The sound quality isn’t the best, but it’s doable – I’m putting myself on the line for constructive criticism of my public speaking skills. That means don’t criticize my jet-black matrix looking outfit (I will only interpret it as jealousy, hehe), just let me know what you think about the delivery.

As you know I’m always into improving my skills, and I really want to become a master storyteller. I don’t expect it to happen overnight, but I do like to take advantages of opportunities like this where I spoke in front of about 120 people.

Some things you might want to comment on are: my movements and gestures, my tone and pitch, the feelings you got about the content, how persuasive did I come off, what turned you off about the speech, etc.

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If you’ve been away from someone you care about or love for at least two hours, the first 90-seconds that you see them has more impact on the relationship than spending hours with them later.

Pavlov’s Dogs

Damnit, he got me! It makes perfect sense (and resonates with me) if you look at it from a psychological perspective. Remember hearing about Pavlov and his salivating dogs? I studied psychology all throughout university, so I heard this story one too many times. Dr. Ivan Pavlov won the 1904 Nobel Prize in Physiology and Medicine for this experiment.

We all know that dogs naturally salivate when you bring them food, if you don’t know, just try it. Ivan Pavlov inserted a special device that measured how much saliva a dog produced when food was brought to it. This was the control of the experiment.

Next, Dr. Pavlov added another factor. He synchronized a bell *dong*, with bringing the dog food. Surely the saliva level was the same. He continued to condition the dog repeatedly for some time by always giving the food and the *dong* together.

After doing this conditioning for enough time, Dr. Pavlov was able to force the dog to salivate by merely ringing the bell. Measuring the levels of saliva, they were significantly like the control, when the dog used to salivate over food. Pretty wild stuff right?

The scary part is that this could easily happen to us. And it does. Sometimes in a good way, sometimes in a bad way, and the worst part is that we don’t always have the self-awareness to know that it’s happening to us. Not just wish salivating, but with EVERYTHING.

We’re Like Dogs Too

We’re like dogs too, in the sense that we can be conditioned for just about anything. Imagine everyday at school, in first period, the teacher walks in, yells at you, and smacks you in the back of the head with a ruler. What will your opinion be of this teacher? More interestingly, what will happen to your blood pressure and anxiety level as soon as she first walks through the door. This is not a good type of reinforcement.

Imagine at the start of your work day, your boss comes up to you and gives you a hearty greeting. Your boss praises you, and tells you not to hesitate to approach her, because it’s your bosses job to serve you, and you’re all working towards a mutual mission. Pretty good reinforcement eh?

90 Second Rule

What’s up with the whole “first 90 seconds” thing, what’s the significance in that? This is my take on it: At “first” our brain experiences a sense of novelty (a new experience), at which point we’re much more mentally stimulated, excited, and aware. After this, our brain gets used to the other person being there, and they’ve already had an opportunity to set an impression on us and set the tone to go in a certain direction.

The other reason is that when someone is gone, you miss them, and this is the opportunity to enjoy being reunited. When someone’s been by your side for 10 hours, you’re not really “missing them,” are you?

The 90 Second Rule video, created by Jim Fannin, is really simple, that’s what I like about it. Sure it stereotypes men as the bread winner, but surely we can look past that, in order to see a perfect illustration of the 90 second rule principles. Enjoy.

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Dear readers, which relationships in your life do you think would most benefit from using the 90 second rule?

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I’d also like to welcome the regular Mizfit readers that are going to be coming over here today. I’ve humbly watched Carla’s blog, and have seen first hand that you are some of the greatest bunch of people on the blogosphere. Feel free to look around, comment, and stop by anytime – mi casa su casa.

On with the show!

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You can expect a couple of more excellent posts about resolutions over the next few days – stay tuned – and enjoy the video!

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By testing, experimenting, and learning from the best in the biz, I’ve picked up a trick or two. I’m not much for keeping secrets, and I totally believe in abundance, meaning there’s enough to go around for all of us — this is why I’m going to teach you what I know — for the low low, unbeatable price of FREE.

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“If you go to work on your goals, your goals will go to work on you. If you go to work on your plan, your plan will go to work on you. Whatever good things we build end up building us.”
~Jim Rohn

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While I’m gone I have prepared a bunch of guest posts (and when I say I prepared THANK YOU guys for sending them in). There is also a new series that will be launching early next week, so stay tuned for that.

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This video is a quick look at one thing I got out of the Landmark Advanced Course which I took this weekend. That one thing is me discovering my act. An act, in the distinctions of the Landmark Education, is who we are being in the face of failure. Not our personal failure, but what perceive as a failure on someone else’s part.

The act that I have discovered myself to have is ‘you aren’t going to pull one over one me’. This means you aren’t going to take advantage of me, con me, or get away with anything. It’s not a rational reaction, but one that I have been traveling with since I was a child. I can’t even think of the first situation where it occurred but it was surely something silly.

I have seen my act in action with family, friends, people I love, as well as people I have just recently met. A good example of how the act works for me is if people are late. I have a pet peeve with being on time, so if someone is late I find myself frustrated, pissed off, or annoyed.

The impact of me being frustrated, pissed off, or annoyed is simple – I’m not happy. Remember how we defined happiness after completing the happiness project?

“Happiness is being the creator of your experience, choosing to take pleasure in what you have, right now, regardless of the circumstances, while being the best you that you can be.”
~Alex Shalman

The choosing to take pleasure in what you have part is not happening when I am choosing to be annoyed. They are in direct conflict with each other. More specifically me being my act is directly conflicting with happiness. My act is just that, an act, and it isn’t who I really am. I am committed to being really awesome with people, so I am glad I have made this distinction and have got a way to blast it.

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Since this is my first video, I would appreciate some constructive criticism, so let me know in the comments below. (oh and I know the video shows a really funny face on the cover, but it picked in randomly from the middle, and well… it’s funny!)

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