If you learn to check yourself and your motives, and feel that you’re going to resent the person or thing that you’re committing to, you are doing it for the wrong reasons. Most people feel they are helping others, when their motives are truly still selfish in that their looking for something in return. Whether it be acceptance, being viewed as “helpful” or are expecting that the person now ‘owes them one,’ their motives are insincere.

“Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.”
-Ghandi

The key to happiness is accepting ourselves for who we are, and that it IS enough. Thus we can so no to others because we’re not always looking for validation outside of ourselves. OR when we do say yes, we’re being truly sincere and it’s out of true kindness with no expectation of anything in return.

P.S. I haven’t seen your name in like a year Skellie, how have you been?