw, I recently go through an exercise, shared by my friend. It's useful to find your career direction, the one that fit you the most. Interestingly it's similar as your personal mission... we have to list down all of I am ...., not I should .... , It's about who you are right now and how you can grow with who you are, with what you have, strength and limitation... You got it right Alex! Robert Hi Alex, i didn’t get your sentence here…
However, if I want to be kind and compassionate, I merely have to create that possibility for my life and transform.

that possibility that i’m kind and compassionate?

Btw, I recently go through an exercise, shared by my friend. It’s useful to find your career direction, the one that fit you the most. Interestingly it’s similar as your personal mission… we have to list down all of I am …., not I should …. , It’s about who you are right now and how you can grow with who you are, with what you have, strength and limitation… You got it right Alex!
Robert

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