“If you go to work on your goals, your goals will go to work on you. If you go to work on your plan, your plan will go to work on you. Whatever good things we build end up building us.”
~Jim Rohn

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Desperately seeking technical support!

I’m currently running the latest version of Girlfriend 5.0 and having some problems. I’ve been running the same version of DrinkingBuddies 1.0 for years as my primary application, and all the Girlfriend releases have always conflicted with it. I hear that DrinkingBuddies won’t crash if you minimize Girlfriend with the sound off, but since I can’t find the switch to turn it off, I just run them separately and it works OK.

Girlfriend also seems to have a problem coexisting with Golfware, often trying to abort my Golf program with some sort of timing incompatibility. I probably should have stayed with Girlfriend 1.0, but I thought I might see better performance with Girlfriend 2.0.

After months of conflicts, I consulted a friend who has experience with Girlfriend 2.0. He said I probably didn’t have enough cache to run Girlfriend 2.0 and eventually it would require a Token Ring upgrade to run properly. He was right. As soon as I purged my cache, Girlfriend 2.0 uninstalled itself.

Shortly after that, I installed a Girlfriend 3.0 beta. All the bugs were supposed to be gone, but the first time I used it, it gave me a virus. After a hard drive clean up and thorough virus scan I very cautiously upgraded to Girlfriend 4.0. This time using a SCSI probe and virus protection. It worked OK for a while until I discovered Girlfriend 1.0 wasn’t completely uninstalled!

I tried to run Girlfriend 1.0 again with Girlfriend 4.0 still installed, but Girlfriend 4.0 has an unadvertised feature that automatically senses the presence of Girlfriend 1.0 and communicates with it in some way, resulting in the immediate removal of both versions!

The version I have now works pretty well, but, like all versions, there are still some problems. The Girlfriend package is written in some obscure language that I can’t understand, much less reprogram. And I’ve never liked how Girlfriend is totally ‘object-oriented.’

A year ago, a friend upgraded his version to GirlfriendPlus 1.0, which is a Terminate-and-Stay resident version. He discovered GirlfriendPlus 1.0 expires within a year if you don’t upgrade to Fiance9e 1.0. So he did. But soon after that, you have to upgrade to Wife 1.0, which he describes as a ‘huge resource hog.’ It has taken up all his space, so he can’t load anything else. One of the primary reasons that he upgraded to Wife is because it came bundled with FreeSex 1.0. Well, it turns out that the resource allocation module of Wife 1.0 sometimes prohibits access to FreeSex (particularly the new Plug and Play items he wanted to try). On top of that, Wife 1.0 must be running on a well warmed-up system before he can do anything. And, although he did not ask for it, Wife 1.0 came with MotherInLaw 1.0, which has an automatic popup feature he can’t turn off.

I told him to install Mistress 1.0, but he said that he heard that if you try to run it without first uninstalling Wife, that Wife 1.0 will delete MSMoney files before uninstalling itself. Then Mistress 1.0 won’t install anyway, due to insufficient resources. If anybody out there is able to offer technical advice…

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In this interview Dan and Jennifer from www.AskDanAndJennifer.com tell us how they started their online relationship media empire. They tell us how they’ve managed a safe and comfortable place for people from all over the world to ask and get answers for their most personal sex-love-relationship related questions.

Our friends also discuss their unorthodox relationship that is 9.5 years difference in age between the two of them with Jennifer being the older of the two. They also go into quite some detail about safe sex, to the point where I accuse Dan of working for Trojan/Lifestyles!

The dating-duo discuss the tipping point of their site taking off, as well as their amazing success on YouTube with their dating question and answer sessions. I then ask them the tough question of what will happen to AskDanAndJennifer if Dan and Jennifer break up!

If you’re currently dating, or interested in improving your already existing relationship, check out my free ebook, How To Get A Girlfriend.

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Enjoy the podcast and feel free to leave feedback in the comment box below. I’d like to know if there is anyone you would like me to interview for future podcasts.

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Here is the very first AlexShalman.com “Practical Personal Development” podcast. This is an interview I did live on SIRIUS Satellite Radio, and edited for length and with commentary. The program I was on is called Game On, and is a dating advice show sponsored by Maxim Magazine.

The two co-hosts during this show were Joshua Pellicer and Kelly Kellam. Also, thanks to the other regular host, Jordan Harbinger, for setting up the interview.

I cut off the first 30 minutes of the radio show mainly because I wasn’t in it, and it would have made this podcast too big. The guys were talking about the concept of Holding Court in dating, which basically means walking up to a crowd of strangers and getting the positive attention of the females in the group.

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Back in the day, and you know a story is good when it starts with ‘back in the day‘, I started to read a lot of books on picking up women. It was the thing to do, all the cool kids were doing it. Anyway, I quickly realized that much of what was written in these books was geared for guys to improve themselves inside out.

There’s also the whole other side to ‘pick up‘, which involves silly carnival tricks, gimmicks, and pick up lines. That’s not the side that got me on the path of personal development, and it’s not the side that holds my interest today.

What makes this book different is that it’s not a guide for how to get a one night stand, or sleep with as many women as your ‘heart’ desires. It’s a look into the concepts and mentality of dating with the ultimate goal of marriage in mind.

Table of Contents

1. Preliminary Introspection
2. Building Confidence
3. Approaching
4. Communicating Powerfully
5. Asking Her Out
6. Dating Essentials
7. Recommended Resources

This book is both a 47 page compilation of some of my best relationship articles, as well as some original content written specifically for this ebook. The overall content has something for everybody.

Don’t be fooled into thinking that this guide is for guys only. It’s not. While I do take the tone of speaking as a guy, to other guys, the actual book has a lot to offer to both species… ahem, genders.

Since this book speaks about interpersonal interactions, it can just as easily be applied to cultivating business relationships, not just personal ones.

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The reason I don’t put the download link right on this page is two fold. One is that I want to control download rate, and the other is that I want to increase the subscriber base of the site. You get free book, I get to provide you with free content in the future. Sounds like a good deal to me.

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Acknowledgement

Big thanks goes to Joshua Denney, who has been my slave for the past 24 hours, working non-stop to get this ebook packaged to meet the deadline. You can e-mail him at Think Web Strategy for design inquiries.

There are more very special acknowledgments at the end of the book, but you’ll just have to download to see. Thank you very much to everyone who did help, and a big thank you to those who inspired me.

Huge thanks goes out to my readers. You give my life purpose each and every day, and I appreciate you tremendously.

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We were originally supposed to do something closer to the end of November, but moved it up to tomorrow. That’s Friday, November 7, at 2pm on SIRIUS Satellite Radio Channel #108. If you visit their site you can get a free online trial.

I’m hoping to have some of my readers listening in, and maybe even call in. It’s going to be a lot of fun!

I’m also working on a special something that I will be unveiling late tonight, or early tomorrow morning. Since we’ll be talking about relationships on the air, I’ll have something on the site to complement this event.

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One of the worst things in the world is regret. You feel bad you pushed that old lady out of the way to catch that cab in the rain, don’t you? Well then don’t do it. Easier said than done. Sometimes people act in a way that they think is best at the time, but upon further reflection they really wish they could take it back. Here is a simple list of ways you can avoid the dreaded regret and have a clear conscience.

1. Think Before You Act

You need to know yourself pretty well before this tip can become effective. Look at a situation and the possible outcomes before you take action. If you do option #1, this will be the likely result and you will feel a certain way. If you do option #2, there will be a different result and you will correspondingly feel different.

It is hard to predict exactly what the result will be when you act in a certain way. However, in most situations, people can make an educated guess about their action will impact others and themselves. For example, you are paying for your items and the cashier give you change for a $20, even though you only paid with a $10. What do you do? A lot of people would just walk out of the store and count themselves lucky for the extra $10. They reason that it is a big store with plenty of money, they will never miss $10, and I spend enough money in there anyway. Well did you think about the cashier getting paid some paltry hourly wage that may get fired because his/her drawer was $10 off? I’ll bet that job is much more important to that person than $10 is to you. Besides, don’t make bogus excuses to make yourself feel better for knowingly pocketing money that did not belong to you. You will regret it later.

I have personally been on both sides of this scenario and I will tell you that I always regretted walking out with the money, even if it was a few dollars. I do not do it anymore and I feel a whole lot better. I even go back to the store to return the money if I do not realize it until later. It is a small price to pay for a clear conscience.

2. Do What You Love

How many people are out there going to a job they hate, staying in a relationship in which they are unhappy, or doing things for some reason other than because that is what they want to be doing. Most people do this to some degree because we cannot ALWAYS do what we love. This is more of a general recommendation. If love to write, you should start a blog or a journal. If you love to snow board, volunteer at a ski lift in exchange for a pass. Money is no excuse for not doing what you love. There are ways to do what you love and feel fulfilled, you just have to summon the motivation.

If you spend your time doing things you do not like, you will look back after some time and realize you are unhappy and regret that you did not do more of the things you loved.

3. Spend Time With Important People

I have never heard of someone declaring on their death bed “I wish I spent more time at work.” People who look back on their lives with regret, usually wish they spent more time with their families. It sounds corny, but life really is about spending as much time with your loved ones as possible. If it makes you happy to spend time with your friends, carve out some time to do that often enough so that you do not lose those ties that bind.

I work at a job that some people let overtake their lives. I do not. I have always looked at work as a means to and end. It allows me to buy things so that my family and I can live, but I only do enough of it so that we can be comfortable and I can spend as much time with them as possible. I also have two best friends for about the last 15 years that I am very close with. I try to carve out some time with them every so often between work and family responsibilities because I want to maintain those friendships and because spending time with them makes me happy.

Don’t blow off your friend’s birthday or a family cook out to do work that can wait. Go be with the people that are priorities in your life. This is almost an instant regret. You will probably regret not spending time with these important people even while you are somewhere else doing something non-essential. You won’t even have to wait and look back on this one.

The bottom line is that you need to fulfill your need for personal relationships. Don’t regret the time you missed out on with YOUR important people.

4. Be Genuine

The worst people when it comes to social interaction are those that are fake, or insincere. Don’t be one of those people that says something to someone’s face and then turns around and says negative things about the same person to someone else. Why would you do that? Are you afraid of telling the person how you really feel. That is understandable. Maybe you don’t want to actively hurt their feeling and you probably don’t like confrontation. Or maybe you just enjoy degrading people to puff yourself up. Either way, that is a short sighted solution to a long term problem. The shortness is that you make yourself feel better by bringing others down or avoid an uncomfortable confrontation, but the long term problem is that your insecurity is causing you to degrade others. You need to stop being fake and just act the way you really feel.

I am not saying to confront every person who gets on your nerves. You probably hate the person who leaves a tiny bit of coffee in the pot at work and does not just pour the rest out and rinse the pot. You might even know who that person is. Don’t throw the rest of the coffee on them the next time they do it! But if it really bothers you, say something.

I used to be the kind of person that would not say anything when something bothered me and I would stew about it for days and maybe weeks, even years later I would think about it. I should have done this, or said that. Now, when I feel something bothers me, I address it in the most appropriate way I know how. Does this create some confrontation and uncomfortable situations? You better belief it. But it feels so good not regretting that I did not say or do something when that thing was bothering me.

By standing back and doing nothing when something bothers you, you are not being genuine. Act and talk based on how you really feel and you will have much fewer regrets than if you had said or done something less than genuine.

5. Do Things For Yourself, Not Others

There are so many people out if the world you just do things out of a sense of duty, or loyalty or obligation. Of course there is a place for that in all of our lives. You may not want to go to your parents’ house to help clean out the basement, but you do it because you feel obligated. That’s fair, but don’t let it overtake your life. I know people who do virtually everything because that is that they think others expect or want them to do. That is no way to go through life.

I do not advocate complete selfishness by any means, but altruism has it’s limits. You need to think about what you like to do and do it. At the end of the day, you need to look at yourself if the mirror and be at peace with what you have done and said. You don’t want to resent the people you think you are pleasing because you feel they are somehow preventing you from doing things you would like to do. This happens a lot with child/parent relationships. How many people out there resent their parents because they did what they thought would make their parents happy only to find that it did not make them happy?

I started writing posts because it makes me happy. I find it fun and cathartic to write things I believe in and am passionate about. There is something inherently selfish about that, but that’s okay. Some selfishness is required to feel fulfilled and avoid regret.

When you call it a life and look back on your time, the last thing you want to have is regret. Follow these simple tips to help avoid it.

BIO:

Mike Salara writes personal development articles for intellectual thinkers at his site mikesalara.com.

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A little over 4 years ago I was introduced to a life changing art form. I had just graduated film school in NY, and had been training boxing and Muay Thai for a few summers while I worked at my parent’s Day Camp in NJ. I was in a serious relationship on my way to getting engaged and in need of some financial stability.

The film thing looked like it was going to take a long time, and I could not exactly leave my future wife to try and hack it out in L.A. So instead, I jumped into the hot mortgage game chasing the almighty dollar. I got married, bought a house,and went to work each day dreaming to make enough money to live out my dream of film making.

Looking back on this, I realize why they say you grow wiser with age. Back then, I was chasing the dollar to live up to the lifestyle of my peers. I was trying to do ‘what I thought I was supposed to‘. However, by doing so, I was slowly digging a hole inside of me. For instance, I used to run into family or old friends and cringe when they asked what I was doing.

“Mortgages.”

“What happened to the movies?”

“Oh, I’m still doing that a little on the side. I’m writing a script.”

Truth was, I had been writing this script (or actually 3 different ones) for a long time. Something was missing in them though. They were intelligent, well thought out, and skillfully written. However, they just were not great and great was what they had to be.

This was the whirlwind of events going on in my life when I first really got into the life changing martial art called Gracie Jiu Jitsu. I had started soon after graduating film school and am still training & teaching today. I have learned so much about life, that if not for this experience, I’m not sure who I would be today.

The best thing Jiu Jitsu taught me, besides how to choke people :), is you must put in the work in order to be successful. Success is not something born within you. Success is a mind set that you must attain.

In Jiu Jitsu, just like life, the key to success is persistence. Whether you get tapped out in 2 seconds, or submitted 20 times, the only people not advancing are the ones who are not there training. Everyone there is gaining experience, learning lessons, and progressing at their own pace. The only way to fail at Jiu Jitsu is to give up & stop coming.

That’s why it had such a big effect on my life. Jiu Jitsu allowed me to see the keys to success and the path to failure. It allowed me to believe that with enough persistence, you truly can achieve anything you want to. The lessons were not just for the mat, but for my entire life as well. All of a sudden I realized, if I wanted to do creative things like film & video, then I had to actually be DOING those things.

Dreaming of them, talking about them, or even procrastinating by researching all about them, did nothing for me. If I had a goal, I had to be working a little towards it each day.

This may seem simple, and actually it quite is, however, many people including the younger ‘me’, think that luck, connections, or money is going to get them where they want to be. This may work for some, but it is so rare, that to count on it would be foolish. Instead, just like in Jiu Jitsu, you must learn to count on the one thing you know you can…

Your Passion.

Be persistent towards your goals. Make them a priority. Since Jiu Jitsu, I have quit the mortgage industry altogether, started a creative web/video business called Reimagine, started my blog, and have made 4 commercials for TV. I’m involved with multiple videos on the web, for promotion, and for personal stuff.

Each day I am still struggling to make ends meet. Yet each day, I am smiling bigger than I ever have. My reward is not tangible. It is hidden deep within my soul. It is a strength I have that I am doing what I want to do. I am hacking out my own path, because that is what I want my life to be. It may be very hard right now, but in the end, it will all be worth it.

Just like when I got my purple belt in Jiu Jitsu, someday I will look back at all of the sweat and tears with great admiration. I will tell people proudly about my life because it is my life. I did not take what was given to me. I went out and got what I wanted by adding to other people’s lives through living out my personal passion.

If not for Jiu Jitsu, I’m not sure this realization would have come to me. I’m not sure I would have understood just how important persistence is. Whatever your dreams are, it is important to your own mental & physical health that you do what you can to chase them. I feel a 1,000x times stronger since I gave up doing mortgages. It’s not that there was anything wrong with it, it’s just that it was not for me. Mentally, it was taxing on my brain. It weighed me down, whether I knew it then or not.

However, when I started to chase my dreams again, it was like an energy source erupted within me. I was motivated, excited, and working harder than ever before. Just like in Jiu Jitsu, I realize that as long as I keep on trying, it does not matter if I fail or succeed. It only matters that I keep on trying.

Now that I have shared my story, it is time to hear from you. What is your dream, and what are you going to do TODAY to help make it real?

I’ll go first. My dream is to make a movie. Today, I am going to learn a little more about editing by cutting together my first National TV Commercial.

Your turn :)….

Author’s Bio: This article gives you a good taste of what Peter Normandia is all about. Visit his self-improvement blog, Yin Vs Yang for more excellent articles.

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First, I’ll tell you one of the reasons that prompted me to go on this little health kick. I started reading Steve Pavlina’s book, Personal Development for Smart People, and the very first chapter came with a self-assessment exercise. After taking the self-assessment, I ranked my health a 1 out of 10. Judging by such a low rank you would think I’m completely immobile or bed ridden with some horrible disease.

I’m 23, and grateful to be pretty healthy. However, the reason I ranked myself so low was based on the path that I was on, instead of ranking myself based on how healthy I am at this exact moment. After traveling a lot this summer, and eating a lot of carbs on the run, I gained a lot of extra weight from empty calories. I was 195 lbs at 5′8′. This is way overweight if you look at any height/weight charts, although I looked at least 15 lbs less than I weighed.

Since the path was leading me in a bad direction, I rated my health very low. On top of that, the exercise says that if you aren’t at an 8, 9, or 10, then you must automatically bring your score down to a 1, because you aren’t where you want to be and you’re just diluting yourself. As any good reader would, I followed the advice, and slammed my score down to a 1. Looking at the 1 was reason enough to make a plan for how I was going to lose some of those extra pounds.

My approach was geared less at dieting than at leading a healthy lifestyle. This included incorporating the 11 principles you see below:

1. Drink 1 Gallon of Water Daily.
2. One Cup of Water Before Snacking.
3. Sunday Fasting
4. No Sweets
5. 3 hours before bed, meal cut off
6. Last meal salad only
7. Fruit snacks
8. 30 chews per bite
9. Daily 30 (Walking)
10. Daily Cardio
11. Eat only when hungry, except breakfast

For a more detailed look at these principles, you can visit the article I wrote about these habits.

The fundamental principle that I like to base this website on is that the advice I give is practical, thus ‘Practical Personal Development.’ It turns out that starting 11 new habits all at the same time is not exactly practical, and can in fact become a bit overwhelming. When you overwhelm yourself with too many new habits, you become very susceptible to quiting all together

For the past week, I haven’t exercised. During last Sunday’s race, I ran 5 miles, and by Monday night I realized that I had hurt my foot. I limped around all week, and wasn’t quite sure how serious it was. Friday I went to a Podiatrist just to be on the safe side, and he told me it’s a strain. He also mentioned that my foot rolls when I walk, so I should get special soles for my shoes to counteract that.

Besides the foot thing, the changing weather in New Jersey has got me feeling sick. I used this week to get plenty of rest, and take it easy, so that I can get well and have a really productive week next week, because I have a lot lined up.

As far as following all 11 principles, it’s pretty much as hard as it appears. Drinking 1 gallon of water is super hard, even if I’m sitting at home, pretty close to a bathroom. On days when I’m working or interning, it’s even more inconvenient, because I don’t want to be taking bathroom breaks every 20 minutes when I’m with patients.

I found that I had to readjust my fasting to Saturday on two occasions, because I decided to do races Sundays, and racing plus fasting are not compatible. Everything else is not too difficult at all, and is based solely on willpower. Sure there is some inconvenience involved, but if you prioritize and set your mind to it, it becomes quite doable.

Ultimately, I set out to lose 20 lbs and I lost 14 lbs. There’s different ways to look at these numbers. I could say that I’m disappointed that I didn’t meet my goal, and that would be a legitimate viewpoint. Conversely, I take a viewpoint which dictates that I made a positive incremental improvement. This loss of excess weight was done in a healthy manner, and at a pace that was not too extreme for my body. Also, I thoroughly enjoyed the full experience.

Future Outlook

I doubt I’ll be concentrated so much on weight loss in the coming months. I’m going to shift my physical goals to training for certain athletic events. I would like to decrease the amount of time it takes me to run 1 mile, by doing various forms of speed exercise. I’m also interested in improving my swimming form, something I’ve never worked on before, so that I can complete a triathlon in the future.

I now rate myself an 8 out of 10 in the health category. I’ll stick to the healthy lifestyle, toy around with different eating habits, and implement new healthy food recipes. Now it’s time to tackle a new challenge, and improve more areas of my life!

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1. Tell us what challenge you’re inspired and motivated to take on.
2. Tell us what accomplishment you’re proud of, we’d like to know.
   

Have you ever found a book that you like so much that you read it, highlighted it, wrote in the margins, put flags on your favorite passages, and reread it over and over? Well, that’s how I feel about Steve Pavlina’s new book Personal Development for Smart People.

It’s been over a month since I’ve received my copy of this book, and to tell you the truth I haven’t been able to put it down. Half way through the book I promised myself that I would reread the whole thing every 3-6 months, but I already lost track of how many times I’ve read it.

The book itself is much different from the hundreds of personal development books that I’ve read to date. What makes it unique, and worth taking a look at, is that it doesn’t try to force feed you the author’s idea on how you should be living your life.

Personal Development for Smart People gently guides you on a path to your own core, by making three very brilliant distinctions on Truth, Love, and Power. These three values prove to be fundamental in living the most fulfilling life that is most suited for you.

I feel like a lot of other self-help books give you fish. They give you a specific idea, or specific tool, that can help you solve one specific problem. This book is different, because it doesn’t just give you tools, but it teaches you how to make tools — it trains your mind for problem solving, and that’s a skill you could take anywhere in life.

Honesty With Yourself

In the very first chapter of this book, there is a small self-assessment that asks the reader to honestly evaluate the area of their life. This evaluation isn’t based on where you currently stand, but on the path that you’re heading on.

After doing the evaluation, I decided that I needed to jump start my personal health and fitness goals. I’m 23, and I’m pretty healthy, but looking at my path I was just gaining weight by under exercising and overeating on empty calories. I ended up with a 1 rating for my health, and began to take action. Only three weeks into this month and I’ve already lost 13 pounds, noticeably improved my diet, and ran two official races with New York Road Runners.

I read personal development books all the time, and I write about it on my site, and despite of this I’m just as capable of getting into a slump as the next guy. Steve Pavlina’s book not only motivated me, but refreshed what I already know about commitment to goals, progressive improvement, and persistence.

While going through this past month, with the knowledge of Steve Pavlina’s book stirring inside my mind and my soul, I’ve noticed several synchronicities. The first thing I’ve already mentioned is the marked improvement to my overall health. The second thing I noticed is more income opportunities that I’m able to cash in on, such as getting extra work, making more from internet marketing, and disabling certain money spending habits that were not constructive.

Lastly, I noticed a huge markup in my networking opportunities. I’ve met several people that are going to be invaluable in my career, and others that will be very instrumental for my friends and inner circle. I’ve also connected with really interesting people, both online and off, that are going to make tremendous contributions to the flourishing future of this website.

Free Preview

Steve Pavlina and the team at Hay House publishing are nice enough to offer a preview of Personal Development for Smart People. They sent me a copy of the Introduction and Chapter 1 (Truth) that I can distribute. I know chapter 1 in and out, and I know that after reading it you’re going to want to go out and buy the book.

One thing I particularly enjoyed about the first chapter, after it describes all of the components of truth in detail, are the examples of every day blocks to truth that we face.

The Core Message of the Book

Seek truth with open eyes. Courageously accept your discoveries and their consequences. Rid your life of falsehood, denial, and fear of what is. Make truth your ally, not your enemy. This isn’t easy, but it is correct.

Share your love openly. Connect with yourself and others by tuning in to the connection that already exists. The risk of rejection is overshadowed by the rewards of loving connections. Whenever you feel disconnected, reach out and connect with another human being. Remember that you’re always loved.

~Steve Pavlina

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One of the most effective tools that I teach my students about how to analyze a business situation is to do a SWOT analysis.  SWOT stands for strengths, weaknesses, opportunities, and threats.  This analysis allows a business to thoroughly think through their situation and make wise decisions for their future.  A SWOT analysis does not need to be left only for businesses, but can also be done by individuals.  Doing a SWOT analysis of your life can give you a clear picture of who you are and the opportunities you have for your life and business.

Step #1 - Set up a grid.

Take out a blank sheet of paper and divide it into four quarters to form a grid.  Setting up the analysis in a grid format helps you see the connection between each element of the analysis.  The top two quadrants of the grid are title Strengths and Weaknesses; the bottom quadrants are title Opportunities and Threats.

1. Strengths
2. Weaknesses
3. Opportunities
4. Threats

Step #2 - Understand the connections on the grid.

The grid is made up of several sets of connections.  The first set is the internal/external connections.  In the analysis, strengths and weaknesses are the internal factors.  These represent internal characteristics, abilities and skills that you have (or don’t have).  Likewise, the opportunities and threats are external issues.

Secondly, there is a vertical connection.  The left side of the grid (strengths and opportunities) contains the helpful quadrants that help you reach your goals.  The right side of the grid (weaknesses and threats) includes the harmful quadrants that work against you achieving your goals.

Later when you start filling in the grid you will want to use the connections to help think of more things to put in each quadrant.  For example, most strengths will have a corresponding weakness (and vice-versa); similarly most strengths can lead to opportunities and most weaknesses may lead to threats.  Finally threats can also lead to opportunities.

Step #3 - Take your emotions out; become an outsider.

One of the reasons that businesses hire outside consultants is because they don’t have an emotional connection to the decision making process.  People within the business are emotionally connected and therefore may find it harder to truly see all of their weaknesses and threats.  They also may miss obvious strengths because they feel that it is normal.  Finally, insiders often are so connected to the current strategy that they may miss opportunities that are clear to outsiders.

The same is true for you as an individual.  For example, many of your strengths are likely things that you think are natural to everyone. Maybe you are a great encouragement to others.  You may not realize that the way you encourage others is not normal and is really a significant strength. Because of these trends you must work hard to remove emotions from the situation and try to look at yourself from an outsider’s perspective.  You may also want to get people who are close to you to share their perspective, especially on your strengths and weaknesses.

Step #4 - Spend time analyzing your strengths and weaknesses.

Now is finally the time to start filling in your grid.  Start by thinking through the internal side of the grid by looking at your strengths and weaknesses.  During this step your focus is on the top quadrants, but if an opportunity or threat comes to mind go ahead and write that down.  Be sure to take the time to go through every area of your life.  This includes both your professional life but your personal life.  You will likely use different strengths and experience different weaknesses in your work and business life than you do when you are spending time with your family, caring for your home, and in how you treat your body.

Step #5 - Use your strengths and weaknesses to consider opportunities and threats.

Once you have your strengths and weaknesses recorded you can use them to consider opportunities and threats.  Remember that strengths tend to lead to opportunities and weaknesses tend to lead to threats.  For example, if one of your strengths is that you are able to speak well in public, an opportunity might be the ability to speak at the local Chamber of Commerce or Rotary in order to increase your reputation and network.  Likewise, if a weakness that you have is that your skills and education are limited to one particular trade or field, the threat might be that if your industry suffers in the economy, you may lose your job.  Even if you think this is an unlikely scenario you should record it as a threat.

Step #6 - Apply the findings

After you have developed a thorough list and filled your grid you need to look for ways to apply your findings.  You can start the process applying your findings by asking questions about each quadrant.  For example you may ask: How can you use your strengths effectively? How can you work on your areas of weakness? How can you exploit each opportunity? How can you protect yourself from threats?  The answers to these questions will help you set new goals and strategies for achieving those goals.

Continuing with our previous example, if you see the threat of a job loss because of the weak economy then you need to consider how you can protect yourself from that possibility.  Perhaps you want to start a part-time business to generate extra funds, or increase your emergency fund of cash.  Here you will also want to look at your strengths and opportunities as sources for your answer.  Maybe the opportunity to start speaking at Rotary and Chamber meetings can be part of a strategy to increase your network with other employers in your field.  Examples like this can go on and on.

Coming out of this process you should have a much clearer idea about who you are, where you are headed, and what opportunities you need to pursue.  Use this to set goals for the future, to clarify your existing goals, and to increase your levels of abilities and preparedness.  Doing this will help you move your business and life towards your dreams.

Written by:
The Success Professor - Danny Gamache
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This past Sunday I participated in my second race, which was an 8 kilometer (5 mile) race in Central Park, NY. This event was hosted by New York Road Runners and Poland Spring (my favorite water company). There were a total of 6472 participants running, so this created a lot of energy and buzz before, during, and after the race.

I woke up at 4:15 AM, showered, ate some oatmeal, hung out with Marina for a few minutes and headed over to meet the group. Our meeting spot was the LA Fitness parking lot in North Brunswick, NJ, where we got together at 5:30 AM to drive into the city.

It’s always more fun when you go in a group, especially when everyone with me was a much more experienced runner. I got to ask my running questions, get direct answers, and it happened to be that everyone in the group is awesome and has a huge personality.

When we got there the sun was barely peaking over the horizon (as if we could see a Horizon in the middle of NYC). Not many people were there yet, and we could see the staff setting up the stage for the performers and announcers, as well as the line of people signing up to be volunteers. I immediately signed up for the race, handed over my thirty-five bucks, and scrambled to get my free Poland Spring T-shirt and shoelaces, which I will cherish as a memory of this milestone.

After about an hour of hanging out with Nora, Marge, Binti, Nicholas, and Michael it was time to line up at our respective spots at the starting line. With over 6,000 people, the participants were divided according to their estimated pace. Since this was going to be the first time I raced an 8K (actually the first time that I would ever attempt to run that far in my entire life) I put a modest 10 minutes per mile.

Little did I know that putting that number down as my pace would put me pretty much at the end of the line of runners. Luckily we all had a timing chip attached to our sneakers, so the countdown started once we personally passed the starting line, and ended at the finish. It actually took me a good 5-7 minutes to reach the starting line after the race had begun.

There were many people cheering at the starting line, which gave me extra energy and motivation. The only problem was I couldn’t run full speed, because there were way too many people in my way. It felt like bumper to bumper traffic, and I was weaving in and out of lanes.

Every few hundred yards there was a pair of volunteers whose sole purpose it seems was to cheer on the runners. At this point, all I thought was that it was nice of the volunteers to come out and cheer, but didn’t realize just how instrumental they would soon be.

Coming up to the second mile my legs felt very fatiqued. I actually thought about slowing down, or walking, and saw a lot of people that had already pulled over to the side to walk it out.

I remembered that just last week I ran a race that was 3.11 miles. I knew I could do at least that much, so I was determined to reach that point no matter what. This is where I began to realize just how valuable those volunteers on the side really are. “Good job runners! Looking strong!” were the words of inspiration around every corner. Hey, if they think I’m looking strong, I can’t disappoint them, can I?

I blew past the 3.11 mile, and then past the 3.5 - things seem a bit easier once you’re half way done, because you just say to yourself that if you did it once you can do it again. However, something happened at the 3.75 area that I wasn’t expecting.

A big terribly painful cramp around my right rib area, which I believe is called a stitch. No one likes to be in pain, especially not when they’re tired and trying to run. I held onto my side, and tried to massage it as a ran. “Looking good runners, you’re almost there!” That helped, once again, but there was something even bigger that helped to work through the pain.

I thought about how I was going to write this article, and how I’d be able to inspire someone by sharing my running story of pushing through, and not giving up. I was tired, I was in pain, and I had nothing to prove to anybody. All that kept me going was a personal challenge, and the fact that I wanted to get to the end.

Around the 4.5 mile point I completely forgot about the pain. At this point I could pretty much see the finish line, so I started to run as fast as my feet would take me. Everyone in front of me who wasn’t already done was on the slow side at this point, and I felt like The Flash as I passed them on their left hand side.

As I ran I saw hordes of people on both sides of the finish line area. Some were cheering, and waiting for their loves ones, while others were taking video and photo shots. I felt like a star and like all eyes were on me. That didn’t matter though, I knew I didn’t win any prize, or finish within the first couple of thousand.

All I could think about was that I made a goal, and in about 20 yards that goal would transform into an achievement.

I finished the 5 miles in 48:41, which is about 9 and a half mile pace, a bit faster then I estimated on the sign up form. Not Olympic speed yet, but not at all bad for a first timer.

There’s nothing better than the feeling of integrity - of saying you’re going to do something, and then doing it.

Now it’s time to hear from you. See if you can answer these two questions in the comments section below.

1. Motivation. What motivates you to push yourself in a race, at work, and in life in general?
2. Aspirations. What do you aspire to do in your life? Let’s set a new personal goal right here.

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The goal is to lose 20 lbs by October 31st. I basically have a week left in order to lose 7 more lbs. The chance of me losing all that weight while still eating anything seems like an over zealous goal at this point. However, I’m not giving up, not just yet.

You can see the weight loss plan, that I created for myself at the start of this month. I put together some common sense tactics in order to get the most weight loss with the least amount of thinking.

Brutal Honesty

I ate really badly this week. Not that every meal was bad, 90% of them were just as healthy as before, but I purposely went for some horrible choices for the sheer sinful fun of it. Let’s see what I can remember…

1. Chicken parmesan sandwhich
2. Multigrain bagel with veggie cream cheese
3. 2 Coffees
4. Insanely hot chicken wings, with fries, and a beer
5. Some kind of sour candy

That’s the unhealthiest of it. However, I think it was enough to stop the weight loss from progressing further this week. On the other hand, the thing that I think did me in the worst is that I didn’t stay as hydrated as I needed to. I ran out of my big 1 gallon waters and never got more from the store. These are great for keeping track of how much water I drink, but I’ll work on creating an even better system, one that doesn’t involve me lugging these uncomfortably sized gallons around.

Exercise

I’m continuing with spin class 2-3 times per week. I’ve also started doing some heavier exercises because my back is feeling better, and because Nora made me. As I mentioned in my previous post on running, I ran my first race on Sunday, which was a pretty cool milestone in my life. I even saved the racing numbers, as a memento to the very first race and to many more to come.

Yesterday after my internship, Michael and I, ran around central park. The goal was the run the whole 5 mile perimeter in the same way as described on the New York Road Runner’s map for this Sunday’s race. Unfortunately we took the smaller circle before the lake, and ended up messing up our running scheme. I didn’t have it in me to do the whole 5 mile track after already running, so we just ran around at random before returning to the car.

This Sunday will be the real deal Poland Spring race. At this point I just want to finish. I’ve never run 8K straight in my life, but one day when I’m running marathons these measly 5 miles will seem like a joke!

Healthy Eating

I think the biggest deal with eating healthy is keeping the refrigerator stocked. I haven’t gone shopping as much this week, and that left some perishables (namely vegetables) not good for eating. When that happens I notice myself eating more meat, which is not the best substitute for veggies!

Otherwise you can refer to the week 2 weight loss report to see the typical meals that I enjoy throughout the week.

It’s Not Over

It’s not over till the fat lady sings… that’s what they say anyway. I’m going to exercise extra hard this week, and be more on point with the healthy meals. However, even if I don’t reach 175lbs within my goal period, I know that I’ve already developed some better habits as well as a good out look on food.

I’m already educated in health and healthy eating, and know a thing or two about fitness, but it’s a totally different ball game when it comes to tackling bad habits and evil inclinations. The biggest hurdle to over come now is not being disappointed at the lack of weight loss and to just push forward.

The best thing that has come out of this month is my new love for running. Now that I’ve figured out where I stand, and have set several running goals to challenge myself, as well as found some places that consistently hold races that I can train for, I am ready to live an extra clean and healthy lifestyle.

What goals are you going to set for yourself for the month of November?

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“How can you have charisma? Be more concerned about making others feel good about themselves than you are making them feel good about you.”
~Dan Reiland

It was a beautiful Sunday night in Israel when we arrived at the party. It was being held at a multimillionaires loft in order to honor his sons accomplishment, and we were invited. I wasn’t very surprised to see Kelly (alias) there - after all she’s the best networker I know. On the other hand, when she said I’m known for my networking skills, and that she’s one to know, it got me thinking.

I never liked to look at networking as some skill set that I have. Instead I looked at it as putting together a couple of things I learned here and there, and just getting to know people. As my virtual Rolodex began to fill up, and my friends started to ask me more and more questions about networking, I knew I was onto something. I got serious about analyzing the things I was doing that were working for me, and the ones that would also work for my friends (and you).

One thing that you should know about me is that I’m an extroverted-introvert (I might have just made up that terminology). That means that I love time to myself to read, write, and exercise, while at the same time I really enjoy talking to people, going to large social gatherings, and being the center of attention when I need to be. You might be either an extrovert, or an introvert, and it’s important for you to know yourself so that you can work with your personal strengths.

1. Show Up Early. It seems that a lot of people these days tend to show up “fashionably late.” I personally hate when I’m late, so I always leave an abundance of time to get to my destination. I’ve noticed that when it comes to networking it really pays off to be early.

You’re at an advantage because you might stumble into the host, or whoever is your main networking target, and get them all to yourself for a few extra moments. You also have the opportunity to introduce yourself to more people, building rapport within the group, which could later convert to people putting in a good word for you.

2. Own The Building. When you walk into a building for a conference, or to meet someone for networking purposes, it’s important to remember that everyone is important. I call this owning the building, because I chit chat with everyone from the security, front desk, janitors, and employees.

By the time I get to my target I’m feeling confident, sociable, and might even have a couple of extra pieces of information or anecdotes to inject into the conversation thanks to my new friends downstairs. In general it’s a great idea to just be fun and sociable, and to enjoy life. Allow other people to experience the fun that you’re having in your own little world as well.

3. Feel Their Essence. I hate when people are overbearing and keep talking at me about things that are of no consequence to me. On the other hand I love talking to people, getting to know them, and hearing what they have to say. I take the fact that I hate overbearing types as a sign that other people like to do more talking then they like to listen; after all, the most interesting person you know is yourself.

I use this to my advantage by proactively listening to the people I’m with. I eliminate all distractions, and I listen for clues in their speech for what they really want to talk about. You could use this method to show up to a job interview, and to talk about everything else but the interview, and in this way gain favor from the interviewer as well as the job.

4. Passionate Curiosity. I’m infatuated with passion of all kinds. If I see a person that gets excited about something they have to say, I get automatically turned on to this conversation. I unobtrusively follow up with questions to find out more. Not only do I want to know what’s so interesting, but why it’s so interesting to them, and why they’re so motivated to disclose this information.

I’ve recently noticed myself utilizing this technique and in 20 minutes found out, step by step, how the man I was talking to created an insurance company that was making 40 million per year. The guy was absolutely fascinating to talk to, and I’ll definitely be calling the number he gave me for follow up conversations.

5. Speak Clearly. If you’re doing everything correctly, but you aren’t speaking clearly, you’re going to find that you’ve hit a bottleneck in your networking effectiveness. I know some brilliant, intelligent, and motivated people that have such amazing things to say that they say them all at the same time.

There’s no reason to rush, so relax, and speak clearly. Organize your thoughts, and say exactly what you mean, with as few words as you need to get your message across. It isn’t necessary to tell someone your life story to ask them where the bathroom is, so don’t get caught up in the non-essentials which may possibly turn people off to you and classify you as an excessive talker.

6. Track Your Target. I know this sounds a bit stalker-like, but I assure you it’s not. Whenever my friends ask me for dating advice, because they aren’t seeing anyone, I start off with one important piece of advice. I ask them to define exactly what kind of person they’re looking for, and what their non-negotiables are.

I then ask them to figure out what type of places this specific type of person would frequent. I’m talking about where would they shop, work out, read books, watch races, or whatever you’re person would be doing.

You then take this dating philosophy and apply it to networking. Where would the business professionals or customers that you want to network with be frequently found. Will they frequent a networking event, a business seminar, or eat at a certain place that is frequented by people in their field. Once you’re in a position to bump into someone, you’re much more capable of sealing the deal.

7. Find Other Networking Rockstars. This is called networking for lazy people. Actually, it’s more lke networking for smart people. Find someone that has already made leaps and bounds with their network in the specific niche that you’re trying to tackle. Ask them to introduce you to the other key players and work yourself out from this center.

I happened to have met some key figures in the finance industry in the New York City area. I happened to take interest in them as self-developed people, and really enjoy the conversations that we have. I personally have no use for them as a business contact, at least not at this time, because I’m nowhere near the finance industry. Enter my friends, many of whom are into finance, and I’m happy to introduce them to the right people and help their career along.

Then there is my rockstar personal trainer. The type of people in her network are world class athletes, iron men, and regular people in my area that are health & fitness enthusiasts. In this way I enjoy hanging out with her and her friends because they’re all really smart and take care of their bodies. I’m sure I’ll be learning a thing or two from them everytime we hang out.

8. Plug Yourself. Whenever you’re having a casual conversation with someone you meet, or catching up with an acquaintance, don’t be shy to throw in a sentence about what’s important to you at the moment. The worst case scenario is they’ll be bored by what you say. The likely scenario is that they’ll think it’s great, but it will end there. In certain cases they’ll remember something they heard, or a friend that might help, and they’ll help you to make the proper connection.

An example of this would be if I said that I’ve been really enjoying my writing sessions, and I would like to expand this area of my life from freelancing online to writing for print publications. I would be interested in writing about health, fitness, and any other area of self-improvement in a magazine or newspaper column. Now, if you happen to know someone in that industry, you should feel inclined to make the connection for us!

9. Be The Mirror. Every person exhibits their own unique energy at different times in the day. You might walk into an interview joyful and energized while the person at the other end of the table is in a more serious mood. You don’t want to go ahead and mess up your vibe, so the key is to tone yourself down and emulate them in the power of your speech, posture, and speed of your movements.

I find this to be a very useful technique. It creates an element of comfort and connection between you and the person you’re talking to. You’re basically appealing to their emotions, which relay to them that you’re on the same wave length as them, and that you’re just like them in general.

10. Be Accessible & Approachable. I’m pretty easy to get in touch with, especially when I want to be, and I’m rarely found without a business card to give away. This allows people to follow up with me, and opens the door for them to give me their personal contact information as well.

When you have an open mentality that screams “I LOVE PEOPLE,” you’ll notice more people coming up to you and being more open about what’s important to them. I try to look for what’s important to people, and to cater to that need if I can.

11. Live An Exciting Life. The way to live an exciting life is to do something that you’re completely passionate about. People will start recognizing you, and showing you respect, because you’re out there doing what you love and not letting life pass you by.

That respect comes from the fact that people recognize hard work, achievement, and like to take a moment to appreciate it. Once you have someones respect, you’re better able to leverage the relationship in order to create a mutually beneficially venture.

12. Be The Persistent Initiator. You never know when someone is too shy in order to make the first move. Sometimes their shyness can make someone appear cold, or unapproachable, which is just a safety mechanism so that they don’t have to risk getting rejected. This is another scenario that mimicks that of a dating situation.

At my internship I’m constantly pressing the director to “introduce me to some cool people.” This statement is somewhat unobtrusive, but it’s very clearly understood that I’d like to be introduced to the higher ups in the building for a networking opportunity. I guess asking every day makes me a pain in the butt, but I think persistence is key here!

13. Comfort in Speaking. You need to be able to feel just as comfortable in front of one person as you do in front of a small group of people. Often times life will put you as the center of attention, and you have to know how to casually pull it off, and not choke up, by saying the right thing at the right time.

I’ve spent a lot of time in social interactions such as night clubs, and dances, as well as professional settings, and small group events. I think it pays off to do some public speaking, because once you’re comfortable speaking in front of a small group of people that support you, you’ll be that much more effective in a 1 on 1 setting.

14. Serve Up Some Vanity. I already mentioned that the most interesting person to you is yourself. The same thing holds for the person to your left, and the person to your right. This is why you want to genuinely inquire about someone, and allow them the time and space to fully express themselves.

The other thing you want to do, although it might sound trivial, is to use the persons name often in conversation. For example, you could say “Oh Alex, that’s really funny,” or the one that never fails “Wow, Alex! You are so handsome!” — People like that!

15. The Power of Touch. This may not always be appropriate in formal situations, and you have to be careful that the person isn’t religiously against touching, but if you’re feeling comfortable you should go for it. If someone makes a funny remark, you can give them a light tap on their elbow or side of their shoulder.

This creates a bond and increases the comfort level between you and another person. We’re all here to connect with people and develop relationships, so what you’re doing is speeding up the process a bit.

The quote at the beginning of this article best captures the root of my networking approach. I do my best to pay attention to the person I’m speaking to. Without any gimmicks, or tricks, I simply look for what they need, what I can do for them, and what they’re all about.

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“I don’t believe in diets, I believe in a healthy lifestyle - I don’t believe in working out, I believe in training - I don’t believe in competition, I believe in challenging yourself.” ~Nora Mamadjanova

They say that each of us is a combination of the five people we spend most of our time with. I hope this is true, because I’ve been spending a lot of time with my trainer Nora, who, judging by the quote above, is definitely someone I would like to model.

This past Sunday she got me to come out and do a race with her at Van Cortlandt Park, Bronx, NY. This was a race organized by the popular New York Road Runners organization. My first official race, I was a bit intimidated by the 5K (3.11 mile run).

The race started out across a straight field, then onto gravel, and then it went up a hill, then another hill, and another hill… about 7 hills in a row. This was definitely different from what I’ve previously done on the treadmill and around the development where I live.

After the first 3 hills I became tired, and I saw a few people coming off to the side because they were winded. I started thinking about what Nora said to me, “don’t worry about anyone else, pace yourself, and the important thing is to just finish.” I wasn’t sure if by ‘finish’ she meant I had to run through the whole race, or if walking was permissible as long as I got past the finish line…

Since I forgot to clarify, I wasn’t about to let her down, and I sure as hell couldn’t let myself down. I started focusing on just two things - the next step - and - this will make for a cool blog article. I kept going, up the hill, and up the next hill… over and over again.

This past summer I did a lot of traveling, which (insert big fat excuse here) made it difficult to eat healthy and exercise on a consistent basis. The truth is, of course, I could have eaten healthy and exercised wherever I was in the world. Anyway, I got a bit out of shape, which you can see I’m remedying with the weekly weight loss reports. Basically, I ran about 7 times in preparation for this race, as well as attended spin class (reaction cycling) 2-3 times per week, for 6 weeks, which consists of biking roughly 13 miles per session.

Now I’m addicted to endorphins, which is the release of “happy” hormones into your blood stream during and after a long/strong bout of exercise. If everything goes as planned, I’ll be attending spin class 5 times this week, speed training with my running, and next Sunday I will run an 8K (5 miles) race in Central Park, NY. This is the famous Poland Spring race which is the kickoff the the New York City Marathon.

Nora’s Three Athlete-Principles

“I don’t believe in diets, I believe in a healthy lifestyle” ~Nora Mamadjanova

Instead of being the type of person that starves herself, or tries some kind of a fad diet in order to lose some quick weight, gaining it all back as soon as the diet ends, Nora recommends a healthy lifestyle through healthy eating and consistent exercise.

This is very much aligned with my “weight loss” plan, which has some guidelines I’ve set for myself that can be followed indefinitely for a healthy lifestyle. I’m also actively making exercise a very central and core part of my life. Especially after that 80 year old guy passed me in the race!

“I don’t believe in working out, I believe in training” ~Nora Mamadjanova

I think what she meant by this is that it’s pointless to go to the gym and mindlessly lift weights on isolated body parts. Not only are there more benefits to doing full body strength exercises (like Crossfit for example), but it also makes much more sense to train for races, such as Marathons, Triathlons, or Iron Man events.

From my viewpoint I couldn’t agree more with this. I’ve never been more motivated to move my body and make gains in my exercises than right now. I have a training plan for the week that involves spin, running specific times and speeds, as well as strength training, and that’s because I know I want to kick butt this coming Sunday at the Poland Spring race.

“I don’t believe in competition, I believe in challenging yourself” ~Nora Mamadjanova

Look at any super star athlete that is the best in their field. I think they’ll unanimously tell you the same exact thing, “I don’t look at what the guy next to me is doing, I’m here to set a new best for myself.” I think Nora lives this for sure, because before the race she told me she doesn’t care about winning, she just wants to do it for fun and to add on miles before she runs the New York City Marathon in a couple of weeks, yet she still ended up taking home second place medal.

I can totally relate to this. Even though I didn’t win, I did run next to people and tried to pace myself with them without any luck. Once I started blocking them out, and running at my own pace, I stopped caring about if something hurts, or if I have lead in my feet, and just concentrated on forward motion.

I think I can relate to this on an even bigger level. People have been asking me every day why I want to lose weight, because “I look great at my current weight,” and if I listened to all of them I might as well just give up and eat McDonald’s all day.

The time for my first official race was just under 31 minutes for a 5K, which is respectful for a first race, but on the slow side. I think it’s great because I ran by myself earlier this week and clocked in at about 40 minutes, and without nearly as many hills. Regardless, this gives me a good base to start from, and I’ll be able to improve my time as I move forward with my new love for running.

My question to the readers is, what would you dare to dream if you knew you could not fail?

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