10 Simple Ways To Commit Suicide

10 Simple Ways To Commit Suicide

If you’ve come here with the intention of ending your life you’ve come to the right place. However, instead of the usual ‘how to end your life’ guides I’m going to list some of the ways in which you’ve already been killing yourself.

“To make yourself something less than you can be – that too is a form of suicide”
~Benjamin Lichtenberg

Suicide is the act of taking one’s life, but I think it’s suicide not to live our life to the fullest of our abilities and potential — with love, passion, and vitality.

If you aren’t loving the life you live, you’re already dead (or at least en route, ETA — soon). Use this article as an eye opener, if you will, and if there are some areas of your life heading south, see to it that you stop pressing the trigger.

1. Make Money Your Life.

I’ve seen this problem rise up too many times before. Many of my college friends, who were so goal oriented and ambitious have found themselves struck with depression because they realize that their hopes and dreams are just a socially conditioned desire entirely dependent upon their monetary success.

We put so much meaning to money that we fail to recognize that it’s an inanimate object like any other. The truth is that money is green paper, something entirely bereft of depth and no testament to our personal value. That’s just the point! If you do value a green piece of paper as yourself, you are committing suicide.

2. Detrimental Food Choices.

Think of your body as a machine. Every time you fill up on low-grade fuel, your engine is deteriorating. Likewise, if you take the easy way out – this can mean binging on junk food or eliminating food altogether instead of following a healthy diet – you’re killing your precious organs and slowly taking your life.

Fad diets and quick-fixes aren’t the solution. Life is a work in progress that requires our constant and consistent attention. Just like a machine, our body must be kept well-oiled, receive proper maintenance, and not be abused if we expect it to last.

3. Destroying The Environment.

The legacy that we leave behind is solely based on our descendants. Whether it be the offspring of our offspring, or the future generations to follow, by destroying the environment, you are effectively making it harder for these people to survive.

If they don’t have an earth to call home, then whatever you’ve done, and however you’ve contributed to the world dies with them.We are so obsessed with our own property that we fail to see the greater picture. Learn to think of the earth that you live in as your home, all of it’s bountiful gifts as our access to pleasure, and our responsibility to keep it in the healthiest of conditions.

4. Isolating Yourself From Family, Friends, and Society.

Our inability to come to terms with people, whether they be our loved ones, or others that we co-exist with, is a product of our self-righteousness.

We have to learn to embrace workability at the expense of being right.Instead of seeing people as relative to our expectations, we can choose to see people as endless possibilities. This means giving up being right, in favor of harmonious and fulfilling relationships.

5. Allowing Your Judgments To Rule Your Life.

We can make what we think about people as a whole and as individuals the ultimate guide to our lives. By living that people are manipulative, or ultimately out to get us, we’re creating a world for ourselves in which we’re the victims. We can choose to live a life in which people are brilliant. We can choose to see faults as occasional bad apples rather than virtues as occasional good ones.

We must understand that our judgment is not outside of ourselves and that we can convince ourselves of anything and live accordingly. Have you ever noticed that when you deem someone a bad person, everything they do is not genuine, by default? This is because our judgment has created a world of its own, creating a defense mechanism that is not always good or necessary and may make you more cynical, not happy.

6. Usage of Alcohol, Drugs & Very Excessive Smoking.

Don’t do it — need I say more? Okay, I will. By surrounding yourself with people whose attention is focused around such activities you are leaving yourself wide open to their influence.

The idea isn’t to prove day in and day out how strong and resilient you can be. Eventually you’re liable to have a moment of weakness. Do yourself a favor and surround yourself with people you admire, so that emulating them will be a blessing.

7. Forgetting Your Dreams.

Throughout the course of our life we are all capable of losing sight of our dreams and become susceptible to surviving life instead of living it. This can come in the form of not doing what we love, making excuses for our lack of drive, and allowing others to access our limits.

Not that dreams can’t change over time, they should, but we allow them to adapt only to ourselves instead of to our circumstances. People will always have an opinion, but it is important to remember that we are not puppets and are not obligated to live into another persons vision.

8. Giving Up On Growth.

Did you know that a shark must be moving forward at all times? The water runs through it’s gills, providing the required oxygen to sustain life. They’re even moving while asleep. In much the same way human beings must be subject to constant and never ending improvement in order to maintain happiness and fulfillment.

A person that stays still, much like a stagnant body of water, will become infested with doubt, and soiled with insecurities. We’re living in a world of change, so we must embrace change, instead of fearing and avoiding it.

9. Losing Your Individualism.

It’s important to realize that in the grand scheme of things we’re nothing — quite insignificant. However, in order for us to avoid being swallowed up by the latest drivel to come by our senses we must maintain a strong sense of who we are.

Nothing else will keep us from being the victim of a charismatic dictator, an overbearing bully, an infomercial, or an enticing breach of morality. We must choose, not be chosen for.

10. Apathy.

If indifference is the toxic that lacerates relationships, apathy is the venom that leaves us to a slow and painful demise. When the words “I Don’t care” begin to carry that same meaning, we must be on alert!

Once people give up on themselves they’re giving up on everything. Their lives become a day to day search for the minimalist pleasures that leave them believing that their lives are as good as they will ever be, with no hope for beauty, joy, and fulfillment. This is the paradigm of suicide.

“You have a choice. Live or die. Every breath is a choice. Every minute is a choice. To be or not to be.”
~Chuck Palahniuk

Conclusion

If this article applies to you, you are far from alone. We all have points at which we feel like giving up because we are lonely or unhappy. The most important thing to grasp is that we make the choice
to be lonely, to be unhappy, to be victims of circumstance, rather than vessels of possibility. It is, however, this realization that we are the arbiters of our fate, that can save us and serve us. There is
always hope.


Suicide Advice

I’ve recently had the pleasure of interviewing a top self-improvement expert Steve Pavlina. I asked Steve what advice he has for people that have reached their last rope in life, and that are considering suicide as an option. You can listened to his suicide advice on the interview I did with Steve.

Note: Comments are closed on articles older than 2 weeks, so you can always comment on one of the newer articles.


This article is co-written by Alex Shalman and Marina Tsipenyuk.

 

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  • http://shanelyang.com/blogs/articles/ Shanel Yang

    Choosing the wrong friends is another slow way to kill your dreams. I write about that at http://shanelyang.com/2008/08/04/all-about-you-day-7-peers-allies-enemies/

  • http://www.thechangeblog.com Peter

    Alex,

    Really enjoyed this article. It’s confrontational, but that’s what wake up calls are all about.

    ps – love the new design.

  • http://www.linkedin.com/in/lewishowes Lewis

    Always follow what you are most passionate about.

    What would you be doing if you had all of the money in the world, and finances were not an issue? Thats the idea I get out of this post. We should be doing what we want to do, what we love to do, and what makes up happy (leagally of course)

    Great post

  • http://cheerfulmonk.com Jean Browman–Cheerful Monk

    I was lucky enough to be depressed as a kid because I was bored out of my mind…it was a yucky feeling, yucky enough for me to figure out how not to go there again. That experience has been a great motivator for me ever since.

    About not making judgments…that’s one thing my latest post, This Mystery Called Life, at Cheerful Monk is about: http://cheerfulmonk.com/2008/08/04/this-mystery-called-life/ Commitment and Practice at Transforming Stress is also relevant to this post: http://stresstopower.com/blog/2008/08/03/commitment-and-practice/

    As you can see, I’m not a victim of circumstances. Thanks for reminding me…I’ve been taking that for granted. :)

  • http://www.pixelheadonline.com/blog/ PixelHead

    I was a little worried at the beginning of the article Alex, but it did change quickly. Thankfully you have not taken a turn for the worse.
    It does seem that when we feel there is no hope, then suicide becomes an attractive alternative to dealing with our problems.

  • http://www.waynejohn.com Wayne

    Good stuff…I can say that over half of those items apply directly to me. I’m always trying to improve myself, but some things are best taken in steps. My focus now is quitting smoking, but there’s this hope that I can bring in enough money to help make the mortgage each month, which only pushes me harder, and I end up maintaining my smoke-filled environment. Sigh…vicious circle that’s hard to break.

    Thanks for putting this out there. It’s making me think differently about a few things.

    Cheers!

  • http://www.alexshalman.com Alex Shalman

    @Wayne — Cold-turkey buddy, that’s the best way to go. I’m not sure how much you smoke, or what you pay per pack, but a pack a day at $5 is roughly $150, which is a nice chunk of change to add to the mortgage. Just something else to think about =)

  • http://anjamerret.com Anja Merret

    Great new site. Just your video link doesn’t seem to work. Could be a Safari issue of course.

  • http://www.alexshalman.com Alex Shalman

    @Anja — It’s not you, it’s me, really. Hehe. The link doesn’t work because I haven’t set it up. I’m still tweaking stuff :)

  • http://www.socialmediamom.com Kristen

    This is a fantastic list. I was wondering the best way to go about doing this so this gives me a few ideas. LOL

  • http://www.reason4smile.com Robert A. Henru

    The richest place in the world is the graveyard. Because it’s a place where so many potentials have not been uncovered and turned into reality.
    I hope we all will not become a living graveyard, what a waste of the opportunity we have.

    Great post, Alex!
    Robert

  • matt

    one day at a time thats the way I try to live today, this is the only moment there is, it’s also my name odatmatt . great site thanks

  • http://illuminatedmind.net Jonathan Mead

    Dude, I thought you were serious when you wrote that title.

    This is more of like a slow death. Dying one day at a time.

  • http://www.alexshalman.com Alex Shalman

    So far over 100 people clicked through to Metanoi. I hope it’s because they’re curious, and not because they need it! Although, if it helps you, do your thing, and feel better.

  • http://www.expressyourselftosuccess.com Laurie

    Great list. Living life by dying slowly. Well done.

  • http://www.martialdevelopment.com/blog/ Chris | Martial Development

    I respectfully disagree with point number 4. If you only know yourself in relation to others, then you do not know yourself at all; there is hardly any “self” to commit suicide without self-knowledge, which seems to require isolation for its fruition.

    The excessively goal-oriented lifestyle is another form of suicide, as far as it mortgages the present (which is all that really exists) for the indefinite future (which does not really exist).

  • http://cheerfulmonk.com Jean Browman–Cheerful Monk

    Chris,
    I don’t believe Alex is saying we should never spend time alone…to me he’s just saying be tolerant and don’t think your way of doing things is the only way. Relationships are important, too. I touch on being nonjudgmental in my last post, This Mystery Called Life.

    I tend to agree with you that being excessively goal-oriented is a form of suicide if it sacrifices the present. I sometimes set goals, but I do it for the fun of having something to aim at, not for the achievement.

    Thank you both for the food for thought.

  • http://stanleybronstein.com MrAchievement (Stanley Bronstein)

    Article is great. I’m not crazy about the title though, BUT it did get people’s attention.

    Stanley F. Bronstein
    MrAchievement

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  • http://www.ayeshaparveen.blogspot.com ayesha parveen

    great post, highly motivating

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  • Milton

    I am trying hard to have something interesting in being alive, but I can’t find one. I worry about try a wrong way and do not get the goal. I need to know a way that does not hurt (if possible) and without any possibility it does not work. Thank you for your attention.

  • http://stresstopower.com Jean Browman–Transforming Stress

    Milton,
    Unfortunately there are no guarantees in life. Most successful people have failed many times, but they keep trying. In fact, people often feel liberated by their failures because they realize they’re much stronger than they thought. The experience gives them courage.

    You seem to be saying that you’re not interested in anything right now? That’s a natural consequence of trying to protect ourselves too much…we cut ourselves off from life. See Optimizing Stress for more details.

  • http://www.im-new-at-making-money-online.com Brad Spencer

    For starters, this article’s headline is one of the catchiest that I’ve ever seen. I noticed it immediately.

    Then, when I got to the body of the article, I was blown away by how many of these things I actually do. My diet isn’t always the greatest and I’m WAY too goal oriented. I’m a lot better than I used to be but I really enjoy being reminded of my weaknesses so I never take the work I’ve done to combat them for granted.

    Thanks for a very big reminder of the things that I’m working on improving in my life.

    Cheers,

    Brad Spencer

  • aminah

    nyc i tnk its a gud website and i hav alraeady did this

  • http://axelg.com/suicidal-depression.html axel g

    Great site Alex!

    I’m glad you’re bringing up this topic.

    There are ways to prevent suicide.

    Let’s keep the discussion alive…

  • babita

    my self babita married since last 3 years my husband is very good but sometimes i can’t understand he gives more importance to outsiders then me which i really don;t like , i m pregnent og 6 months but still i just want ot get rid of my life forever. pls help me.

  • Nataly

    my life is totally screwed up!!nothing is right::my health,my family,my friends,no money,my boyfriend…all are screwd am sick of everything i cant wait to die and feel happy just once in my life!!!

  • patrick

    my whole life is messed up every facet of it people talk about me on tv and the radio and laugh in my face while doing it i have nothing to be hopefully for my whole day consists of figuring out ways to kill my self. i cant wait to die its all i think about its the worst place you can be in i wish somone would just shoot me in my head

  • Angelique

    I have had way too many problems in my life I have attempted suicide on the 26th of June with an overdose of tablets but they got me to hospital in time I am so upset they did not leave me there to die. I want to die I came on this website in the hope that I would get good strong advice on how to kill myself very quickly without having to feel any pain. Life sucks how can anyone think we have something to live some of us just never get where we need to be others are completely lucky I guess I am not one of them.

  • http://www.alexshalman.com Alex Shalman

    Alright, I discussed this subject with a couple of people, and I have two pieces of advice for the people contemplating suicide. It may or may not be something you want to take a look at, but if you don’t care as is, you might as well give it a try.

    1) Pick one thing that is positive about your life right now. Any one thing at all that you like about your life, or about the world. Think about how you can do more of that.

    2) Create some goals. Create a couple of 1 month goals for yourself. It will give you something to look forward to, even something small, which will make things more fun for you.

    I’ll talk more about these, and a few more ideas in a future post, so subscribe, and wait for it to come out ;)

  • Angelique

    Hi there Alex I am not saying that there have not been any good that has taken place in my life but not so long ago in March I broke my engagement off with my ex he made fun of me in front of his family and even his family had no regard for me he was very abusive emotionally and mentally I have started going for counselling but to be honest it has not helped me much, also I am in a lot of financial problems I have a new boyfriend we started dating on the 4th of June but this man has started lying to me and cheated on me so I feel so hopeless I really feel like there is not much left for me here. I am 29 years of age I was never married let alone I don’t know what it feels like to be pregnant it feels like I will never experience the joys of being married with of course its trials and tribulations but also I want to be a mother and it feels like my biological clock is ticking away very fast so do you see I have nothing to live for?

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  • huck finn

    friends,
    i have a clue if you really want to be happy: don’t think!!!, thinking can lead us to anywhere and drives us crazy so stop thinking. this is a piece of advice i assure you 100% happiness.
    everyday, maintain a clear mind, no thinking mind, put down all your ideas, thoughts and all sorts of thinking.
    so what to do now????
    just maintain before thinking mind, just do it mind. just see things as they are…
    ponder on this “when you sit, just sit, when you walk , just walk in everything you do don’t wobble”
    check me how it works… (hdrozone@yahoo.com) hear ya!!!

  • Lauren

    Hello, Im Lauren. Well tonight i’m gonna commit suicide. I chose to do this, and its all going to happen. My life sucks; im pregnant by this kid i dont like, and i told my boyfriend i was and now he hates me. I love this kid tony, and he doesnt love me back. Im always being picked on at school for being emo, and i really dont have that many friends. If im making a mistake its my fault. I know that doing this will make things better, no one will miss me i just made there life harder. So by the time you read this im gonna be gone, so i just wanted to say i love ya’, and i hope u guys have a great life.

  • http://www.waynejohn.com Wayne

    Ah hell. Screw it, me too, I’m done.

    nice.

  • Angelique

    Hi Lauren not so long ago had suicide thoughts I don’t think it would be wise for you to even consider doing this to yourself. You are going to have a baby it is an honour please don’t do it, it is woman like me who wishes I had a baby please I hope it is not to late please don’t try it right now you may think there is no way out but there is and you are not looking at the big picture you are blessed God is your provider and he will never leave you nor forsake you please dearest Lauren do not do such foolish things it really is not worth it why not email me back so we can chat please I hope I get this to you in time.

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  • Shamesha

    Please give me some tips on how to kill myself – painlessly of course. Cause I really think it’s time to go.

  • Angelique

    Dear Shamesha
    Like I said to Lauren it is not worth it please I tried it don’t do it whatever you feeling rather talk to me like this maybe I can help change your mind before you do anything silly please re-consider your request Life does have a whole lot more to offer trust me.

  • Angelique

    If there is anyone out there who even thinks for a minute that suicide is the way out you are way over your head! Please with this site I think we should use it more to help one another work through this, suicide it not an option. You are only being selfish! Give yourself a break give life a chance if it was meant for you to die you would have been dead by now. Pull yourself together and remind yourself of what a special person you are and what a difference you can make in someone’s life. Remember life is not cheap it is a honour and priviledge to be here we just need to learn how to make the best of this world live life you can do it to hell with the other ignorant people they will just want to see you dead DON’T GIVE THEM THE SATISFACTION!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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  • http://www.alexshalman.com Alex Shalman

    For further communication on this topic please see the article on suicide stories.

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