Comments on: What Everyone Ought to Know About Fans and Friends http://www.alexshalman.com/2009/08/17/fans-friend/ Practical Personal Development Wed, 01 Feb 2012 10:29:45 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Zoltán Cserei http://www.alexshalman.com/2009/08/17/fans-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-127849 Zoltán Cserei Thu, 03 Sep 2009 21:03:40 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/?p=2056#comment-127849 “A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out.” ~Walter Winchell. Sometimes that happens quite backwards. I've often seen situations, when someone was almost generally hated while she was happy, then, during a sad, hard period for her, friends like popped out of nowhere. People started to hand around her, because they could feed their own happiness by the power of comparison: "I'm in a better situation, ergo, I have a reason to be happy". “A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out.”
~Walter Winchell.

Sometimes that happens quite backwards. I’ve often seen situations, when someone was almost generally hated while she was happy, then, during a sad, hard period for her, friends like popped out of nowhere. People started to hand around her, because they could feed their own happiness by the power of comparison: “I’m in a better situation, ergo, I have a reason to be happy”.

]]> By: Alex Shalman http://www.alexshalman.com/2009/08/17/fans-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-126560 Alex Shalman Tue, 18 Aug 2009 14:53:29 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/?p=2056#comment-126560 @Stacy - IMHO I think it's better to have a nice solid core of friends then be surrounded by dozens of people that you have weak connections with. @Adrian - I'm not sure either :) @Stacy – IMHO I think it’s better to have a nice solid core of friends then be surrounded by dozens of people that you have weak connections with.

@Adrian – I’m not sure either :)

]]> By: Lauri http://www.alexshalman.com/2009/08/17/fans-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-126543 Lauri Tue, 18 Aug 2009 07:41:16 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/?p=2056#comment-126543 Great post! I think friendship builds up when you give time to the relationship. The important question is: Who to give your time to? It's a great thing to have strict and clearly defined criteria for a friend, it makes it easier to decide who to give your time and build a friendship with. I also like the concept of dividing your contacts to fans and friends. Great post! I think friendship builds up when you give time to the relationship. The important question is: Who to give your time to?

It’s a great thing to have strict and clearly defined criteria for a friend, it makes it easier to decide who to give your time and build a friendship with.

I also like the concept of dividing your contacts to fans and friends.

]]> By: Adrian http://www.alexshalman.com/2009/08/17/fans-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-126501 Adrian Mon, 17 Aug 2009 16:09:55 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/?p=2056#comment-126501 Nice post. Makes me think... I am a guy that builds up walls.. and see who breaks them. Not sure this is a good thing to do though. Cheers Nice post. Makes me think…

I am a guy that builds up walls.. and see who breaks them. Not sure this is a good thing to do though.

Cheers

]]> By: Do movies lie to us? | | Ramblings of a non-conformist | Tomasz Gorecki http://www.alexshalman.com/2009/08/17/fans-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-126499 Do movies lie to us? | | Ramblings of a non-conformist | Tomasz Gorecki Mon, 17 Aug 2009 14:37:48 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/?p=2056#comment-126499 [...] A friend or a fan [...] [...] A friend or a fan [...]

]]> By: Stacey Cooper http://www.alexshalman.com/2009/08/17/fans-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-126494 Stacey Cooper Mon, 17 Aug 2009 12:08:54 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/?p=2056#comment-126494 Great post! This sums up the entire past year and half for me where I started on my journey on re-evaluating all the relationships in my life. The result, I have a solid core of friends that meet all of the right criteria you mention above. Great post! This sums up the entire past year and half for me where I started on my journey on re-evaluating all the relationships in my life. The result, I have a solid core of friends that meet all of the right criteria you mention above.

]]> By: @SarahMerion http://www.alexshalman.com/2009/08/17/fans-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-126493 @SarahMerion Mon, 17 Aug 2009 11:43:43 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/?p=2056#comment-126493 Very interesting concept Alex. In Social Media, this is an especially important topic for us, as the line between friend, fan, and business connection often gets blurred. Very interesting concept Alex. In Social Media, this is an especially important topic for us, as the line between friend, fan, and business connection often gets blurred.

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