Comments on: How To Deal With Criticism http://www.alexshalman.com/2009/05/07/how-to-deal-with-criticism/ Practical Personal Development Sat, 31 Jul 2010 01:57:16 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: How To Conquer Your Fear In 4 Simple Steps | HealthMoneySuccess.com http://www.alexshalman.com/2009/05/07/how-to-deal-with-criticism/comment-page-1/#comment-137445 How To Conquer Your Fear In 4 Simple Steps | HealthMoneySuccess.com Tue, 26 Jan 2010 21:30:09 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/?p=1825#comment-137445 [...] I had wrote an article titled “How To Deal with Criticism” at AlexShalman.com. Do visit it and it will be great if you can give me some feedback on the [...] [...] I had wrote an article titled “How To Deal with Criticism” at AlexShalman.com. Do visit it and it will be great if you can give me some feedback on the [...]

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]]> By: Vincent http://www.alexshalman.com/2009/05/07/how-to-deal-with-criticism/comment-page-1/#comment-115984 Vincent Fri, 29 May 2009 18:59:20 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/?p=1825#comment-115984 Hi Jonathan, "But they’re not always a__holes and jerks, are they? "They may seems like jerks or a__holes but sometimes they do provide valuable information even though the way they deliver it is not the way we like it to be. The key is to know how to distinguish whether the criticism is valuable or it is just a way where people are out to trash you. Hi Gina, I agree with what you had said. We can learn from anyone and even babies can teach us the the importance of fascination and innocence. Cheers, Vincent Hi Jonathan,

“But they’re not always a__holes and jerks, are they? “They may seems like jerks or a__holes but sometimes they do provide valuable information even though the way they deliver it is not the way we like it to be. The key is to know how to distinguish whether the criticism is valuable or it is just a way where people are out to trash you.

Hi Gina,

I agree with what you had said. We can learn from anyone and even babies can teach us the the importance of fascination and innocence.

Cheers,
Vincent

]]> By: Gina http://www.alexshalman.com/2009/05/07/how-to-deal-with-criticism/comment-page-1/#comment-115705 Gina Thu, 28 May 2009 23:20:05 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/?p=1825#comment-115705 Hi Vincent, Thanks for these tips - they are great reminders! I think we can learn from everyone, no matter how old they are. If we look closely, we can even learn from babies, and animals too - especially how to live in the present. Thanks for posting this Alex. blessings, Gina Hi Vincent,
Thanks for these tips – they are great reminders! I think we can learn from everyone, no matter how old they are. If we look closely, we can even learn from babies, and animals too – especially how to live in the present.

Thanks for posting this Alex.

blessings,
Gina

]]> By: Jonathan Lockwood http://www.alexshalman.com/2009/05/07/how-to-deal-with-criticism/comment-page-1/#comment-115358 Jonathan Lockwood Tue, 26 May 2009 19:42:23 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/?p=1825#comment-115358 Lots of my associates agree: it's not good to get upset by what others say. But the difference I sometimes note is in the little self-talk they share... "Yeah, no sense getting upset. There will always be a__holes in life..." "Oh it doesn't bother me. Why would I listen to anything THAT jerk has to say?" But they're not always a__holes and jerks, are they? Sometimes (as you indicate in your post) their criticisms have value--not matter how delivered. I was glad to read your comment: "I held back from sending the email and sought out some advice...I decided to just ignore the guy, picked up valuable lessons from the criticism and just move on from there." Good for you. Lots of my associates agree: it’s not good to get upset by what others say. But the difference I sometimes note is in the little self-talk they share…

“Yeah, no sense getting upset. There will always be a__holes in life…”
“Oh it doesn’t bother me. Why would I listen to anything THAT jerk has to say?”

But they’re not always a__holes and jerks, are they? Sometimes (as you indicate in your post) their criticisms have value–not matter how delivered.

I was glad to read your comment: “I held back from sending the email and sought out some advice…I decided to just ignore the guy, picked up valuable lessons from the criticism and just move on from there.”

Good for you.

]]> By: Vincent http://www.alexshalman.com/2009/05/07/how-to-deal-with-criticism/comment-page-1/#comment-112906 Vincent Mon, 11 May 2009 18:15:09 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/?p=1825#comment-112906 Hi Celes, "Most of the time, the feedback is more reflective of the frameworks/beliefs the person is coming from" I agree with what you had said. Most likely provocative articles that challenge their beliefs will cause them to be defensive and thus the negative comments. You are doing well too at Embrace Living. Keep up the good work. :) Cheers, Vincent Hi Celes,

“Most of the time, the feedback is more reflective of the frameworks/beliefs the person is coming from”

I agree with what you had said. Most likely provocative articles that challenge their beliefs will cause them to be defensive and thus the negative comments. You are doing well too at Embrace Living. Keep up the good work. :)

Cheers,
Vincent

]]> By: Celes | EmbraceLiving.Net http://www.alexshalman.com/2009/05/07/how-to-deal-with-criticism/comment-page-1/#comment-112889 Celes | EmbraceLiving.Net Mon, 11 May 2009 15:41:52 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/?p=1825#comment-112889 Hey Vincent! Thanks for sharing your story :) It's great to know you picked yourself up from this incident and learnt something from it. I get negative feedback sporadically on some of the more provocative articles I write and it's a good alternative viewpoint so I can better reach out to people I want to help. Most of the time, the feedback is more reflective of the frameworks/beliefs the person is coming from rather than ourselves. Comments, whether positive or negative, should be turned into sources of feedback to forward us. Keep up with your great work at HealthMoneySuccess! :) Hey Vincent! Thanks for sharing your story :) It’s great to know you picked yourself up from this incident and learnt something from it. I get negative feedback sporadically on some of the more provocative articles I write and it’s a good alternative viewpoint so I can better reach out to people I want to help. Most of the time, the feedback is more reflective of the frameworks/beliefs the person is coming from rather than ourselves. Comments, whether positive or negative, should be turned into sources of feedback to forward us. Keep up with your great work at HealthMoneySuccess! :)

]]> By: Vincent http://www.alexshalman.com/2009/05/07/how-to-deal-with-criticism/comment-page-1/#comment-112729 Vincent Sun, 10 May 2009 15:25:20 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/?p=1825#comment-112729 Hi Tess, "If the criticism doesn’t fit let it go and move on." This is one important sentence we need to remember whenever we receive a criticism. Thanks for the point. :) Hi Mark, Thanks for your great insight. Loving, respecting and accepting ourselves is definitely more important than thinking of how others look at us. Hi Karen, Thanks for your comment. You definitely have some great ideas to share with us. It will be great to know more about what you think about this topic too. :) Cheers, Vincent Hi Tess,

“If the criticism doesn’t fit let it go and move on.”

This is one important sentence we need to remember whenever we receive a criticism. Thanks for the point. :)

Hi Mark,

Thanks for your great insight. Loving, respecting and accepting ourselves is definitely more important than thinking of how others look at us.

Hi Karen,

Thanks for your comment. You definitely have some great ideas to share with us. It will be great to know more about what you think about this topic too. :)

Cheers,
Vincent

]]> By: Karen Chambre http://www.alexshalman.com/2009/05/07/how-to-deal-with-criticism/comment-page-1/#comment-112629 Karen Chambre Sun, 10 May 2009 02:02:42 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/?p=1825#comment-112629 I am a psychotherapist and deal with this issue every day. These are some very concrete thoughts helpful ideas which are useful. Thanks I am a psychotherapist and deal with this issue every day. These are some very concrete thoughts helpful ideas which are useful. Thanks

]]> By: Mark Foo | TheBigDreamer.com http://www.alexshalman.com/2009/05/07/how-to-deal-with-criticism/comment-page-1/#comment-112603 Mark Foo | TheBigDreamer.com Sat, 09 May 2009 23:11:21 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/?p=1825#comment-112603 “I don’t know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody.” – Bill Cosby Nobody has ever achieved pleasing everybody – not Jesus Christ, not Muhammad, not Buddha. There’s always going to be people who love you, and people who hate you. This is the reality of life which you have to accept. Don’t have to beat yourself up just because not everybody loves you or you realise there are people who dislike or even hate you. The most important thing is to love, respect, and accept yourself for who you are. Cheers~ Mark “I don’t know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody.” – Bill Cosby

Nobody has ever achieved pleasing everybody – not Jesus Christ, not Muhammad, not Buddha.

There’s always going to be people who love you, and people who hate you. This is the reality of life which you have to accept.

Don’t have to beat yourself up just because not everybody loves you or you realise there are people who dislike or even hate you. The most important thing is to love, respect, and accept yourself for who you are.

Cheers~

Mark

]]> By: Tess The Bold Life http://www.alexshalman.com/2009/05/07/how-to-deal-with-criticism/comment-page-1/#comment-112564 Tess The Bold Life Sat, 09 May 2009 18:22:59 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/?p=1825#comment-112564 It taks a mature, open and growing individual to handle criticism correctly. One has to be willing to look within and if it fits grow from it. If the criticism doesn't fit let it go and move on. It taks a mature, open and growing individual to handle criticism correctly. One has to be willing to look within and if it fits grow from it. If the criticism doesn’t fit let it go and move on.

]]> By: Vincent http://www.alexshalman.com/2009/05/07/how-to-deal-with-criticism/comment-page-1/#comment-112515 Vincent Sat, 09 May 2009 11:16:58 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/?p=1825#comment-112515 Hi Roger, It is really true that it is impossible to please everyone in life. Doing that will only cause us to feel miserable. Hi Lisis, Great to see a fellow blogger here! I believe knowing when to move on is really important. If we are stuck on that single piece of criticism dealt out by someone that we don't even know, we are going to make ourselves miserable. Cheers, Vincent Hi Roger,

It is really true that it is impossible to please everyone in life. Doing that will only cause us to feel miserable.

Hi Lisis,

Great to see a fellow blogger here! I believe knowing when to move on is really important. If we are stuck on that single piece of criticism dealt out by someone that we don’t even know, we are going to make ourselves miserable.

Cheers,
Vincent

]]> By: Lisis http://www.alexshalman.com/2009/05/07/how-to-deal-with-criticism/comment-page-1/#comment-112369 Lisis Fri, 08 May 2009 12:53:52 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/?p=1825#comment-112369 Hi, Vincent! Thanks for this post. As a fellow blogger I know JUST what you mean... everyone has an opinion about what we're doing and how we're doing it. The kudos are great, and reassuring. The complaints are so frustrating... almost enough to make one quit. I guess, like Roger said, you can't please everyone so the key is to be able to move on and keep going (your point #5). Congrats on the guest post! Hi, Vincent! Thanks for this post. As a fellow blogger I know JUST what you mean… everyone has an opinion about what we’re doing and how we’re doing it. The kudos are great, and reassuring. The complaints are so frustrating… almost enough to make one quit.

I guess, like Roger said, you can’t please everyone so the key is to be able to move on and keep going (your point #5).

Congrats on the guest post!

]]> By: Roger - A Content Life http://www.alexshalman.com/2009/05/07/how-to-deal-with-criticism/comment-page-1/#comment-112365 Roger - A Content Life Fri, 08 May 2009 12:07:13 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/?p=1825#comment-112365 Vincent, Nice advice! I always remember the old showmanship quote: you can never please all of the people all of the time. This is especially true for blogs. I'm 49 years old and I realize I can learn useful things from everybody regardless of age. Heck, my young sons taught me many things about life. Vincent,

Nice advice!

I always remember the old showmanship quote: you can never please all of the people all of the time. This is especially true for blogs.

I’m 49 years old and I realize I can learn useful things from everybody regardless of age. Heck, my young sons taught me many things about life.

]]> By: Vincent http://www.alexshalman.com/2009/05/07/how-to-deal-with-criticism/comment-page-1/#comment-112338 Vincent Fri, 08 May 2009 05:33:04 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/?p=1825#comment-112338 Hi Alex, Thanks giving me a chance to post a guest article here. I believe most people have received some criticism in their life and I hope this article can help them learn how to deal with it. Cheers, Vincent Hi Alex,

Thanks giving me a chance to post a guest article here. I believe most people have received some criticism in their life and I hope this article can help them learn how to deal with it.

Cheers,
Vincent

]]> By: Alex Shalman http://www.alexshalman.com/2009/05/07/how-to-deal-with-criticism/comment-page-1/#comment-112298 Alex Shalman Thu, 07 May 2009 20:18:23 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/?p=1825#comment-112298 Great article Vincent. I think all of us bloggers can relate to your comment story, and the rest of us can relate to criticism in general. Your tips are all on point, and you are wise beyond your years. Keep studying personal development, and keep growing ;) Great article Vincent. I think all of us bloggers can relate to your comment story, and the rest of us can relate to criticism in general. Your tips are all on point, and you are wise beyond your years.

Keep studying personal development, and keep growing ;)

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