Alex Shalman . comPractical Personal Development

This article is part of the How To Become An Outstanding Person In Twelve Weeks series. I strongly urge that you read the first article in order to get a sense of what is going on here.

Moderation (Week 9 of 12)

Moderation: Avoid extremes; forbear resenting injuries so much as you think they deserve. In my opinion moderation is a force to be reckoned with. Moderation is the balance between a happy and healthy lifestyle. It is the glue that holds all your goals and ambitions together, so they do not fade or crumble.

In my own life I notice that I am most happy when I have the most balance. Keeping in mind what I intend to explore, strengthen and share in this website, let’s call them pillars of success:

• Health and Fitness
• Productivity/ Goal Setting / Motivation
• Communication/Relationships
• Accelerated Learning
• Wealth and Abundance
• Spirituality
• Self improvement, self help and personal growth

These seven pillars represent a very powerful force that should be moderated (or balanced). If one of these pillars greatly surpasses the rest, it will bring the rest up with them. On the other hand, if any of these pillars are lacking, then they inevitably bring down the rest of your reality.

A lot of people will tell you not to work on your worst skills, and to use all your time and energy to develop your best skills. This way you’re a master of a skill instead of a dabbler in many. I believe that there is a lot of truth to this, but these are not skills, these are important pillars that hold up your happiness.

So this week, have I been keeping perfect moderation? No, I do not think you could keep PERFECT moderation (it’s more of a juggling act). This would mean that all areas of your life are at a perfect harmony and resonate at one frequency. However, I was able to identify some major weak points that I believe were bringing down the rest of my pillars.

After doing some digging, asking myself some questions, and consulting some people I made some good distinctions as to what is my weakest pillar. I have decided that in order to boost my relationship pillar, I will need to do some work on the foundation of relationships. It is my belief that at the core of any great or successful relationship is respect.

What am I going to do in order to gain this new found respect for all human beings, eliminate all judgment and just have love for all individuals? Same formula I use for learning most things:

• Talk to people that excel at this trait.
• Read books by people who excel at this trait.
• Practice this trait on a daily basis.
• Believe that I currently possess this trait.
• Constantly perceiver and keep repeating the above.
• Follow the formula in The Hidden Secret In Think And Grow Rich, in order to achieve this goal.

Becoming Outstanding Series

• How To Become An Outstanding Person In Twelve Weeks

• Week 01 - Temperance

• Week 02 - Silence

• Week 03 - Order

• Week 04 - Resolution

• Week 05 - Frugality

• Week 06 - Industry

• Week 07 - Sincerity

• Week 08 - Justice

• Week 09 - Moderation

• Week 10 - Cleanliness

• Week 11 - Tranquility

• Week 12 - Chastity

Question to you:

What type of experience have you had that allowed you to become extra respectful and see people in a new light?