The secret to keeping your man happy and understanding men in one simple step
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The secret to keeping your man happy is stroking the… As tough as men may try to appear, they’re really a very sensitive creature, much like a puppy. They’ll give you all their love, but it’s going to cost you. You’ll have to do the unthinkable - you’ll have to … pet the puppy (a variation of stroke the ego)!
What does it mean to pet the puppy?
I hope you’re on the same page as me so far (and not some kind of perverted page hehe). Petting the puppy means to let your man know that you appreciate him and the effort he has gone through to please you. Just stopping in the middle of everything, looking into his eyes and saying “how did I get so lucky?” is a keeper.
Men want to do things for their women, they want to make you happy. I wrote about this in the secret to doubling your happiness.
There is a theory that I have formulated, and successfully applied several times that has proven to double my happiness. By investing my happiness in someone else, I receive double the happiness in return. This theory can be applied to just about anyone out there.
That’s the best part of making your man happy. It bounces back to you, creating a cycle of mutual empowerment and happiness. When both of you are happy, this trickles down to your kids, friends, family and everyone around you.
A big “should not” is resisting the efforts that are set forth by your man to please you. If he’s doing something genuine for you, that you know will (or he thinks will) please you, be very careful. This is a very sensitive situation which will determine the learned behavior pattern of your man. Do not say things along the lines of “you don’t have to do that” or “I can do that myself”. We know you’re damn capable, that’s why we love you, but we want to do it anyway - that’s why we offered.
By letting him take care of you, you aren’t giving up your independence. You’re just letting him tap into his instinctive nurturing side. It is also important that you are genuine when you let him know that you appreciate him. Insincerity can be easily spotted and can be very offensive. However, if you consider the fact the he’s doing something for you from the bottom of your heart, why wouldn’t you genuinely appreciate it?
What happens if you don’t pet the puppy? You get an unhappy puppy!
By the way, I wouldn’t exactly say that I’m a relationship “expert” or anything. Just sharing my life experiences and experiences of experts from whom I got the honor of learning. What I would love is to hear a woman’s opinion. If a man were to appreciate you in the same way this article prescribed to do towards a man, do you think that you would be happy too?
Posted by Alex Shalman in Relationships | August 7, 2007 | Digg | Del.icio.us | Stumble | Print | 2 comments
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Yes, I ‘m going with this guy for about three
or five years. And I truly love him very much and one day he ask me to marry him and I said yes and he ask me to move in with him and I said yes to that too. And he told me that he would like for me to have his baby
and I said I would love to have his baby.
So, to make a long story short he is in the military (Army) and he has been in there for about 20 or 21 years, and he is 46yrs.old and I’m 35yrs.old and I can say that I’m fully built with a big breast and thick fully thighs. So the thing is that he told me that he knew about me before he started going with me and I didn’t know that and it really made me angry and also he heard other things about me that was not pretty at all and I can say what happen in the past stays in the past.
And he told me that don’t let nothing happen like that no more while he is here and I told him that it will not happen no more because them guys that uses to like me are long gone. And he says that he stills loves me and I can say if he didn’t love me he would have taken everything that he has given too me. And can you please give me your advice because I don’t want too loose him and I love him very much.
Considering that he knew about your past before “started going with you”, and that didn’t stop him for “falling for you”, I think you have nothing to worry about. Just concentrate on the present, and what you guys have, not on what ones was, especially before you met.