http://www.alexshalman.com/2008/06/01/5-ways-to-make-a-negative-experience-more-positive/ Practical Personal Development Wed, 17 Mar 2010 17:33:47 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.2 hourly 1 http://www.alexshalman.com/2008/06/01/5-ways-to-make-a-negative-experience-more-positive/comment-page-1/#comment-74804 Turning Negative Experiences Positive | Good Thoughts Mon, 22 Sep 2008 13:53:22 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2008/06/01/5-ways-to-make-a-negative-experience-more-positive/#comment-74804 [...] the Alex Shalman blog, there is a post that is all about this and it is well worth a read. It presents just 5 ways in which you can [...] [...] the Alex Shalman blog, there is a post that is all about this and it is well worth a read. It presents just 5 ways in which you can [...]

]]> http://www.alexshalman.com/2008/06/01/5-ways-to-make-a-negative-experience-more-positive/comment-page-1/#comment-58304 Beautiful Scraps Sun, 06 Jul 2008 14:04:26 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2008/06/01/5-ways-to-make-a-negative-experience-more-positive/#comment-58304 It's all in the mind.. How we take things.. A negative thought can also be taken as a step to success.. It’s all in the mind.. How we take things.. A negative thought can also be taken as a step to success..

]]> http://www.alexshalman.com/2008/06/01/5-ways-to-make-a-negative-experience-more-positive/comment-page-1/#comment-53156 Flimjo Mon, 02 Jun 2008 15:21:37 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2008/06/01/5-ways-to-make-a-negative-experience-more-positive/#comment-53156 I think right in line with "finding a purpose" to your experience is asking yourself the following question: What did I learn from this? You will always learn something from a negative experience, and the purpose of that mini-education is using what you learned in the future to benefit you and others. I think right in line with “finding a purpose” to your experience is asking yourself the following question: What did I learn from this? You will always learn something from a negative experience, and the purpose of that mini-education is using what you learned in the future to benefit you and others.

]]> http://www.alexshalman.com/2008/06/01/5-ways-to-make-a-negative-experience-more-positive/comment-page-1/#comment-53087 Shoebox Mon, 02 Jun 2008 04:27:27 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2008/06/01/5-ways-to-make-a-negative-experience-more-positive/#comment-53087 I agree with number 5 above (Set a new goal to work towards.). As long as one has a desire for a goal, you get into a state of "flow" and all negative experiences seems to diminsh in relative size. I agree with number 5 above (Set a new goal to work towards.). As long as one has a desire for a goal, you get into a state of “flow” and all negative experiences seems to diminsh in relative size.

]]> http://www.alexshalman.com/2008/06/01/5-ways-to-make-a-negative-experience-more-positive/comment-page-1/#comment-53086 Shoebox Mon, 02 Jun 2008 04:27:07 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2008/06/01/5-ways-to-make-a-negative-experience-more-positive/#comment-53086 I would stick to number 5 above (Set a new goal to work towards.). As long as one has a desire for a goal, you get into a state of "flow" and all negative experiences seems to diminsh in relative size. I would stick to number 5 above (Set a new goal to work towards.). As long as one has a desire for a goal, you get into a state of “flow” and all negative experiences seems to diminsh in relative size.

]]> http://www.alexshalman.com/2008/06/01/5-ways-to-make-a-negative-experience-more-positive/comment-page-1/#comment-53059 Marelisa Sun, 01 Jun 2008 23:01:10 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/blog/2008/06/01/5-ways-to-make-a-negative-experience-more-positive/#comment-53059 Hi Heather: A lot of people feel the need to understand why something negative happened to them. Although it's important to learn from your mistakes, getting stuck in a spiral of asking "Why did this happen to me?" doesn't solve anything and in fact keeps you stuck in the past. In addition to the suggestions you make in your post (and I especially agree with the humor suggestion), you should ask questions that will direct your mind to thinking of positive terms, such as: -What can I learn from this? -What is the best way to move forward? -What would I do from a position of a power? -What advice would I give a loved one who finds him/herself in a similar situation? Hi Heather: A lot of people feel the need to understand why something negative happened to them. Although it’s important to learn from your mistakes, getting stuck in a spiral of asking “Why did this happen to me?” doesn’t solve anything and in fact keeps you stuck in the past. In addition to the suggestions you make in your post (and I especially agree with the humor suggestion), you should ask questions that will direct your mind to thinking of positive terms, such as:
-What can I learn from this?
-What is the best way to move forward?
-What would I do from a position of a power?
-What advice would I give a loved one who finds him/herself in a similar situation?

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