Comments on: Life Goals: Do I Really Want It?

By: Alex Shalman

Alex Shalman — Fri, 20 Mar 2009 14:10:22 +0000

@tom – The world needs people that have come alive

By: tom

tom — Fri, 20 Mar 2009 12:10:54 +0000

Ohh for sure I think that is probably the best thing to do, do what you love and it never seems like work.
Because really, work seems to be a hassle for people today, a way to pay the bills, and hit that punch clock at 5 and run home and then weekend comes around, get trashed.

By: Alex Shalman

Alex Shalman — Fri, 20 Mar 2009 06:05:19 +0000

@tom I’m thinking that if you love what you do, you never have to retire… right?

By: tom

tom — Thu, 19 Mar 2009 14:22:25 +0000

this is like the numerous stories we hear of people working 40 years in order to retire comfortably.
They hit 65 and 2 weeks later they are bored and are looking for something to do.

At this point i think it comes down to finding the sweet spot between no work and workaholic including work that is enjoyable and beneficial to others and yourself.

By: Alex Shalman

Alex Shalman — Wed, 18 Mar 2009 23:59:11 +0000

@Miki They say, “Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss, you’ll land among the stars.” ~Brian Littrell

By: Miki

Miki — Wed, 18 Mar 2009 23:55:47 +0000

I love how your mind works Alex. Yes, it makes sense. Falling short, (if we do) should be measured not by other’s markers, but of our own, using the measuring stick of the ‘greatness marker’ we have in common with those that we admire.

I’m a fan Alex!

By: Alex Shalman

Alex Shalman — Wed, 18 Mar 2009 23:32:40 +0000

@Miki Thanks for the compliments – everyone likes being appreciated – so keep them coming

Living someone else’s dream isn’t fun. In fact, when trying to emulate the lives of people we really admire, it’s important to not emulate their life directly, but at least strive for the greatness that they were striving for. You might fall short, so you don’t want to fall short of their greatness, you want to fall short of the greatness that they were striving for, so that you could be as great or greater than they are.

Does that make sense?

By: Alex Shalman

Alex Shalman — Wed, 18 Mar 2009 23:30:19 +0000

@Lana One thing I’ve noticed is that we sometimes save our “big dreams” for later. As if were are savoring them, or, as if we’re afraid that once we get the dream there will be nothing more for us.

I say, go after your biggest dreams, and I promise, after you accomplish them, you’ll think of even bigger ones.

By: Alex Shalman

Alex Shalman — Wed, 18 Mar 2009 23:28:39 +0000

@Bill Riddel Right, it’s not about the goals themselves, but about who we become once we set those goals. I’ll have to cover that in this series. Thanks for dropping by!

By: Miki

Miki — Wed, 18 Mar 2009 23:24:12 +0000

As always Alex, you’re bang on again! “The true fulfillment of life goals is in the journey towards them, not in the goals themselves.” It’s WHO we become along the journey of life that matters and enjoying the journey itself. That’s where the magic of life lies – in the experiences both internally (in our personal growth) and with the connections we make with others.

Another point that stood out for me Alex is how you point out that the goal has to be what we want, not what someone else expects us to want or that we do for someone else.

You continue to live up to your reputation of giving excellent, insightful and easily appliable tools Alex!

By: Lana

Lana — Wed, 18 Mar 2009 22:46:16 +0000

Such a great post! So many people have no clear goals or dreams and keep wondering why they don’t get any results. Because your mind has no idea what to bring you.

Another big mistake lots of people make is settling for dreams that seem reasonable or doable or just smaller versions of their real dream. People are afraid to dream big and go after their real dreams.

As a result they are not inspired and motivated by their dreams, since you can’t be motivated when you are settling for something that is just a small version of your actual dream or goal.

I have a similar post on my blog on how to find your true dreams that will inspire you and motivate you to take action and stay on track no matter what-http://dreamfollowers.com/?p=9

By: Bill Riddell

Bill Riddell — Wed, 18 Mar 2009 20:45:29 +0000

Some interesting points and question your raise Alex.

Superb timing also. I posted my life goals to my blog just last week even though I have been working on them since 2001.

I very much agree that life is an absurd joke, to be enjoyed to the fullest and not taken to seriously.

The ticking off of goals is not what I really strive for, instead I know the progress of achieving my goals I will enjoy my life and get the most out of it.

Also I don’t take my goals to seriously. I change them, remove them and add new ones as I change in life. I dont intend to complete them all – but instead hope to complete as many as is possible and enjoyable.