Comments on: Building Self-Esteem (or, Why Are You Worth Feeding?) http://www.alexshalman.com/2009/10/21/building-self-esteem/ Practical Personal Development Wed, 17 Mar 2010 17:33:47 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.2 hourly 1 By: amanda@choosing-life-my-way.com http://www.alexshalman.com/2009/10/21/building-self-esteem/comment-page-1/#comment-133485 amanda@choosing-life-my-way.com Mon, 23 Nov 2009 00:44:00 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/?p=2205#comment-133485 We are all worth feeding because we, as human beings, are a physical expression of the universal spirit of love. We are part of the divine and entitled to everything good in life, simply because we are alive. We are all worth feeding because we, as human beings, are a physical expression of the universal spirit of love. We are part of the divine and entitled to everything good in life, simply because we are alive.

]]> By: jon http://www.alexshalman.com/2009/10/21/building-self-esteem/comment-page-1/#comment-132537 jon Tue, 03 Nov 2009 22:56:16 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/?p=2205#comment-132537 Hey Alex Im worth feeding....Because i exist Hey Alex

Im worth feeding….Because i exist

]]> By: Baker http://www.alexshalman.com/2009/10/21/building-self-esteem/comment-page-1/#comment-132366 Baker Sat, 31 Oct 2009 04:26:09 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/?p=2205#comment-132366 Hey Alex, Informative and well thought out post. I am worth feeding, because I'm the Baker and I make a lot of dough! Hey Alex,
Informative and well thought out post. I am worth feeding, because I’m the Baker and I make a lot of dough!

]]> By: Armen Shirvanian http://www.alexshalman.com/2009/10/21/building-self-esteem/comment-page-1/#comment-132295 Armen Shirvanian Thu, 29 Oct 2009 19:32:54 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/?p=2205#comment-132295 Hey Alex. I like material like this that challenges us in an upward way. Many would not want to ask themselves this question, as it would require placing some value on what they are doing, but they have to do so if there is to be energy toward it. We have to have answers to these questions if we want a strong drive forward, as opposed to a passive moving from one step to another based on societal pushes or such. Realizing why you are not worth feeding sure can be a wake-up call as to what is on the way if you don't change things. Everyone wants to continue being fed with food and enjoyment and related items, so this provides impetus to get going, if one is not already going. Upward-pointing material as usual, and glad to read it. Hey Alex.

I like material like this that challenges us in an upward way. Many would not want to ask themselves this question, as it would require placing some value on what they are doing, but they have to do so if there is to be energy toward it. We have to have answers to these questions if we want a strong drive forward, as opposed to a passive moving from one step to another based on societal pushes or such.

Realizing why you are not worth feeding sure can be a wake-up call as to what is on the way if you don’t change things. Everyone wants to continue being fed with food and enjoyment and related items, so this provides impetus to get going, if one is not already going.

Upward-pointing material as usual, and glad to read it.

]]> By: Adrian http://www.alexshalman.com/2009/10/21/building-self-esteem/comment-page-1/#comment-132122 Adrian Mon, 26 Oct 2009 21:54:11 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/?p=2205#comment-132122 Holly crap.. impeccable timing mate! I have just figured this out myself and now find this to confirm :) I recently started living better and became happier by doing more things I like and by finding my worth not in my looks (which I don't have..), money or something else, but by knowing that I'm a Man who strives to become best, build businesses, be free and enjoy life in general. That's all... My self-esteem just got better and bigger. I do think that I am worth enough now, maybe not worth the most yet, but I'm working on it. Cheers, Adrian Holly crap.. impeccable timing mate! I have just figured this out myself and now find this to confirm :)

I recently started living better and became happier by doing more things I like and by finding my worth not in my looks (which I don’t have..), money or something else, but by knowing that I’m a Man who strives to become best, build businesses, be free and enjoy life in general. That’s all… My self-esteem just got better and bigger. I do think that I am worth enough now, maybe not worth the most yet, but I’m working on it.

Cheers,
Adrian

]]> By: Why Are You Worth Feeding? | The Invisible Mentor http://www.alexshalman.com/2009/10/21/building-self-esteem/comment-page-1/#comment-132095 Why Are You Worth Feeding? | The Invisible Mentor Mon, 26 Oct 2009 09:33:16 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/?p=2205#comment-132095 [...] is a springboard from Alex Shalman’s post “Building Self-Esteem (or, Why Are You Worth Feeding?).” We are usually very tough on ourselves, I know that I am. While I was reading Alex’s [...] [...] is a springboard from Alex Shalman’s post “Building Self-Esteem (or, Why Are You Worth Feeding?).” We are usually very tough on ourselves, I know that I am. While I was reading Alex’s [...]

]]> By: Duff http://www.alexshalman.com/2009/10/21/building-self-esteem/comment-page-1/#comment-131851 Duff Wed, 21 Oct 2009 22:01:47 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/?p=2205#comment-131851 I also like how Nathaniel Branden put it, which is something like "if you want to build self-esteem, do esteemable acts." Rather than pump yourself up with airy positivity, go do something courageous that is meaningful to you. It is of course also useful to get to know any inner critics that are overly harsh, ask them what their positive purposes are, and if they would be willing to communicate in more constructive ways. I also like how Nathaniel Branden put it, which is something like “if you want to build self-esteem, do esteemable acts.” Rather than pump yourself up with airy positivity, go do something courageous that is meaningful to you.

It is of course also useful to get to know any inner critics that are overly harsh, ask them what their positive purposes are, and if they would be willing to communicate in more constructive ways.

]]> By: David Rogers http://www.alexshalman.com/2009/10/21/building-self-esteem/comment-page-1/#comment-131846 David Rogers Wed, 21 Oct 2009 20:01:57 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/?p=2205#comment-131846 Alex I certainly see this as your twist on things - as, if you like, my throwing depression into the mix was mine. But I do think if he was trying to help your class understand the concept of self esteem (which is hard to define at the best of times!) I think the question he posed misses the point. If someone has any degree of clinical depression (not just having an off day) then they will spend a lot of time immersed in negative thinking. The problem being its very hard when genuinely depressed to change those thinking habits. Changing that thinking can take along time, and may need other interventions, before someone can accept a more positive viewpoint. Alex
I certainly see this as your twist on things – as, if you like, my throwing depression into the mix was mine. But I do think if he was trying to help your class understand the concept of self esteem (which is hard to define at the best of times!) I think the question he posed misses the point.

If someone has any degree of clinical depression (not just having an off day) then they will spend a lot of time immersed in negative thinking. The problem being its very hard when genuinely depressed to change those thinking habits. Changing that thinking can take along time, and may need other interventions, before someone can accept a more positive viewpoint.

]]> By: Alex Shalman http://www.alexshalman.com/2009/10/21/building-self-esteem/comment-page-1/#comment-131845 Alex Shalman Wed, 21 Oct 2009 19:23:17 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/?p=2205#comment-131845 @David - When Dr. Hittelman presented this to the class, I don't think he meant it to be an exercise in raising self-esteem. He was merely making a distinction. He did not say to ask this of depressed people. The way I framed this blog post is of my own opinion, and I put my own personal development (self-awareness) type of twist on it. I do believe that if you ask this to someone that is depressed, it could make them aware and facilitate them striving for something bigger. It might be that if they're depressed, it's because they spend a lot of time thinking about what's wrong, instead of the positive value that they could be creating for themselves. @David – When Dr. Hittelman presented this to the class, I don’t think he meant it to be an exercise in raising self-esteem. He was merely making a distinction. He did not say to ask this of depressed people.

The way I framed this blog post is of my own opinion, and I put my own personal development (self-awareness) type of twist on it. I do believe that if you ask this to someone that is depressed, it could make them aware and facilitate them striving for something bigger. It might be that if they’re depressed, it’s because they spend a lot of time thinking about what’s wrong, instead of the positive value that they could be creating for themselves.

]]> By: David Rogers http://www.alexshalman.com/2009/10/21/building-self-esteem/comment-page-1/#comment-131843 David Rogers Wed, 21 Oct 2009 19:02:30 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/?p=2205#comment-131843 Interesting post - I'm writing about it on my own blog at the moment (wait for the trackback!). Whilst I like the idea of defining ourselves as a valuable human being, your tutor loses the plot somewhat when posing the question "why am I worth feeding". There is a great overlap between low self esteem and depression, and I'm sure no one would think of asking someone who is depressed that question? Self esteem is generally only a problem when people lack it - people don't complain if there's is high. So as a starting point to build self esteem I think the question could be somewhat different. Interesting post – I’m writing about it on my own blog at the moment (wait for the trackback!). Whilst I like the idea of defining ourselves as a valuable human being, your tutor loses the plot somewhat when posing the question “why am I worth feeding”. There is a great overlap between low self esteem and depression, and I’m sure no one would think of asking someone who is depressed that question? Self esteem is generally only a problem when people lack it – people don’t complain if there’s is high. So as a starting point to build self esteem I think the question could be somewhat different.

]]> By: fas http://www.alexshalman.com/2009/10/21/building-self-esteem/comment-page-1/#comment-131840 fas Wed, 21 Oct 2009 17:39:22 +0000 http://www.alexshalman.com/?p=2205#comment-131840 Tricky question. Because maybe I find myself worth my self in Gold? Tricky question. Because maybe I find myself worth my self in Gold?

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